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Listening to a great soundtrack that pumps your inner fuel (Born To Run by Bruce Springsteen, or Lose Yourself by Eminem, for instance) is a sure-fire way to spark your imagination and sustain your goal-oriented behaviour.
Cultivating an underdog mindset is useful as it takes the pressure off and makes us reimagine ourselves as someone who is starting from zero and has nothing to lose, making our small victories seem epic.
Imagining yourself as an underdog out to prove the naysayers wrong is a great motivator. The key to sustaining your motivation is to use your imagination and reframe the mundane, uninspiring activities or situations into something that gives you a sense of purpose.
The daily struggles can be turned into epic adventures using your imagination, and the brain can be tricked to make the body perform better.
What we know from neuroscience and psychology, the true self doesn't exist. There is no evidence for a separate morally good true self deep within a person.
But the ides of a morally good true self still plays an important role, such as how we understand others' behaviour, assess our own lives and how we think it influences our behaviour.
One reason is that it's beneficial for well-being and helps us to cooperate with and trust others.
Another reason is that we tend to reflect on our positive traits. When describing the essence of something, we tend to say the essence of these things is good. When we describe the essence of a table, we describe the traits of a good table, not of a broken table.
One of the most common messages in college commencement speeches is, "Be true to yourself." Morals traits are continually shown to be the deep-down part of a person that makes them unique.
A study revealed that when people make positive changes in their lives, they are viewed as showing what was always deep inside them. When they partake in negative behaviours, they are viewed as moving away from their true selves.
When people are asked which actions are in alignment with their true self and which not, they consistently say their true self consists of the parts that are morally good.
A belief in the morally good self is a powerful idea that can help a person to keep trying. But it can also fuel an existential crisis if your life doesn't match up to your "true self."
The idea of a true self deep down can mean there is a real you to be found - that there are happiness and fulfilment in doing it. However, it's good to be aware of the bias of a morally true self.
Most people believe deep down that they have a true self that is morally good.
In an experiment, people were asked that if they could enter another body, which traits would most likely come with them. They consistently mentioned that they would retain traits related to their morality.
People that believe that they have a morally good true self care about morality as core to their identity. If they then behave immorally, it threatens the sense of their identity.
People might respond to the threat by denying that they're acting immorally or get defensive. Others might do a good deed to reestablish their goodness.
"You think the dead we loved ever truly leave us? You think that we don’t recall them more clearly than ever in times of great trouble?"
“Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love.”
"I'll just go down and have some pudding and wait for it all to turn up ... It always does in the end."
"If you want to know what a man’s like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals."
"It takes a great deal of bravery to stand up to our enemies, but just as much to stand up to our friends."
"I am what I am, an' I'm not ashamed. 'Never be ashamed,' my ol' dad used ter say, 'there's some who'll hold it against you, but they're not worth botherin' with.'"
“It was, he thought, the difference between being dragged into the arena to face a battle to the death and walking into the arena with your head held high. Some people, perhaps, would say that there was little to choose between the two ways, but Dumbledore knew — and so do I, thought Harry, with a rush of fierce pride, and so did my parents — that there was all the difference in the world.”
"Have you any idea how much tyrants fear the people they oppress? All of them realize that, one day, amongst their many victims, there is sure to be one who rises against them and strikes back!"
Instead of trying to apply willpower when all the stages (situational, attentional, appraisal and response) have already taken place, one can strategize at the start of the stage and ensure that those do not happen at all.
For instance, the situational stage where we are faced with the temptation right in front of us could itself be avoided if we actively pursue not being in that situation. Example: Not buying the box of cookies, not placing it at home, and not going to the supermarket where one can easily find and buy it.
Self-control is basically restraining yourself from doing something that may feel good in the short run, but may not be in your best interests in the long run. This includes not gorging on cookies if you are trying to manage your weight, or even sticking to your exercise plan.
As almost all of us have experienced in our lives, self-control failure is common, as the urge for instant gratification, laziness or lack of willpower makes it hard to practice it consistently.
Self-control is a kind of mind muscle that if used continuously, tires out just like the physical counterpart.
Difficult days that rob our energy also sap us out of our willpower, make us psychologically weak and unable to resist the temptation to give up on our plan. We are more likely to skip the evening gym session if we were occupied the whole day, mentally and physically exhausted.
"Do you want to know who you are? Don’t ask. Act! Action will delineate and define you."
"Don’t fear failure. Not failure, but low aim, is the crime. In great attempts, it is glorious even to fail."