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Debarjun Chakma on Oct 07

<ul><li>"Soldier Mindset" or "motivated reasoning." It's this phenomenon in which our unconscious motivations, our desires, and fears, shape the way we interpret information. Some information, some ideas, feel like our allies. We want to wind and defend them. Other information or ideas are the enemies.</li><li>"Scout Mindset." It's the drive not to make one idea win or another lose, but just to see what's really there as honestly and accurately as you can, even if it's not convenient or pleasant.&nbsp;</li></ul>

Soldier Mindset vs Scout Mindset

The answer is emotional. The soldier mindset is rooted in emotions like defensiveness or tribalism, the scout mindset is, too. It's just rooted in different emotions. For example, scouts are curious. They're more likely to say they feel pleasure when they learn new information. They're more likely to feel intrigued when they encounter something that contradicts their expectations. Scouts have different values. They're more likely to say they think it's virtuous to test your own beliefs, and they're less likely to say that someone who changes his mind seems weak.

Why are some people able to cut through their own motivations and just try to see the facts as objectively as they can?

We need to learn how to feel proud instead of ashamed when we notice we might have been wrong about something. We need to learn how to feel intrigued instead of defensive when we encounter some information that contradicts our beliefs.So the question I want to leave you with is: Do you yearn to defend your own beliefs? Or do you yearn to see the world as clearly as you possibly can?

To improve our judgment we need to change the way we feel.

TED Talk Subtitles and Transcript: Perspective is everything, especially when it comes to examining your beliefs. Are you a soldier, prone to defending your viewpoint at all costs -- or a scout, spurred by curiosity? Julia Galef examines the motivations behind these two mindsets and how they shape the way we interpret information, interweaved with a compelling history lesson from 19th-century France. When your steadfast opinions are tested, Galef asks: "What do you most yearn for? Do you yearn to defend your own beliefs or do you yearn to see the world as clearly as you possibly can?"

Better thinking, habits, growth mindset, decision making, bias, problem solving, and communication.

Self Improvement

Why do you think you're right? It's all about which mindset you're in.

We don't always believe things because they are correct. Sometimes we believe things because they make us look good to the people we care about.

The Logic Of False Beliefs 

Humans are herd animals. We want to fit in, to bond with others, and to earn the respect and approval of our peers. Such inclinations are essential to our survival. For most of our evolutionary history, our ancestors lived in tribes. Becoming separated from the tribe—or worse, being cast out—was a death sentence.

People are embraced or condemned according to their beliefs, so one function of the mind may be to hold beliefs that bring the belief-holder the greatest number of allies, protectors, or disciples, rather than beliefs that are most likely to be true.

False beliefs can be useful in a social sense even if they are not useful in a factual sense. We might call this approach “facutually false but socially accurate.” When we have to choose between the two, people often select friends and family over facts.

 Belief Over Fact

Convincing someone to change their mind is really the process of convincing them to change their tribe. If they abandon their beliefs, they run the risk of losing societies. You can’t expect someone to change their mind if you take away their community too. You have to give them somewhere to go. Nobody wants their worldview torn apart if loneliness is the outcome.The way to change people minds to become their friends, to integrate them into your tribe, to bring them into your circle..Now, they can change their beliefs without the risk of being abandoned.

Facts Don't Change Our Minds. Friendship Does

When it comes to changing people's minds, it is very difficult to jump from one side to another. You can't jump down the spectrum. You have to slide down it. The best place to ponder a threatening idea is in a non-threatening environment. In conversation, people have to carefully consider their status and appearance.They want to save face and avoid looking stupid. When confronted with an uncomfortable set of facts, the tendency is often to double down on their current position rather than publicly admit to being wrong.

The Spectrum Of Beliefs

Silence is death for any idea. An idea that is never spoken or written down dies with the person who conceived it. Ideas can only be remembered when they are repeated.They can only be believed when they are repeated.People also repeat bad ideas when they complain about them. Before you can criticize an idea, you have to reference that idea. You end up repeating the ideas you’re hoping people will forget—but, of course, people can’t forget them because you keep talking about them. The more you repeat a bad idea, the more likely people are to believe it.

Why False Ideas Persist

If the goal is to actually change minds, then criticizing the other side isn't the best approach.Most people argue to win. People often act like soldiers rather than scouts. Soldiers are on the intellectual attack looking to defeat the people who differ from them. Victory is the operative emotion. Scouts, meanwhile, are like intellectual explorers, slowly trying to map the terrain with others. Curiosity is the driving force.If you want people to adopt your beliefs, you need to act more like a scout and less like a soldier.

The Intellectual Soldier

When we are in the moment, we can easily forget that the goal is to connect with the other side, collaborate with them, befriend them, and integrate them into our tribe. We are so caught up in winning that we forget about connecting. It's easy to spend your energy labeling people rather than working with them.

Be Kind First, Be Right Later

Always remember that to argue, and win, is to break down the reality of the person you are arguing against. It is painful to lose your reality, so be kind, even if you are right.

Why don't facts change our minds? This article explains the logic of false beliefs and proposes a better system for constructive conversation.

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Why Facts Don’t Change Our Minds

“In a changing world, you have to be willing and able to change your mind. Otherwise, your expertise can fail, your opinions get out of date, and your ideas fall flat.”

Problem Solving

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<li>One barrier is what psychologists call “cognitive entrenchment,” which is when you have so much knowledge in an area that you start to take for granted assumptions that need to be questioned.</li>
<li>A second barrier is motivation: &quot;I don’t want to rethink; I’m comfortable with the way I’ve always done things. It makes me feel and look stupid if I admit that I was wrong.&quot;</li>
<li>The third reason is social. We don’t form beliefs in a vacuum. We generally end up with opinions that are influenced by and pretty much similar to the people in our social circles. So, there’s a risk that if I let go of some of my views, I might be excluded from my tribe, and I don’t want to take that risk.</li>
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Question our thinking: Why we find it difficult

Thinking like a scientist does not mean you need to own a telescope or a microscope, but that you favor humility over pride and curiosity over conviction: You know what you don’t know, and you’re eager to discover new things. You don’t let your ideas become your identity. You look for reasons why you might be wrong, not just reasons why you must be right. 
You listen to ideas that make you think hard, not just the ones that make you feel good. And you surround yourself with people who can challenge your process, not just the ones who agree with your conclusion.

A scientific mindset

If you don’t get good at rethinking, then you end up being wrong more often. I think it’s one of the great paradoxes of life: The quicker you are to recognize when you’re wrong, the less wrong you become.

The whole point of rethinking is to change your mind in the face of better logic or stronger evidence—not to just roll the dice and say, I’m going to pick a random new opinion today.

Thinking again

An attitude of wisdom as acting on the best information you have while doubting what you know. And for that you need humility.
But people misunderstand what humility is. Confident humility is being able to say, “I don’t know and I might be wrong,” or “I haven’t figured it out yet,” which is essentially believing in yourself but doubting your current knowledge or skills.

Wisdom and humility

This means that when you form an opinion, you make a list of conditions that would change your mind. 
That keeps you honest, because once you get attached to an opinion, it’s really hard to let go. But if you identify factors that would change your mind up front, you keep yourself flexible.

Being a “super-forecaster"

“In some ways, the joy of being wrong is the freedom to keep learning.. If you can embrace the joy of being wrong, then you get to anchor your identity more in being someone who’s eager to discover new things, than someone who already knows everything.”

Organizational psychologist Adam Grant explains the importance of questioning our knowledge and opinions in the face of new evidence.

Why Thinking Like a Scientist Is Good for You

Most of the people we encounter refuse to change their minds during a discussion or debate, even when provided with hard facts that contradict their stand. As most of us have learnt the hard way in the last few years, it is extremely difficult to persuade anyone with strong beliefs or ideologies.
It is human nature due to ‘motivated reasoning’, which leads to many kinds of biases, as the reasoning process of our mind is akin to a lawyer defending a client.

Unable To Change Minds

<ul>
<li>Facts do not change minds is a hard concept for logical people like us to grasp, but it has been long known that human beings are emotional creatures and are not as logical as we assume.</li>
<li>We readily accept new information without scrutiny or critical analysis which is in agreement with our existing set of beliefs and assumptions.</li>
<li>Intelligence is mostly applied in a one-sided and biased manner, serving our own beliefs and preconceptions.</li>
<li>Most of us even prefer to believe in what we have already invested, as it is easier, more comfortable and strengthens our ego and identity.</li>
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Sticking To Our Own Assumptions

As most of us have preexisting mental models, it is hard to change one’s mind and completely eliminate the various cognitive biases.
<ol>
<li>Start with an open mind about people who disagree with you.</li>
<li>Question your own assumptions and beliefs, aiming to understand the big picture and taking a holistic view.</li>
<li>Be critical of sources that support your own belief.</li>
<li>Come into the other person’s shoes and see things from their point of view, deeply and sincerely.</li>
<li>Even if people understand your point of view, they may still stick with theirs due to their status, appearance or position.</li>
<li>If you encounter new information, try to be curious and intrigued instead of defensive.</li>
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Minimizing Motivated Reasoning

Why we remain steadfast to our beliefs, sometimes even in the face of overwhelming opposing evidence

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DEBARJUN CHAKMA

Debarjun Chakma on Oct 07

Soldier Mindset vs Scout Mindset

Why do you think you're right? It's all about which mindset you're in.