102 SAVED IDEAS
Behavioral psychologist Dr. Carolyn Mair states that clothing is so close to us that it becomes part of our identity.
The clothes we wear shows how we want to be perceived, but how we are seen depends on the viewer.
When we meet someone new, it takes under a second for us to construct our first impression based on how they look.
If we like the way someone looks, we may think of them as successful, pleasant, and intelligent without knowing anything more about them. From there, we tend to look for traits that will confirm our initial judgment of them.
Sending messages on social media that equate objects like clothes with mental health can be harmful when people are dealing with deeper mental health issues. Clothing can help us feel empowered and authentic, but it can't give us mental wellness.
In the fashion industry, people that don't fit the thin, young, white, eurocentric image are marginalized with less opportunity to communicate identity and feel empowered. This can harm people's self-esteem when measured against the norms of society.
You may be surprised how your view of yourself can change.
Our lives are uncertain and impermanent, and paradoxically, this can lead us towards living authentically, as we realize that death is unavoidable, values are subjective, and life by itself is flux.
The Self-Perception Theory reveals that people manipulate their own information so that the audience is impressed. People portray authenticity and manipulate their behaviours to appear real when it is necessary.
A good life doesn’t mean a lack of problems, but having a diverse range of enriching experiences of all kinds. We realize that a complete, fulfilling life is a process, not an outcome.
When we fully develop our potential and live authentically, we experience meaning in life and personal growth with whatever is thrown at us. We are sincere, grateful, mindful and expressive. We engage in positive activities like volunteering, donating time or money, or helping society in other meaningful ways.
Authenticity is achieved when we are outside what we are inside. Putting on an inauthentic self (faking authenticity) is tiring and also damaging to our mental health.
We should be aware of our body, listen to the voice inside, amplifying the hopes, dreams and fears. We have to know ourselves, face our truth and then own ourselves. Being yourself means being honest, sincere and genuine, the pathway to authenticity.
If you are answering these questions as Yes, you are living an authentic life.
Authentic people are vulnerable and constantly enter a state of mutual vulnerability with others, taking it as a source of strength instead of a weakness.
Vulnerability is the wellspring from which love, belonging, joy, empathy and creativity erupt. When business leaders show humility and vulnerability, their team feels a stronger, authentic connection with them.
A human being’s natural inclination is always authenticity, as seen in every child, who is authentic by default and loves everyone unconditionally. The fault lies in how some kids are raised and how their self-identity and ego starts to develop 18 months after they are born.
A developing child of an authentic parent is free to choose their path, with no impositions. But even then, the love they learn is often conditional, as it is almost always related to good performance, or securing good marks, which can pave the way to inauthentic living as an adult.
As parents, our children should get unconditional love from us, instead of being tied to excelling in school or sports.
If we wish our child to be authentic, we have to stop putting conditions on our love towards them.
Happiness is often misunderstood as the presence of positive emotions and the absence of negative ones.
Happiness is more than developing positive emotions. It also includes two other parts.
Employers need to ensure workers can do engaging, meaningful and purpose-driven work to help achieve effectiveness and productivity.
People bring three dimensions to the job market: Physical, cognitive and emotional. Machines can take over both the physical and cognitive dimension. It is only in the emotional domain where humans still reign.
With increasingly more automated jobs, humans can still add value around creativity, relationships and self-fulfilment.
EI consists of four domains: self-awareness, social-awareness, self-management, and relationship-management.
Two daily exercises can help create foundational habits for EI.
Meditation and developing SMART (Specific, Measurable, Ambitious, Relevant and Timely) goals, a mission statement and a personal vision statement can also help to strengthen your EI.
Aristotle argued that we become what we habitually do. If we spend our days thinking of everything that has gone poorly and how dark our future appears, we can think ourselves into misery.
While we should pay attention to the many injustices to be righted, we can also make the world a better place by being aware of the good things it already affords. We can change ourselves into the kind of people who seek out and celebrate things we can be thankful for.
One way to cultivate a disposition of gratitude is to give thanks regularly - at the beginning of the day, at meals, and at the end of the day.
Holidays, weeks, seasons, and years can be punctuated with thanks - grateful prayer, writing thank-you notes, and keeping a gratitude journal.
When psychology developed as a science that was separate from biology and philosophy, they did not know how to describe the human mind and behaviour.
Different schools of psychology emerged that represent major theories within psychology. At first, psychologists identified with only one school of thought, but today, most psychologists draw on ideas and theories from various schools.
Psychoanalysis emphasises the influence of the unconscious mind on behaviour.
Sigmund Freud found this school of thought. He believed that the mind was composed of three elements that interacted to create complex human behaviours:
Major thinkers include Anna Freud, Carl Jung, and Erik Erickson.