35 STASHED IDEAS
You pop up now and again to your connections and acquaintances (old and new), without any obligation to follow up or see each other in person.
Just spending 10 minutes a day on loose touch can keep you connected with a lot of people you made contact with online or professional or elsewhere.
"I’ll share a story or two that I know are of interest to people I know, along with a short note: “This made me think of you. What’s your take? And how are you?"
If you do this when you’re not feeling needy, you will begin to see yourself as a giver, not a taker. It will help you get over your fear of feeling needy.
... is to put you into someone’s consciousness for a few minutes, and vice versa.
In cultivating loose-touch connections, know that your network won’t appear all at once; it takes steady, continuous work.
You stay in touch over time because you should always be looking out for your friends and former colleagues and neighbors. If you’re a good person, you are always ready to help them — and then it’s easy to receive or ask for help later.
... is someone who enjoys solitude and focuses more on internal thoughts and feelings.
Unlike extroverts, who gain energy from social interaction, introverts often expend energy in social situations. After being with a large group, people who are introverted often feel a need to recharge by spending time alone.
We really do well when we connect with others, even for brief periods. You don't need to change your nature in order to socialize more.
Instead of fighting your personality, work with it, and focus on the type and level of interactions you can do and enjoy.
All it means is that some people recharge when they are by themselves (introverts).
Talk with friends who can help if you think the idea is starting to gain traction.
Focus your execution efforts on the things you're skilled at and hire or outsource the other things.
Work with people who are good at what they do, so you can be good at what you do.
Quieter people tend to make themselves small, tight. You don't have to make yourself large, just centered.
You need to resonate your voice in your mouth, not your nasal passages or your throat.
To see what it feels like to have your voice resonate in your mouth, make an “mm” sound so that your lips begin to tingle. Then, say “me” and note what it sounds like. By moving your sound forward in your mouth, you will naturally develop more resonance.
You develop resonance through relaxation, not by force.
You may struggle with eye contact and need to learn how to focus your gaze to build leadership presence.
But controlling your gaze is not about going eyeball to eyeball. You have to try and make eye contact with each person, for at least five second.
Don’t just pace around the room—move with purpose.
Keep your gestures fluid if you want to highlight your message and build your leadership presence.
If you are continuously moving your hands in the same way, you are connecting your behaviors to your feelings, consciously or not. You want your gestures to be connected to your message, not your mood.
Introverts are usually much better at written rather than oral communication. If you’re that kind of an introvert, take advantage of it.
As an introvert, you can easily be good in self-advertising, only in a different kind of way; there’s no need for you to greet big crowds of people, all you have to do is open a word processor or an online publishing platform and start writing.
Ideas for making sure you’re a good team worker as an introvert:
If you recover your energy while alone or in quiet surroundings, you’re probably an introverted type of person.
You can experience the benefits of both types when you push yourself to overcome weaknesses of one type or the other at key moments in your life.
Introverts are supposed to dislike any sudden changes, as this puts puts introverts under a lot of stress.
If you’re prepared and have worked out alternative options, your stress level goes down fast.
No matter how resourceful you are, make sure you also build some security nets with outer resources (30 %).
Introverts flourish when working alone and it can be a big advantage if you’re an organized person. Distinguish between important and urgent tasks and make sure that there are no distractions when you’re working. By doing that, you can become incomparably more productive than other people.
For introverts, having a few close friends is enough and making new connections frequently doesn’t seem to make sense. That’s a very wrong approach to life.
Tricks that can help you make new connections.
As an introvert, you probably have an incredible capacity to analyze, prioritize ideas and connect ideas to an environment, thinking through what it would take to realize them.
Every day, try to write down at least 20 to 50 ideas to keep your creative muscle strong, because you can forget them more easily, since you usually brainstorm ideas without interacting with other people who could help you remember.
Introverts can build social position and personal brand on prestige. That includes genuinely taking care for others, sharing information and expertise, connecting people, sharing positive values etc. It’s a path every courageous introvert can take in order to leave their mark on this world.
Being a good listener is a very important skill and as an introvert, you can develop an outstanding ability to pay attention to what people are saying.
If you’re an introvert, you’re much more sensible to any stimuli from the environment. Therefore make sure that you turn off your phone and all other possible distractions from the environment when you’re talking to someone.
If you’re an ambitious introvert, you’ll find yourself in situations where being an extrovert is sometimes a must. But only for a short period of time. Afterwards, you can go simply back into introverted mode.
This can sometimes be necessary to show that you have the skills and can be assertive and achieve goals in life.
The desire to lead must be greater than the need to stay behind the curtains or behind the book.