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The Science of Social Media

Studying social media and its effects on people is extremely difficult to achieve because social media companies don't really share data with researchers. However, what we can tell you is that the science behind social media is broken and we should be open to the possibility of its effects may they be positive or negative.

For all, we know it could be just like the time studies proved that violent video games don't really cause real-world aggression.

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Face-to-face bullying is a bigger issue for young people than cyber bullying but the latter is an issue that sucks the air out of the room when brought up.

We don't really get a full picture of what's happening on social media if we choose to decide to study cyberbullying in 2021 because of the walls placed by social media companies for their data.

It's dangerous to intervene with social media regulation policies both as policymakers and parents if you don't have the evidence to support your claims.

Even though your intervention is done out of goodwill, you might end up taking away someone's lifeline or their human right to play.

As parents, you have the decision to either keep your child in the dark and leave them ill-equipped to deal with issues or help them learn about the pros and cons of having a social media account and have open arms to help and support them if they ever encounter an issue.

It's the same with riding a bike, you can end up hurt in the process but you can also learn to ride it properly. As parents, we need to keep the lines of communication open so that your child will be able to come to you.

Shunryu Suzuki
"Without accepting the fact that everything changes, we cannot find perfect composure. But unfortunately, although it is true, it is difficult for us to accept it. Because we cannot accept the truth of transience, we suffer."

Change can be a difficult thing. Most people want to change their lives, in some way, but find it difficult to either get started or to sustain the change for very long.

It can be incredibly difficult, or it can be wonderfully joyous.

  • Beating inertia (resistance to change): Pick the middle ground between no change and drastic change.
  • Beating the resistance of others: Ask for their help and get them on your side, or negotiate a way for you to make change without disrupting their lives too much.
  • Finding the joy and keeping it alive: Doing something you hate is possible, for a little while, but you’ll never sustain it.
  • Celebrating the little victories: Every step along the path is a victory.
  • Making it a part of your life: To integrate change into your life, it must become a part of your daily routine.

And if you already know it will happen, then there’s no pressure to avoid it.

Fail, fail often, and learn. Then you’ll be better equipped for the next attempt.

Absurdism

Absurdist art exhibits an inverted perspective of reality where juxtaposing elements should not exist in the same realm.

However, this genre is not for everyone. Every single one of us have our own opinions regarding absurdist art. It's like how some people appreciate classical and orchestral but some don't find the appeal in it.

Absurdism allows the mind to consume unexplainable things. The kinds of things that we seek to experience can be found in a "sweet spot" between possessing recognizable patterns and inconsistency.

This desire is rooted from the evolutionary need where we need to find knowledge and learn things about the world.

HELEN KELLER
"Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence".
MARTIN LUTHER KING JR.
"We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope".
CHARLES HADDON SPURGEON
"Hope itself is like a star — not to be seen in the sunshine of prosperity, and only to be discovered in the night of adversity".
TOM BODETT
"They say a person needs just three things to be truly happy in this world: someone to love, something to do, and something to hope for".
THEODORE ROOSEVELT
"When you’re at the end of your rope, tie a knot and hold on".
WILL SMITH
"I wake up every morning believing today is going to be better than yesterday".
ROBERT H. SCHULLER
"Let your hopes, not your hurts, shape your future".
ALFRED TENNYSON
"Hope smiles from the threshold of the year to come, whispering ‘it will be happier’…"
ALBERT EINSTEIN
"Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important things is not to stop questioning".
BARACK OBAMA
"The best way to not feel hopeless is to get up and do something. Don’t wait for good things to happen to you. If you go out and make some good things happen, you will fill the world with hope, you will fill yourself with hope".
ARTHUR MILLER
"I think it’s a mistake to ever look for hope outside of one’s self".
MARIAH CAREY
"When you feel like hope is gone, look inside you and be strong and you’ll finally see the truth- that hero lies in you".
WINSTON CHURCHILL
"All the great things are simple, and many can be expressed in a single word: freedom, justice, honor, duty, mercy, hope".
VICTOR HUGO
"In joined hands there is still some token of hope, in the clinched fist none".
ARISTOTLE
"Hope is a waking dream".
JONAS SALK
"Hope lies in dreams, in imagination, and in the courage of those who dare to make dreams into reality."
THICH NHAT HANH
"Hope is important because it can make the present moment less difficult to bear. If we believe that tomorrow will be better, we can bear a hardship today."
WOODROW WILSON
"You are not here merely to make a living, you are here in order to enable the world to live more amply, with greater vision, with a finer spirit of hope and achievement. You are here to enrich the world, and you impoverish yourself if you forget the errand."
FYODOR DOSTOYEVSKY
"To live without hope is to cease to live".
Bad behaviors cascade

That reticence to ever ask someone out on a date probably plays out in your failure to move to a new city, to take that new job or the timidity around your co-workers.

Standing out of the crowd

People don’t like it when someone changes or does something that makes them feel awkward or insecure. They will think he’s crazy, selfish, arrogant. If you want to do something incredible, you have to become comfortable with being different from the rest.

Nothing worth having comes easy

As cliche as that sounds. Most of us give up on something we’re passionate about too soon. But anyone who’s been successful has a tale of struggle and perseverance to share.

Humility

It means knowing what you don’t know. 

Many people accomplish a little bit and decide that they are experts. But successful people often downplay their successes (or usually never even mention them) - they regularly point out their weaknesses and how they need to learn more.

Success and strong relationships

Success means building strong relationships. Creating a wealth of social and romantic relationships hinges on the ability to meet people and connect with them in a meaningful manner. And living without regular social contact is as unhealthy as smoking cigarettes.

Don't argue against feedback

The feedback loop goes like this: try something -> get feedback and results -> learn from feedback and results -> try something new.

People who are dead set on arguing why what they already believed is right (despite not working) are effectively breaking the chain off and not accepting feedback. Therefore they will never change.

Distractions and social media

Distractions are not limited to social media. Sports and politics are in this category too, when they come in the form of sensationalized infotainment meant to keep you clicking rather than informing and influencing your life.

Take responsibility

... for what happens to you. It’s tempting to blame your problems on some external factor, but to fix your problems you must have power over them. You can’t have power over aspects of your life unless you take responsibility for them. 

You are capable to handle stuff

Trust the process. This isn’t some sort of manifestation/affirmation mantra. The mind’s unconscious beliefs about possibilities inform the level of effort and expectation of success from the body’s behavior. So, a little delusion of grandeur goes a long way. 

Indifference as a defense mechanism

Some people are terrified to invest themselves into something because it could potentially lead to failure and failure could potentially lead to a lot of thoughts their psyche is not yet prepared to face: questions about self-worth, competence, being worthy of love, etc.

Success and self-worth

Something inside us makes us feel uncomfortable with the idea of accomplishing too many great things as a result. Deep down, you don’t think you deserve what you want. The heights and burdens of success make some feel like a king and others like a fraud.

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