“The sky is big enough for all the stars to shine”Ask how a win-win situation looks like for a person across the table.

Win win.

All of us can change. Choose a specific area you want to grow and make consistent effort to achieve your goal. "What’s not growing is as good as dead, so don’t die while you are still breathing”

Personal growth.

“If people just took it a day at a time, they’d be a lot happier.” ― Richard Bachman

A day at a time.

Dont get absorbed to thinking people watch and interested in your every every move. Just live your life to the fullest.

You are not important.

Choose your circle wisely; people who match your standards, people who add something in your life and not substract.

Find your tribe and stick to it.

“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” — Arthur AsheAnza tu!

Start with what you have.

Allow people to be who they are, have their own bodies, ideas etc, while you also habe yours. “It’s coexistence or no existence.” — Bertrand Russell

Coexist.

Organise your life putting everyone where they should be. This helps balance expectations and bring clarity on who has to do what in your life.

Compartmentalize your life.

Children are given to us by virtue of responsibility but not possession. Your children are their own people.

Your kids are not yours.

People will always value you with what you have tagged yourself, and so know your price and then add some.

They will pay what you price yourself.

“Our focus is our future and what we focus on will multiply in our life.” — David DeNotaris.

Your get what you focus on.

Of all the skills of leadership, listening is the most valuable — and one of the least understood. Most captains of industry listen only sometimes, and they remain ordinary leaders. But a few, the great ones, never stop listening. That’s how they get word before anyone else of unseen problems and opportunities.” — Peter Nulty,Fortune Magazine

A leaders power is on his ears.

“Time is more value than money. You can get more money, but you cannot get more time.” — Jim Rohn

Time matters.

They say “age is just a number” (such an annoying saying isn’t it?). As someone who minored in Mathematics both in High School and University, trust me when I tell you numbers do matter a lot. In any…

MyPublishedIdeas

Thirteen reflections from a Newly Thirty-year-old.

A philosophy of life means a mental framework for understanding how the world works and how you fit into it. It would include how you decide what is good and bad, what you mean with &quot;success&quot; and &quot;purpose,&quot; whether there is a God, etc.
You may feel that you could summarize your philosophy of life with labels such as Libertarian, Feminist, Liberal, Conservative, Buddhist, Christian, Entrepreneur, and others. But our actual philosophies of life are more complex and not so quickly contained.

Philosophy of life

Self Improvement

<ul>
<li>The True North Group: You have a compass for life and know which direction is the correct way. When asked about your philosophy of life, you could explain it immediately and concisely.</li>
<li>The Dusty Compass Group: You have a compass for directing your life, but you don&#39;t always know how to use it. You may have a loosely organized philosophy but may not use it to filter and direct your experience.</li>
<li>The Inbox Group: You may not have a compass. Life may be about something, but you don&#39;t know. Your approach is to deal with life the way you manage email: You are just directing your attention to whatever lands in your inbox.</li>
</ul>

Three groups of philosophy of life

The difference between the members of these three groups is internal. You won't be able to spot them instantly.
In general, it is better to live as a member of the True North group, provided you remain humble, curious, and open to the possibility you may be wrong.

The True North group

If you are in the Dusty Compass Group or the Inbox Group, a brush of near-death has a way of improving your philosophy of life. You may be jolted into living on purpose and make it count. In the face of mortality, we think hard about what matters. But, as the weeks and months pass, you may drift back to distraction. Without the vivid orienting direction of a clear philosophy of life, it becomes easy to do whatever&#39;s easiest instead of living the way you&#39;d want your obituaries to read.
That&#39;s why reflecting every now and again on the reality of death is a good thing to do to make the most of the reality of life.

Directing the philosophy of life

What if you went into an interview and someone asked you, “what is your philosophy of life?” How easily could you answer that question? By “philosophy of life” I mean a mental framework for…

What is your philosophy of life?

Humans have an inbuilt drive to belong and be accepted. This makes us care about what others think of us.
<ul>
<li>In the pre-historic times, human beings couldn&#39;t survive if they were not part of a group. This makes belongingness part of our genes, which shaped our natural selection.</li>
<li>In the modern age, as we get more social and mobile, it is no longer necessary to be part of a group, as it is not crucial to be accepted by everyone. It helps to know how to care less about what other people think or do.</li>
</ul>

Belongingness

Out of novelty and boredom, we started being part of 'imaginary' groups just because it is cool to do so. There are groups in social media, or in clubs/bars, in which people join due to desire to be accepted.
If we have our friends, family, a career and a few hobbies, we don't need to attach our identity to a group.

Staying Clear of Imaginary Groups

Discovering your core values, and having a vision is key to finding your mission. You have to know where you want to go (Vision) and create a road map that takes you there (Values).&nbsp;Having these foundational pillars in your life makes us less susceptible to what others think and do.

Mission = Value + Vision

It's ok to disappoint others, instead of falling in the trap of doing obligatory and unnecessary work, as many kind and thoughtful people end up doing. It is ok to say NO to others, as the most important task you have is to live up to your core values and your mission.If people are disappointed with you, it is a revelation that they are selfish, and are not concerned with the wellbeing of others.

It's Ok To Disappoint Others

Create your own closely-knit group of true and authentic people in your family and close friends.
You need to stop bothering about or getting influenced by other people and realize that you don't need to be part of other groups.

Create Your Own Group

5 min read On the outside, it often looks like people don't care about others. It appears that people are selfish. But if you take a closer look, you'll see that everyone is affected by what other people think and do. Let me give you a few examples: The guy ...

How To Stop Caring About What People Think & Do - Darius Foroux

Given the world we live in, it’s easy to point the finger at capitalism (or something else) for creating rich and poor, have and have-nots.Social hierarchies have been around since the beginning of complex life. That can be exploited by signaling that you are ‘high status’ so people will treat you as such.

Be Or Act Like You Are On Top

Leadership

<ol><li>Signal high status: Smile, keep your head up and shoulders back, make eye contact, be louder, be clear about what you want.</li><li>Be Responsible: Only you are responsible for yourself — Act Like It.</li><li>Ask yourself: Ask yourself what can be better or fixed today and act on it. </li><li>Love Yourself: Knowing yourself and not knowing others flaws makes it easy to hate and mistreat yourself.</li><li>Seek The Truth: Be precise in your beliefs, facts and opinions. Seek opinions and views opposite from your own and truly consider them. It will be painful but beneficial in the long run</li><li>Invest In Your Future: Do what is meaningful and right today. The Not what is expedient. Do what creates order and reduces chaos in the world today so your tomorrow will be better.</li><li>Be someone you are proud of: Watch carefully what you are becoming everyday. Your character is being defined every single second.</li></ol>

Jordan Peterson’s 7 Tips For a Better Life

I hadn't heard of Jordan Peterson in December, but the second I watched his videos online I was hooked. Hook, line and sinker. I ordered his new book and devoured it over a weekend, all 370 pages. I even read it to my kids. Here's what I learnt.

Career

What I Learnt from Jordan Peterson

<ul><li>Look at your peers. Is this who you plan to become?&nbsp;</li><li>Look at your Facebook feed. </li><li>Look at the blogs you read. Are they helpful or&nbsp;click-baitey?</li><li>Look at the games you play and how much time they suck out of your life.</li><li>Look at the pointless arguments you get into.</li></ul>These influences are acting on you, consciously and otherwise.&nbsp;

Audit your time

Who we know and what we do influence what we'll become: What we do puts us around people. And the people we surround ourselves with help set the baseline for what we think is ok, what we think is possible and what we’re exposed to.

The influence of entourage

"You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.&nbsp;"

Quote

A network is about creating a peer group around who you are and who you want to be. It’s about what you bring to the table too.&nbsp;

Networks 

You don't have to know personally those you admire. From influential contemporary figures to historical ones, you can still follow them afar. History, for instance, has great individuals who stand as timeless examples of what it means to be impressive.

Finding inspiration

James Altucher calls this your 'scene.' As Jim Rohn put it, you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. As my dad told me once as a kid, "Ryan, you become like your friends."...

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Win win.

Thirteen reflections from a Newly Thirty-year-old.

Philosophy of life

What is your philosophy of life?