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#1 New York Times Bestseller Over 1 million copies sold In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people. For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up. Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek. There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

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The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

Getting turned down or away is discouraging no matter how many years you’ve invested in your professional journey.But even though it stings at first, rejection may actually make you tougher in the long run. The key to achieving your career ambitions comes down to one question: How many times are you willing to pick yourself up after falling down?

Rejection sucks. Always has, always will

In fact, some of the most successful household names have been turned away, more than once.&nbsp;Stephen King, the man who wrote the book on writing saw 30 rejections from publishers for his novel Carrie — the same work that launched his career and spawned an iconic horror movie.

It’s comforting to know that setbacks are common

“One of the most critical skills that can help someone cope with rejection is resilience — or the ability to quickly recover from challenges. Luckily, resilience is not just a static attribute but a learned, lifelong skill that can be honed, just like a muscle that can be strengthened and grown over time.”

<ol><li>G: Ground yourself in the situation.</li><li>R: Recognize what you can control.</li><li>O: Organize your resources.</li><li>W: Work with your community for support.</li></ol>

The GROW method to cope with rejection

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Everyone Gets Rejected — Here’s How to Move On

Sacrificing for instance does not mean giving up what do you want from life to fulfill someone else's desires and needs.Sacrifice is the ability to set aside one's desire and do one's duty.

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Dharma

<ul><li>Once you get clear on your own why here, why now, look at your audience. Who are the people you are trying to reach, and what do you know about them?</li><li>Your audience may be small, but how engaged is it? You do not need 1 million followers to get published.</li><li>When writing a book proposal, outline your existing database and share more about your relationship with them.&nbsp;</li></ul>

Knowing your audience’s needs 

<ul><li>Before you even start promoting your book, clarify the book’s primary goal that you are writing, not just for the readers but also for yourself.</li><li>How is this book helping you impact people’s lives, share your message, and become known to the world?</li><li>Quite honestly, most authors rarely sustain themselves through royalties — but books have the power to amplify their message in a way that has never been done before.</li></ul>

Knowing my expectations 

If you’re looking for the coveted ‘best selling’ title, you need to make sure that you’re getting as much hype as possible around the week and the day of your book launch.This also means that you should think about providing both physical and digital copies of the book to different sets of people; depending on your budget, that might not always be possible

Gathering a community

Tomorrow is the day my second book, Reclaim Your Time Off, comes out into the world. I will not lie to you. I am so excited, yet I’m also exhausted. I know, the irony. It does not come as a surprise…

Four Vital Lessons I Learned from Publishing My Second Book

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<li>Playing the long game puts our focus on the quality of the work, instead of being a sell-out for instant, short-term gains. </li>
<li>It requires a kind of dedication and an eye towards the future while adjusting your expectations and appreciating the present moment as well.</li>
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Instead of chasing short-term goals, we need to have patience and enjoy the journey.

Long-Term Thinking

We need to realize that hard work, improving our skill sets and creating ways to provide better services is under our control, but status, money inflow or the approval of others is not.
We need to work on stuff that we can control, and the things we desire will eventually be attained by us.

Money, Status And Approval

Most people think about short-term goals. Things they can achieve this year. But what about things you can achieve long-term?

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Rejection sucks. Always has, always will

Everyone Gets Rejected — Here’s How to Move On