101 STASHED IDEAS
To be hypervigilant is to have a perpetual vigilance or alertness about what can happen with us or around us. The hypervigilant person is never at peace, never calm, and always obsessed about something or the other.
A lack of emotional stability while growing up, or being a victim/witness of domestic violence, or other environmental factors like being in a war zone, can develop into hypervigilance.
People are often good but their circumstances can change how they come out.
Get clear on the “true facts”: what you know for sure. Then assume that the other person has good intent, and imagine the circumstances that could be causing his or her behavior.
Having an existing solution in mind makes it harder for us to see a radically different but better way to solve our problem.
So if what we want is new thinking, we need to help our brains get out of a rut, to stimulate lots of new connections.
"In all the empirical studies on psychological well-being, one thing emerges as a reliable foundation for happiness: the quality of our relationships."
Use one or more of these three techniques next time you want to provide input or challenge someone’s ideas:
There are two types of goals:
Approach goals are better than avoidance goals as they encourage higher performance.
The brain’s deliberate system likes to take shortcuts. Take note of when that is happening.
Signs of your brain taking shortcuts are statements like “It’s obviously right [or obviously wrong].” “I recently heard XYZ…therefore…” “Everyone agrees.” “I understand it—so I like it!” “Let’s just stick with what we know.” “There’s only one real option.”
If you disagree on something:
Getting a message through to other people can be hard because other people’s automatic system gets in the way.
Provide a reward or a dose of intrigue as you communicate. The human brain craves new things.
Experiment with different mediums for your information. Use visuals, charts, and everything else that you can think of to stimulate the mind. Present your information from a different vantage point.
You’re constantly moving along a discover-defend axis in your daily life, as your brain scans for threats to defend against and rewards to seek out and discover.
Your brain’s deliberate system needs regular breaks to keep it fully functional. When tired, we are more likely to make poorer decisions.
Allow your brain a chance to step back and consolidate the experience. Plan for breaks between “zones” in your day. Refresh your mind after every ninety minutes.
"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate."
For a complete and happy day, you need to focus on your energy and reboot it when needed.
Know thyself by identifying where the typical energy highs and lows occur. Plan for the triggers and events around the highs and lows.
We can tweak our perceptions by being more deliberate in our perceptual filters.
We can do this by looking at things from three angles:
Poetry has a reputation for needing special training to appreciate it. In the classroom, poems were often taught as if they were riddles. We were taught that poetry is inherently "difficult" and that it makes meaning by hiding meaning.
Real progress begins when we get literal with the words in the poem. Pick a word that you find interesting in the poem, and start to investigate that word.
Younger poets tend to try and demonstrate their ability by being deliberately obscure, but they unlearn this habit in time.
Good poets do not complicate their poetry. They make poetry feel the words mean what they usually do in everyday life and then move the words into a more activated realm. The placement of the word in the poem can make language come alive and shine forth.
In the old TV show Happy Days, the main protagonist literary jumps the shark and goes into history as a metaphor for driving oneself towards irrelevance.
Many great companies which used to be cool, have now lost the plot, lost their magic, by resting on their laurels and due to a lack of constant innovation.