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This means that you give yourself permission to stop resisting the way that things are.
For example, you can accept the fact that you're running late for a metting knowing that stressing out about it will not change anything.
Or you can accept that you're a human being who makes mustakes and not punish yourself for getting distracted.
Example: You may fell pressured to listen to podcasts any time you are driving or cooking as if listening to music instead would just be a waste of time.
You should listen to podcasts when you want to, not because you fell like you have to. Listening to music can be as productive as listening to podcasts.
REST AND FUN ARE PRODUCTIVE.
So, have fun. Don't always think about being productive, it will overwhelm you. Know that rest and fun are also productive .
Results and work are important, but also surface level fun is important as well. Sometimes it's difficult to know why achievement is important to us, so maybe at times we should just have fun.
Yes, sometimes need to sit down and get the work done but what is ife if not for random little magical moments?
Constructive criticism can be one of the best ways to grow out of that little bubble that you have for yourself.
Feedback is important.
How to Apply This Habit:
"If achievement is the definition measure of productivity, then what is the defining measure of achievement?
Why is achievement valuable?"
Mindset habits are:
You are on this road trip of life. You are the driver and fear is that loud baby in the back seat. it's going to bother you and it might get in your head
But you have to accept that your fear will be there with you during this ride. And even though you accept that the baby is going to be with you in this journey, you obviuosly do not let the baby drive.
You are the driver of your life, you can choose. You have to accept that you're always going to feel fear without letting it dictate your life.
You always have the power to choose your thoughts. When we're afraid, we focus on the negative thoughts, when in reality there are so many other positive thoughts that can support you.
Your fear is just one thought, is just one option. But there are other thoughts and other options out there for you to choose from.
Choose your thoughts like you're choosing what clothes to wear. If wearing something makes you feel ugly then don't wear that it, wear something that makes you feel confident.
You want to feel the fear and do it anyway.
When you're sitting there doing nothing, only thinking, you allow your thoughts and your fears to run how you feel about yourself.
When you are not taking action, you live more in your mind. It's all really an illusion in your mind.
When you're taking action, you're focused on the external world and it kind of takes your mind off things because you're focused on taking action.
Fear only exists to you in your mind and it is protecting you from the unknown.
As human being, it's going to be normal to feel fear. It's going to happen for the rest of your life, but you do now want to let your fear control you. That is the choice that you get to make.
"There's nothing to fear but fear itself"
Most of the time it's not the thing that you're afraid of. It's the actual fear that's holding you back.
You should be afraid of the fear, because the fear is going to hold you back more than a hypotetical situation really will.
Check the Fear setting exercise
If you feel like you need help talk to someone in your life that you trust.
If you don't have one, another option is to consider online therapy like 7cups or betterhelp.
Let your body and mind rest and recuperate.
When you are unwell, all you have to do is do nothing aka rest.
You don't have to do anything, just sit back and allow your body to balance and heal itself.
Find gratitude in every little thing. Open up your journal or a word doc and start writing a list of things that you are grateful for.
Once you start focusing on gratitude, more and more things pop up.
Allow yourself to feel whatever it is you're feeling right now.
If you want an instant refresh, go into nature. Being in nature heals you on a spiritual level. There you can revive your sense of peace.
Just as your body knows how to heal itself when you do nothing, your life will be guided forward and change will happen.
Change is always happening even if you're not trying to.
Be kind and gentle with yourself no matter what. Accept yourself exactly as you are right now, don't force anthing.
Wherever you are right now is okay.
This includes any content that makes you feel bad or that makes you compare yourself to others.
Sometimes also positive/ ispirational content can't help because it reminds you of what you are unable to do right now.
The power of changing the perspective.
We often feel low because we've been focusing on the wrong or difficult things.
When you focus on what is hard you feel like giving up because it's such a struggle. But when you focus on what is easy it makes it easier to get through the tough time.
So try to focus on what is easy.
After you've given yourself rest and you're ready to take some action, start small.
Break down your tasks into the smallest easiest chunks you can.
A small effort is still an effort.
Change is the only constant, this means that life never stays the same and is always going thorugh cycles or seasons.
"This too shall pass"
Whatever you're going through know that it will pass. Just stay patient and persevere through this season.
If you only knew day but never knew night you would take the sun for granted. It's because you know night that you can appreciate the day, same with your emotions ( Highs and lows)
We can often find our sense of purpose in the people around us.
If you're having trouble remembering your purpose, take a look at the people around you. Do they have a common goal that can have a positive impact on the world? Can you join with them in making that impact?
Reading connects us to people across time and space.
Feeling like we're part of something big makes us feel connected. But we also need to feel driven to make a positive impact in the world.
Those who are able to count their blessings are more likely to contribute to the world. People that express behaviors like volunteering or donating have a greater sense of purpose.
Many seem to think that purpose comes from your unique gifts and sets you apart from other people. That is only partly true.
Meaningful goals that foster a sense of purpose are ones that can potentially change the lives of other people. It is why a crisis of meaning is often a symptom of isolation.
Appreciation from others fuels our work. Although no research directly explores how being thanked might increase a sense of purpose, we do know that gratitude strengthens relationships, and they are often the source of our purpose.
Finding purpose is not just an intellectual pursuit, it is something we need to feel. That's why purpose can grow out of suffering.
Purpose can arise from curiosity about your own life. When we make a narrative out of our own lives, it gives us clarity on how to understand ourselves and provides a framework to help us make sense of our experiences.
71. Go the f*ck to sleep.
72. “Always say less than necessary.” — Robert Greene
73. Never take a phone call sitting down. Go outside and go for a walk.
74. Champion other people’s work.
75. Make commitments.
77. “Associate with people who are likely to improve you. Welcome those who you are capable of improving.” — Seneca
78. See the beauty in the mundane.
79. Print out good advice and put it right in front of your desk.
80. Remember: Nobody is thinking about you.
21. If you want to be good and feel good, you have to do good.
22. Deliberately think about death. Every day, multiple times a day.
23. “Trust the process.”
24. Do your job well, because how you do anything is how you do everything.
25. Always choose “Alive Time.”
26. What’s a book that changed your life? is a question you can ask to change your life.
27. Forget “quality time”; embrace garbage time.
28. Do the verb, rather than being the noun.
29. Take walks.
30. The present is enough.
1. Wake up early.
3. Forget about outcomes—focus on making a little progress every day.
4. Say no (a lot).
7. Comparison = unhappiness
9. Strenuous exercise every single day.
10. Character is fate.
31. Fuel the habit bonfire.
32. Have a philosophy.
33. Don’t just read—you must read to lead.
34. Collect little sayings about how to live (keep a commonplace book).
35. Stop looking for shortcuts. Do the work.
36. Build an Inner Citadel.
37. Let it go—those who wrong you wrong themselves.
38. Spend time with old people.
39. When evaluating an opportunity, ask yourself: What will teach me the most?
40. Purpose, not passion. (It is about something bigger than you.)
91. Think progress, not perfection.
92. “Ask yourself at every moment, ‘Is this necessary?’” — Marcus Aurelius
93. Lighten up. Relax. (Whatever it is, you’re probably taking it too seriously.)
94. Focus on what you can control.
95. Wrap up each day as if it were the end of your life.
96. Live an interesting life.
97. Value the Four Virtues.
99. Ego is the enemy.
100. Stillness is the key.
61. Never recline your seat on an airplane.
62. Belief in yourself is overrated. Generate evidence.
63. Never check the price on a book. Just buy it if you think you’ll read it.
64. Good things happen in bookstores.
65. See what you can learn from every person you meet—even people you don’t like.
66. Set a bedtime.
67. A successful marriage is worth more than a successful career.
68. “Go straight to the seat of intelligence.” — Marcus Aurelius
69. Human being, not human doing.
70. Amor fati.
51. Don’t wait until later, do the thing now.
52. No day without some deep work.
53. Put yourself up for review (Interrogate yourself).
54. Ask yourself: How does this action I’m about to take affect other people?
55. Don’t take the money (see “success = autonomy”).
56. Always stay a student.
57. Break things down to see what they really are.
58. “If you see fraud and do not say fraud, you are a fraud.” — Nassim Taleb
59. Undersell and overdeliver.
60. You must tame your temper.
41. Have kids.
42. Read biographies—the best way to study the lives of the greats.
43. Don’t try to beat other people, try to be the only one doing what you’re doing.
44. Know why you do what you do.
45. Be strict with yourself and forgiving of others.
47. Practice the art of negative visualization.
49. Before starting any project, have a “draw-down period.”
50. “If you’ve been blessed, be a blessing.”
81. Don’t just read books, re-read books.
82. Make haste, slowly.
83. Don’t talk about projects until you’re finished.
84. Go into the wilderness.
85. Try to see opportunities where others see obstacles.
86. Inner scorecard vs. outer scorecard.
87. Have unrelated hobbies.
88. You don’t solve problems by running away. Travel will not make you happy.
89. Seek out challenges.
90. “Whenever you are offended, understand that you are complicit in taking offense.” — Epictetus
11. Practice the law of action, not attraction.
12. Get up when you fall/fail.
13. Prove your philosophy more than you talk about it (and that’s not easy).
15. It’s not about routine but about practices.
16. Follow the canvas strategy.
17. Do a kindness each day.
18. Every situation has two handles—choose to grab the “smooth handle.”
20. Pick up trash when you see it.