Instead of wasting time worrying about the things other people have, start focusing on what's really important to you and your life.

Once you adopt the mindset of "I am unwilling," you will no longer be filled with guilt, resentment, and regret every time you see something you think you "want."

Sometimes declaring your unwillingness can be just as powerful as declaring willingness.

Joining the ranks of The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, You Are a Badas*, and F*ck Feelings comes this refreshing, BS-free, self-empowerment guide that offers an honest, no-nonsense, tough-love approach to help you move past self-imposed limitations. Are you tired of feeling fu*ked up? If you are, Gary John Bishop has the answer. In this straightforward handbook, he gives you the tools and advice you need to demolish the slag weighing you down and become the truly unfu*ked version of yourself. ''Wake up to the miracle you are,'' he directs. ''Here's what you've forgotten: You're a fu*king miracle of being.'' It isn't other people that are standing in your way, it isn't even your circumstances that are blocking your ability to thrive, it's yourself and the negative self-talk you keep telling yourself. In Unfu*k Yourself, Bishop leads you through a series of seven assertions: I am willing. I am wired to win. I got this. I embrace the uncertainty. I am not my thoughts; I am what I do. I am relentless. I expect nothing and accept everything. Lead the life you were meant to have—Unfu*k Yourself.

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I really wanted to post this thing and I honestly have no idea what to post. Having this feeling of wanting to put myself out there and thinking I'm not good enough is what is causing this run on sentence. Almost as if I am proving that I honestly haven't got a clue what to post. It's like I'm attempting to soothe the anxiety I'm having with this word vomit. Girl, it's okay to not know what you're doing. You can't be perfect all the time. You've never been perfect and you'll never be perfect. Because it's not something anyone can do. Think of your own personal heroes. Are they perfect?

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Tells you that something isn't good enough yet.Symptoms: Procrastination, missed deadlines, low output and fear of criticism.Solution: Take action. Seek progress over perfection.<a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CDROsSBFcU4/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">[ChrisDo]</a>

01 - Perfection Monster

Positions you as the hero or leader with all the answers.Symptoms: Loves giving advice and telling others what to do.Solution: Ask more. Talk less. Listen intently. Be slower to answer. Empower others to solve their own problems.<a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CDROsSBFcU4/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">[ChrisDo]</a>

02 - Advice Monster

Seeks external validation to define happiness.Symptoms: Uncomfortable saying 'no'. Apologise often. Prioritizes the emotional needs of others.Solution: Realize that you have a choice. Practise saying 'no' to small things. Give importance to your happiness.<a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CDROsSBFcU4/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">[ChrisDo]</a>

03 - People Pleaser Monster 

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Everyone has three Monsters inside them.

Being motivated is great. But there’s a big difference between healthy motivation and aiming for perfection. Healthy motivation looks like self-focus, self-compassion, and having a growth mindset, while perfection is more about people-pleasing, fear, and control. Perfectionism can also be learned by growing up around perfectionist parents. Maybe you used to hear them openly criticize themselves, or second-guess their choices, or blame themselves for your missteps. If so, it’s easy to see how you could pick up those behaviours yourself.

Perfectionism and Health.

If you’re wondering if you’re a perfectionist, I’d say there’s a good chance you are. Or at least have perfectionist tendencies. I know I do. After all,

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Is Perfectionism Ruining Your Health? | Mark's Daily Apple

Psychologists define other-oriented perfectionism as people who direct their unrealistic perfect expectations outward, such as at their partner, co-workers, and children.
These perfectionists appear to view themselves as flawless and others as coming short. As a result, when people close to them fail, they may often respond with accusations: &quot;If only you did that right, you would be more successful and happier.&quot; However, under this type of perfectionism lies insecurity and often narcissism.

Other-oriented perfectionism

Parents with other-oriented perfectionism may be frequently dissatisfied, creating a tense and controlling home life. Moreover, by holding their children to ambitious standards, they risk passing this tendency to the next generation. Children can also develop this outlook by being raised in a highly evaluative family that regularly criticised movies, food and other family members. When these parents attempt to help someone, they will yell at or humiliate others to get them to do things their way.

Traits of perfectionist parents

Studies have found that child-oriented perfectionism can lead to dissatisfaction with parenting and a burden on the role of parents. This burden may increase to such an extent that parents may feel sorry for becoming parents. However, parents can overcome this tendency by accepting their child as "good enough." Whenever they fail to regard their children unconditionally, they can acknowledge their mistakes, apologise, and do their best to repair the damage.

Overcoming child-oriented perfectionism

Mothers and fathers risk passing down this tendency to the next generation, creating a pattern of dissatisfaction.

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