In theory there is no difference between theory and practice - in practice there is

⚾ one of my favourite quotes of all times

Quotes

Theory is useful but not 100%

Gratitude is good medicine and is always time well spent. It helps relieve stress and build positive energy, and it gives us great perspective on life.

Real Gratitude Takes Time

In nature, things move with the sunlight and the seasons. Society artificially compresses time. Tapping into nature’s rhythms will connect us with life around us and feel more energetic and productive.

 Nature Is Our Guiding Light 

If you’re hustling 24/7, it wreaks havoc on your mental and physical wellbeing. It’s crucial to carve out down time to slow down and breathe.

There Is a Time to Hustle and a Time to Chill 

Worry steals joy and negatively impacts decision-making. It’s understandable to often feel overwhelmed by life’s unknowns, but spending all day worrying about something that “might happen” is a waste of time and energy.

Exercise isn’t about quantity—it’s about quality. Are you focused? Can you breathe into and slow down that bicep curl? If so, then a few solid reps do the trick, and you can move on with your life.

Exercise Doesn’t Have to Be a Grind 

Numerous studies are linking a stagnant lifestyle with a high rate of mortality. Get up and move around frequently throughout the day to improve your body’s functions and overall sense of wellbeing.

 Sitting Is the New Smoking 

Instead of multitasking on work emails when you’re with your family, give them your all. Walk the dogs together or have dinner without devices. Work to get in quality time with your family every day, even if it’s just a few minutes.

Family Time Means No Distractions 

It’s healthy to daydream, but it can also become disruptive. Time debt has us constantly catching up on yesterday’s thoughts. Block off some time to think about a trip you’d like to take, and imagine the sights, sounds, and textures.

Daydreams Give You New Insights  

Self discipline is key to have a successful and healthy lifestyle but most of us having a lot excuse instead of working on something lacking of something lead to having nothing in your hands .

 lack Self-Discipline ?

'While we wait for life, life passes.'

I see this problem in a lot of people, including me. Either being overly picky or just hesitant and fearful to make progress or moves. A lot of people recognise signs and opportunities that are staring at us, right in front of our faces, but we attempt to seize them when they have just drifted out of our reach. Why?

Seize The Day

If you, currently reading this, struggle to make decisions and be assertive, it may be because of reasons such as:<ul><li>There may be a lot of responsibility put onto you and you may feel intimidated</li><li>You may want everything to be perfect and not have to suffer the consequences of making a mistake</li><li>You don't want to make the wrong decision</li></ul>This is completely normal. I'll be diving into each and I'll hopefully be able to provide some of you with some meaningful advice .

Indecisiveness

I have this fear a lot, being indecisive because there's a lot of responsibility and pressure on you. The truth is, with every thing you do, this is going to be the case, an action can change your life no matter how small it is.My point is you have to feel this responsibility, not only will it shape you into a better person overall, it will teach you about leadership and how to manage emotions such as stress.Let's say however, you make a bad decision that impacts you or those around you negatively, mistakes happen and they're apart of life but the key is learning, adapting and moving forward.

Responsibility 

A lot of my points are going to lead to similar things as the whole subject relates. Some of us naturally tend to want everything to be perfect, to make no mistakes and have everything already set without any work or effort.Mistakes are okay. But are they really mistakes?The way you perceive events makes a huge difference. E.G. you can dwell on negative thoughts or take just one thing from your 'mistakes' and turn them into successes.My point is, perfection is impossible, never fail to seize something with the fear of not doing things right. That's what Learning is for.

Perfectionism

Similar to what I said earlier, let's say you made a bad decision, now what?It most likely won't be as bad as you think, there's many ways around it, for example:<ul><li>You can take steps to ensure it doesn't happen again</li><li>You gain experience and knowledge </li><li>You'll be way better equipped in the future</li><li>Most importantly, you'll grow as a person.</li></ul>

Learning, Adapting And Moving Forward

At the end of the day, it's important to not be so hard on yourself, going back to the quote we can't sit back and be passive, if you see an opportunity, take it. If it doesn't go well then so what? You try again. The main message is to get up and do something great, whether it's today, tomorrow or in a few months, take action because time isn't infinite.Good luck and it's time to stop being passive!

The Message

I felt like I should speak about this since I'm trying to combat it myself, I hope this is useful to at least one person.

Helping You To Solve Indecisiveness 

• About 99% of the time, the right time is right now. • No one is as impressed with your possessions as you are. • Dont ever work for someone you don't want to become. • Cultivate 12 people who love you, because they are worth more than 12 million people who like you. • Dont keep making the same mistakes; try to make new mistakes. • If you stop to listen to a musician or street performer for more than a minute, you owe them a dollar. • Anything you say before the word “but” does not count.

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• When you forgive others, they may not notice, but you will heal. Forgiveness is not something we do for others; it is a gift to ourselves. • Courtesy costs nothing. Lower the toilet seat after use. Let the people in the elevator exit before you enter. Return shopping carts to their designated areas. When you borrow something, return it better shape (filled up, cleaned) than when you got it. • Whenever there is an argument between two sides, find the third side.

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• Efficiency is highly overrated; Goofing off is highly underrated. Regularly scheduled sabbaths, sabbaticals, vacations, breaks, aimless walks and time off are essential for top performance of any kind. The best work ethic requires a good rest ethic. • When you lead, your real job is to create more leaders, not more followers. • Criticize in private, praise in public.

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• Life lessons will be presented to you in the order they are needed. Everything you need to master the lesson is within you. Once you have truly learned a lesson, you will be presented with the next one. If you are alive, that means you still have lessons to learn. • It is the duty of a student to get everything out of a teacher, and the duty of a teacher to get everything out of a student. • If winning becomes too important in a game, change the rules to make it more fun. Changing rules can become the new game.

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• Ask funders for money, and they’ll give you advice; but ask for advice and they’ll give you money. • Productivity is often a distraction. Don’t aim for better ways to get through your tasks as quickly as possible, rather aim for better tasks that you never want to stop doing. • Immediately pay what you owe to vendors, workers, contractors. They will go out of their way to work with you first next time. • The biggest lie we tell ourselves is “I dont need to write this down because I will remember it.”

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• Your growth as a conscious being is measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations you are willing to have. • Speak confidently as if you are right, but listen carefully as if you are wrong. • Handy measure: the distance between your fingertips of your outstretched arms at shoulder level is your height. • The consistency of your endeavors (exercise, companionship, work) is more important than the quantity. Nothing beats small things done every day, which is way more important than what you do occasionally.

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• Making art is not selfish; it’s for the rest of us. If you don’t do your thing, you are cheating us.• Never ask a woman if she is pregnant. Let her tell you if she is.• Three things you need: The ability to not give up something till it works, the ability to give up something that does not work, and the trust in other people to help you distinguish between the two.• When public speaking, pause frequently. Pause before you say something in a new way, pause after you have said something you believe is important, and pause as a relief to let listeners absorb details.

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• There is no such thing as being “on time.” You are either late or you are early. Your choice. • Ask anyone you admire: Their lucky breaks happened on a detour from their main goal. So embrace detours. Life is not a straight line for anyone. • The best way to get a correct answer on the internet is to post an obviously wrong answer and wait for someone to correct you. • You’ll get 10x better results by elevating good behavior rather than punishing bad behavior, especially in children and animals.

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• Spend as much time crafting the subject line of an email as the message itself because the subject line is often the only thing people read. • Don’t wait for the storm to pass; dance in the rain. • When checking references for a job applicant, employers may be reluctant or prohibited from saying anything negative, so leave or send a message that says, “Get back to me if you highly recommend this applicant as super great.” If they don’t reply take that as a negative. • Use a password manager: Safer, easier, better. • Half the skill of being educated is learning what you can ignore.

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• The advantage of a ridiculously ambitious goal is that it sets the bar very high so even in failure it may be a success measured by the ordinary. • A great way to understand yourself is to seriously reflect on everything you find irritating in others. • Keep all your things visible in a hotel room, not in drawers, and all gathered into one spot. That way you’ll never leave anything behind. If you need to have something like a charger off to the side, place a couple of other large items next to it, because you are less likely to leave 3 items behind than just one.

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• Denying or deflecting a compliment is rude. Accept it with thanks, even if you believe it is not deserved. • Always read the plaque next to the monument. • When you have some success, the feeling of being an imposter can be real. Who am I fooling? But when you create things that only you — with your unique talents and experience — can do, then you are absolutely not an imposter. You are the ordained. It is your duty to work on things that only you can do. • What you do on your bad days matters more than what you do on your good days.

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• Make stuff that is good for people to have. • When you open paint, even a tiny bit, it will always find its way to your clothes no matter how careful you are. Dress accordingly. • To keep young kids behaving on a car road trip, have a bag of their favorite candy and throw a piece out the window each time they misbehave. • You cannot get smart people to work extremely hard just for money. • When you don’t know how much to pay someone for a particular task, ask them “what would be fair” and their answer usually is.

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• 90% of everything is crap. If you think you don’t like opera, romance novels, TikTok, country music, vegan food, NFTs, keep trying to see if you can find the 10% that is not crap. • You will be judged on how well you treat those who can do nothing for you. • We tend to overestimate what we can do in a day, and underestimate what we can achieve in a decade. Miraculous things can be accomplished if you give it ten years. A long game will compound small gains to overcome even big mistakes. • Thank a teacher who changed your life.

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Golden bits of advice from a 70-year-young person! ⭐ (Volume 1)

Navigating Life

103 Bits of Advice I Wish I Had Known – Volume 1

Abraham Maslow himself was working on a deeper way to understand the whole of human existence when he died in 1970. These ideas expand on his work and reimagine it, showing how self-actualization is about integrating all your needs into a healthy whole that enables you to grow. They explain how realizing your full human potential can connect you not only to your best possible self, but also to the people around you.

Transcend — The New Science of Self-Actualization

<ul><li>Our most basic need is safety—it's the secure foundation that allows us to take risks and explore the world.</li><li>Beyond physiological needs like hunger, our sense of safety comes down to how we relate to the people around us—attachment is one of the ways in which our relationships with others begin in childhood, and as we grow older our attachment style plays a key role in our relationships.</li></ul>

The Need For Safety is the Basis of all Other Needs

<ul><li>Being around people fulfills a deep human need: connection with others.</li><li>The need for connection is the need for stable, positive, intimate relationships.</li><li>Belonging is about feeling protected by your group; intimacy is about loving, caring for, and protecting others with whom you have a close relationship.</li><li>Close connections hinge on what psychologist Carl Rogers calls unconditional positive regard.</li></ul>

Connection is a Fundamental Need

<ul><li>Self-esteem is the result of positive accomplishments.</li><li>It has nothing to do with narcissism or egocentricity.</li><li>If you find yourself focused on improving your self-esteem, that's a sign something has gone wrong.</li><li>Healthy self-esteem has two aspects: self-worth and mastery.</li><li>In a nutshell, it comes down to liking yourself.</li><li>We're social beings, and our judgments about ourselves often factor in the judgments of others.</li><li>Mastery is the extent to which you can act intentionally, achieve your goals, and exercise your will.</li></ul>

Healthy Self-Esteem

<ul><li>It's the desire to seek out unfamiliar information and experiences.</li><li>There are two types of exploration: behavioral exploration and cognitive exploration.</li><li>Behavioral exploration has two components: social exploration and adventure-seeking.</li><li>Social exploration: engaging with people in a way that helps us learn more about them and the world.</li><li>Cognitive exploration: reasoning and understanding the world through abstract thought.</li><li>Adventure-seekers: mastering their fear and learning new skills.</li></ul>

Exploration Enables You to Grow as a Person

In his writings, Maslow distinguished between deficiency-love (D-love) and love for a person’s whole being (B-love).B-loving people are driven by self-transcendent values, have high levels of tolerance, benevolence, and trustworthiness, and integrate two aspects of human existence that might seem contradictory.Agency involves independence and separation from others; communion involves contact, openness, and participation—being together with others.

Love is More Fulfilling When it's not Based on a Deficiency

<ul><li>A purpose is a sort of focal point. It's the center of your life, around which you can organize all your actions so that each has significance. It also gives you the energy to pursue your goals and encourages perseverance.</li><li>Purpose often means having a calling—an. Overwhelming urge to follow a particular path in life.</li><li>How do I see my work? Is it just a way to make money?</li><li>Do you find it interesting, but only if you make progress and get that promotion?</li></ul>

Purpose is What Gives Meaning to Our Lives

<ul><li>These are experiences of heightened beauty, wonder, joy, or serenity.</li><li>Research suggests that peak experiences are great for mental health.</li><li>They increase motivation and a sense of purpose, make relationships more satisfying, reduce fear of death and encourage personal growth.</li><li>And all peak experiences have one thing in common: self-loss</li><li>When we are in the grip of insecurity, we feel unsure of ourselves or of our identity.</li><li>Experiences like these are what happy memories are made of.</li></ul>

Peak Experiences Enhance Your Sense of Self and Your Connection with the World

<ul><li>It's about being the best version of yourself, mobilizing all your resources in service of this version, and integrating them in a way that raises the standard for the whole of humanity.</li><li>Anyone can have a peak experience, regardless of what motivates them in life. But people who are transcenders are driven by transcendent values and have a vision for humanity.</li></ul>

Transcendence Involves Your Entire Being

Human needs are all closely connected, and the greatest sense of well-being and fulfillment comes when we can integrate them into a healthy whole.

Conclusion

These ideas show how self-actualization is about integrating all your needs into a healthy whole that enables you to grow. They explain how realizing your full human potential can connect you not only to your best possible self, but also to the people around you.

A bold reimagining of Maslow's famous hierarchy of needs--and new insights for realizing your full potential and living your most creative, fulfilled, and connected life. When psychologist Scott Barry Kaufman first discovered Maslow's unfinished theory of transcendence, sprinkled throughout a cache of unpublished journals, lectures, and essays, he felt a deep resonance with his own work and life. In this groundbreaking book, Kaufman picks up where Maslow left off, unraveling the mysteries of his unfinished theory, and integrating these ideas with the latest research on attachment, connection, creativity, love, purpose and other building blocks of a life well lived. Kaufman's new hierarchy of needs provides a roadmap for finding purpose and fulfillment--not by striving for money, success, or "happiness," but by becoming the best version of ourselves, or what Maslow called self-actualization. While self-actualization is often thought of as a purely individual pursuit, Maslow believed that the full realization of potential requires a merging between self and the world. We don't have to choose either self-development or self-sacrifice, but at the highest level of human potential we show a deep integration of both. Transcend reveals this level of human potential that connects us not only to our highest creative potential, but also to one another. With never-before-published insights and new research findings, along with exercises and opportunities to gain insight into your own unique personality, this empowering book is a manual for self-analysis and nurturing a deeper connection not only with our highest potential but also with the rest of humanity.

Theory is useful but not 100%

lack Self-Discipline ?

Helping You To Solve Indecisiveness

103 Bits of Advice I Wish I Had Known – Volume 1

Transcend: The New Science of Self-Actualization

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