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Many people struggle to find the time to take care of their mental and physical health. It is especially difficult for students and young professionals that find the need to prioritise their learning and work overwhelming. At the end of the day, they have little remaining energy and motivation to focus on themselves.
But, ironically, taking the time for nurturing our mind, body and spirits can help us be more effective.
Many people work with a trade-off mentality - in order to add one thing, we need to take time away somewhere else. There are indeed limits to our time, but this mindset stops us from making positive changes.
The solution to self-care is not to have a better routine. It is to change how we think. We have to reframe how we view the interconnections between the different parts of our lives.
We all have assumptions about what self-care should look like. But only you really know what your mind, body, and spirit need to excel. Maybe it's unwinding in front of the television. Perhaps it's finding a therapist to support you.
To help you understand what self-care looks like to you, start by noticing what makes you feel energised and what makes you feel drained.
Pay attention to how you think regarding making time for yourself. Many people believe they have to overhaul their lifestyle overnight, so they avoid making any changes.
Notice when your mind leans toward the all-or-nothing mentality. Then start to explore small, doable changes. Learn what works for you and what doesn't.
The most sustainable self-care solutions come from combining different parts of our lives.
For example, self-care time could enrich your career (a meeting while walking), support your town (tidying up the neighbourhood), or grow your relationships (streaming yoga videos with a friend or family member.)
The world around seems eager to dissapoint and overwhelm us with tragedies, horrifying news, and other things to fear. It has conditioned us to be afraid of being hopeful, as we shield ourselves by our pessimistic attitude in order to avoid being dissappointed all the time.
We have stopped dreaming, creating a defence mechanism of low expectations. The problem is if we don’t dream of things being good, we manifests a miserable life just by our unwillingness to think good things.
When we dream, we are giving ourselves wings, and also giving others permission to do the same. We tell ourselves and others that we don’t have to be small, and can dream boldly, and without fear.
We have to be audacious in our dreams, providing the information to the universe to push the required levers.
Sigmund Freud was the founder of the psychoanalytic theory. His work had a profound influence on psychology, sociology, anthropology, literature, and even art.
When Freud formed his personality development theory, he relied heavily upon the observations and case studies of his patients.
Freud believed that behaviour and personality came from the interaction of conflicting psychological forces that works at three levels of awareness:
The conscious and unconscious minds can be understood by what is known as a slip of the tongue.
Misstatements are believed to reveal underlying, unconscious thoughts or feelings. For example, a man who accidentally uses a former girlfriend's name when referring to a current girlfriend.
According to Freud, thoughts and emotions outside of our awareness continue to influence our behaviour, even if we are unaware of it. The unconscious can include repressed feelings, hidden memories, habits, thoughts, desires, and reactions.
Freud used dream analysis and free association techniques to attempt to identify the roots of psychological distress.
Preconscious memories are unrepressed memories that we extract for a specific purpose.
The preconscious mind contains all the things that you could potentially pull into conscious awareness. The preconscious is also controlling the information that is allowed to enter into conscious awareness.
We get stuck in our emotions due to our spiralling mind, our fixation with old ideas and behaviours, our need to be always right, perfectionism and thinking in absolute terms.
When faced with strong reactive emotion, we are usually unable to understand that our emotions are dynamic and start acting like wind-up toys doing the same motions, not being aware of other possibilities and options.
These are the three usual suspects, stuff we do to cope-up with our emotions:
We tend to forget that, for the most part, life is actually quite pleasant, though these emotions could be simply less salient than unpleasant emotions. Emotionally negative feelings are more difficult to control than positive feelings, which may also be why they are more perceptible.