"True love is the steadfast presence of your lover, the willingness to stick it out when things get rocky. It demonstrates love when no one else is looking. True love is wholly committed, costing the giver time and effort."

The Hollywood projections of their love stories has broken many hearts. Three truth behind marriage says many different stories, which we may call 'behind the scenes'. Those book will shed light on various things that couples get through, what we call 'through thick and thin'. Marriage is a test of persons patience and commitment towards each other. This book might save your marriage and rejuvenate the love that you experienced when you see your soulmate for the first time. Through this book, Ehman offers many lessons that can help anyone achieve serenity in marriage.

In Short

1. First, love goes through four different stages according to the New Testament.2. Love has different languages, and we must learn how to understand each one and appreciate them.3. Second, seek guidance from God through prayers if you need to overcome turbulent times.

Lessons Learnt

Love is a powerful sentiment that has to be maintained and nourished in a marriage. However, we can’t expect it to stay the same forever, even if we care for our partner and do everything right. Love changes and takes different forms over time, and we have to learn to evolve with it and with our partners. According to new testament, love takes four different forms:1. Erotic love2. Brotherly love3. Familial love4. Love that originates with God

1. Love Changes With Time

Erotic love- Passion: This type of affection happens when we first fall for someone, but it fades over time and evolves into something else. This type of love is selfish, as it’s all about how the other person makes us feel.Brotherly love- similar to friendship: This is a normal and quite important stage of marriage. This part of love is conditional, as we love someone because they feel the same for us.

Stages Of Love

Familial love: We love our significant other because we’re expected to love them by this time in the relationship. However, it’s dangerous to let our love sit here for too long, as it can get monotonous. Love that originates with God: This is unconditional love. This type is selfless, similar to the love God has for us. Love the other despite his faults and not for his acts. At this stage, a successful marriage should be kind, loving, and peaceful.

Continued...

We all express and feel love differently. Consequently, understanding those differences can make a serious impact on your relationship. There are five primary love languages that people speak. These include 1. Words of affirmation2. Quality time3. Physical touch.4. Acts of service. 5. Receiving gifts.

2. Understand Love Languages

In simple terms, the words of affirmation love language is about expressing affection through spoken words, praise, or appreciation. When this is someone's primary love language, they enjoy kind words and encouragement. They also enjoy uplifting quotes, love notes, and cute text messages. You can make this person's day by complimenting them or pointing out what they do well.

Words Of Affirmation

Love and affection are expressed through this love language when someone gives someone else their&nbsp;undivided attention. This means putting down the cell phone and turning off the tablet, making eye contact and actively listening. People with this love language are looking for quality over quantity. So, when you get together, they feel loved if you are present and focused on them. Make sure that you make eye contact, affirm what the other person is saying, and refrain from offering advice.

Quality Time 

A person with this love language feels loved through physical affection. Aside from sex, those who have physical touch as their primary love language feel loved when their partner shows physical affection in some way like holding their hand, touching their arm, or giving them a massage at the end of the day. Additionally, their idea of a perfect date might include cuddling on the couch with a glass of wine and a good movie. They simply want to be close to their partners physically.

Physical Touch

When someone's primary love language is acts of service, they feel loved and appreciated when people do nice things for them. Whether it's helping with the dishes or putting gas in the car, little acts of service go straight to the person's heart. They love when people do little things for them and often can be found doing little things for others.

Acts of Service

To a person whose love language is receiving gifts, gift-giving is symbolic of love and affection in their mind. They treasure not only the gift itself but also the time and effort the gift giver put into it. What's more, they do not necessarily expect large or expensive gifts, the love language receiving gifts is more what is behind the gift that appeals to them.

Receiving Gifts

Sometimes it can be difficult to oversee some negative aspects of your partner and remember the good ones. Always remember that every relationship has ups and downs and that bad times only last so much. However, we can’t avoid trouble knocking at our door. When it does, you will want to be prepared. Keep in mind that God is around you at all times and that difficulties in life are inevitable, but they will pass with a little faith. Pray for an opportunity to learn, listen, and forgive, rather than cry in despair over what happens.

3. Seeking God In Difficult Times

Remember that your partner isn’t perfect, but you knew that when you chose to marry them.&nbsp;Embrace their differences and respect that sometimes they are going through some changes themselves. Always remember that both of you are humans, and this means that you are also flawed.&nbsp; After accepting your situation and starting to reconnect with God, don’t expect your troubles to vanish. Instead, develop a meaningful relationship and don’t give up on your prayers while also making sure to practice gratitude and ask for patience and&nbsp;strength.&nbsp;

Love Is In The Air

It is true that opposites attract--for a while. But often as the years go by in our marriages, opposites may also begin to attack. The habits and characteristics we once found endearing about our significant other are the exact things that drive us crazy years later! Whether you and your spouse disagree about finances, parenting, or how to load the dishwasher, your differences don't need to divide you. They can actually bring you closer together--and closer to God. In Keep Showing Up, Karen Ehman shows you… How to play to each other's strengths as you work on your own weaknesses The difference between having a soul mate and having a sole mate How to become a faithful forgiver who also forgets Strategies for avoiding the social media comparison trap Why it's dangerous to mimic a friend's marriage How to unearth the magic in the mundane Why a spouse who drives you crazy can drive you straight to Jesus Throughout Keep Showing Up, Karen includes ideas to implement in your marriage right now, such as powerful statements to speak to your spouse, date-night-on-a-shoestring suggestions, and discussion starters. Discover how your "incompatibility" can become the strength of your marital team in this real-life guide to both living with and loving your spouse--differences and all.

Self Improvement

Keep Showing Up

I once heard that we don't need any reason to love someone. If you really love someone, then it should be no reason for loving them. I think that is true, it means that your love is pure. In my opinion, when you love someone with a reason, then if that reason is gone, your love will change too or even worse it will disappear. But if you really love them the way they are, that love will last.. no matter what

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Echa on Sep 19

Time flies like a thief in the night and we've got a story to write. Time waits for no man and the ones we love die .

Say What You Need To Say 

A lot of the time we don't say the things we mean , the things we need to say . Communication lines are not maintained and suddenly news of a sudden demise makes us realize that we have a lot of stuff that left unsaid ,letters left unwritten .

I don't want to live with regrets .I don't want any of those things to happen to me . I want to feel like the people I've lost know that they meant so much to me .

How do I tell them that I love them? Maybe I'll write them letters . Or maybe I'll give them gifts with little cards enclosed .Tell them face to face is also an option. Learning to be emotionally vulnerable with my family members is something that I should learn to do .

Ways To Let Them Know 

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Breadi Mitini on Sep 11

If you have already found a circle of friends who are always there for you and will try their best to make you smile when you are down trust me. That would be the most precious gift God will give you. Friends who support you whenever you have plans to achieve, who will push you to reach your dreams, who will be there even they don't really need something from you but will spend time with you and talk about life. God's gift.

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Happiness is ❤️️

Don't cheat if you are not happy just leave.

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KAREN EHMAN

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Echa on Sep 19