61 STASHED IDEAS
Some people find eye contact difficult because they suffer from trauma. Some have attachment issues or are self-conscious. Others may be shy or inexperienced.
We intuitively understand the power of eye contact. It can say a thousand unspoken words. - from the stern look in your mother's face to the scrutinising gaze of the interviewer.
Highlights of what eye contact does:
Eye contact is something you can practice and get good at.
For us to be able to keep resentment from controlling us, we must be open to the idea of emotional forgiveness into our lives. When we welcome this idea, it helps us to get rid of any negative emotions so that we may create a new psychological reality.
It also aids us in having more flexible thoughts, we are then available to see things from a new perspective may they be in the form or people, relationships, or projects, moreover, we can then manage our anger properly.
A person who has experienced trauma is prone to feelings of resentment. This is not to say that they don't have the right to be angry, they do, but they don't process this anger and let go.
Resentful people hold on to the fiery experiences because they want to be able to throw the pain back to those who've hurt them. However, they would also hurt themselves in the process.
Resentful people tend to remain stuck in a state of anguish up to the point where it will continuously interfere with their daily life. Their mood changes, they are distrustful of other people and they also tend to mistreat others just because they feel entitled to do so.
Those who hold resentment in their hearts tend to keep repeating the event over and over again in their heads. The pain that they feel then turns into anger to hatred to wanting to get revenge.
Control is a way for us to build relationships; it usually begins without any malicious intent but eventually it becomes clear that it isn't a great foundation for a healthy relationship or connection.
Conventionally 3 things make control easier: money, talent, or physical attractiveness.
Whether you're the controller or the one being controlled, it is possible to move forward and make changes for the better.
People who consistently undermine or cause harm to a partner (whether intentionally or not) often have a reason for their behavior, even if it’s subconscious.
Maybe they were in a toxic relationship, either romantically or as a child. Maybe they didn’t have the most supportive, loving upbringing. They could have been bullied in school. They could be suffering from an undiagnosed mental health disorder.
The most serious warning signs include any form of violence, abuse or harassment, which should be dealt with immediately. But in many cases, the indicators of a toxic relationship are much more subtle: Persistent unhappiness, negative shifts in your mental health, personality or self-esteem, feeling like you can’t talk with or voice concerns to your significant other.
Is any relationship between people who don’t support each other, where there’s conflict and one seeks to undermine the other, where there is competition and there is disrespect.
A toxic relationship is consistently unpleasant and draining for the people in it, to the point that negative moments outweigh and outnumber the positive ones.
We normally interact and hang out with people whom we are comfortable with. They inhabit our 'Safe Harbor of the Known'.
Outside our comfort zone, there will be people who inspire, intrigue us, and annoy us. When you jump out of our comfort zone to be with people who challenge, push, and even irritate us, then we grow and reach our fullest potential.