102 SAVED IDEAS
We spend almost 25 percent of our adult life in our jobs, which most of us hate. So we basically wake up every morning and do something which we don’t even like to do.
We need to find a career that does not make us miserable all the time, and according to the Japanese concept of IKIGAI, it is the intersection of three things:
What we are passionate about is often superficial, but what we value, we can do no matter how difficult the circumstances, because we derive meaning and value from it. It is different from a compulsion or an addiction.
We need to ask three questions to direct our energy:
To find a perfect career, we need to be good at what we do. It may be a technical skill like writing or coding, or something different, like designing homes, or cooking.
Intangible soft skills, ignored for decades, have now become important. These include emotional intelligence, empathy or making boring topics sound interesting.
Observation is as important now as it was a thousand years ago. However, we have to do it more quickly and efficiently because we may run into fifty strangers in a day where our ancestors saw only a few.
We often see people distracted while driving (applying makeup, making phone calls, texting) and getting into traffic accidents. When we fail to observe, it leads to avoidable circumstances. It can increase the chances of being victimized. Someone may say, "I had a feeling, in the beginning, that something wasn't right."
Observation is about seeing the world around you, having situational awareness, and interpreting what others communicate verbally and nonverbally.
Good observation skills allow us to test and validate what others intend for us. Are they kind, unselfish, empathetic? Or selfish, cruel, indifferent, and apathetic? If we discover it early enough, we can spare ourselves.
Being observant does not mean being obnoxious or intrusive. It is done with subtlety and purpose. We assess for two things primarily:
Attention is the most fundamental human resource to our lives, relationships, and quality of work, yet none of us are connecting like we once did.
The intense focus that we once had seems to have gone, and with it, the satisfaction that comes from deep thinking. We need to get back on track by learning how to redirect our attention.
How we manage our attention drives how we manage ourselves. How we manage our collective attention drives collective performance.
At work, as the number of inputs and distractions increase, controlling our attention becomes an essential skill to master. When we focus our attention on a project or campaign, the chances are that focused attention will lead to our most exciting moments in life.
Strong relationships are formed by the exchange of attention. If you have even been on a video call with someone that seems clearly distracted, how does it make you feel? When the family is engaged with their individual phones while eating dinner, how connected does the family seem?
Attention is a way to deepen a connection. When we understand the function of attention, we can be more conscious of how we use it.
We frequently give too little thought to how best to manage distractions.
Multitasking makes us better at being distracted and weakens self-control.
Yet, many people are waking up to the essential importance of attention and prepare effective responses to improve the quality of attention.
A dream job is a goal that many want to attain, and is part of our pursuit of happiness. Happiness, in this case, is not the pleasure-seeking kind, but that which comes from meaning, purpose and good relations.
One has to understand, identify and implement the strategies that boost our happiness while working, thereby increasing our productivity and job satisfaction.
Creative work fits the definition of a ‘dream job’ to the hilt, as many people dream of doing stuff they love, like making great paintings, sculpting, writing scripts, and then getting paid for it too.
The problem is that society does not educate or finding purpose and meaning using our creative energy, and one has to find it on their own.
The early struggle is crucial to shape us and help us identify what makes us happy.
The problem is that everyone’s happiness is defined by them only, and one has to go through the rite of passage to reach their level of happiness and freedom.
Habit stacking means adding new habits onto existing ones - to the things you already automatically do every day.
After waking up in the morning, you might put on a cup of coffee. When you visit the bathroom, you wash your hands. And before you go to bed, you brush your teeth. Throughout the day, we have lots of such behaviours that we perform automatically, and we can take advantage of them to establish new habits.