I have invested countless hours becoming an expert in my field. This is essential because nearly all public speaking gigs include time for questions. Many speakers aren’t prepared for the random, wide-ranging questions they get and so Q&A can be awkward. I make sure that I know my subject so well I can answer almost every question. If I don’t know the answer, I say, “I don’t know” instead of guessing or estimating.

Become an expert.

My logistical skills are lacking, so two brilliant women cross every T and dot every I for me, and I’m atrocious at salary negotiation, so I have a savvy manager who handles that part with grace and professionalism. Don’t assume that you can do an hour of reading on the internet and suddenly become as good at social media as someone with years of experience. Find an expert and treat them well. Also, once you hire an expert, let them do their job. If you hire a PR professional and you get an email asking you to do a podcast interview, forward it to your PR rep. Don’t interfere with their work.

Hire experts. 

Your slide presentation should be mostly pictures, no complicated graphs or charts, and easily read from the back of a ballroom.

Keep it simple.

Talk about the mistakes that have led you to insight. Otherwise, your talk can come across as 45 minutes of unsolicited advice and, take it from a conversational expert, no one likes unsolicited advice.

Be humble.

Be on time or early, deliver what you promised, and ask lots of questions to make sure you understand what’s needed. Dress professionally and be kind to everyone you meet. That’s good advice for life, I think, but especially for situations in which you might be at a conference in Tampa and not realize that the person in flip flops getting lemonade is actually the president of the company.

Be reliable.  

No matter what your subject matter, your talk should have a beginning, a middle, and an end. Human beings learn best through stories and most of our history was passed on verbally. Reading is a recent innovation. So, write a script that is meant to be heard and not read. No long sentences with subordinate clauses; no excessive adjectives and technical terms. That’s not how people talk and it shouldn’t be how you speak.

Tell a story.

Fly in the night before. I used to try to arrive in the morning if I had an evening engagement, so that I could keep the trip as short as possible. That strategy quickly becomes disastrous though, because of bad weather, late planes, and missed connections. Just fly in the night before and get a full night’s sleep. You want to be rested and relaxed when you’re speaking to large groups of people. On the same note, don’t check bags. No need to take unnecessary chances like that.

Get there early.

If you are being hired as an expert, you’re expected to stay current on the newest research on your subject, as well as cultural trends. Keep notebooks (digital or otherwise) where you collect notes from articles, books, and studies. Update your content constantly. You may give a great speech to an organization, but if you don’t write new material, you can only work for them once.

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There's no simple formula for becoming a paid, successful public speaker. My road involves radio hosting, a TEDx talk & book writing. My other tips inside.

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Becoming A Public Speaker Is Your Journey To Make - Celeste Headlee

When you frame a conversation, •you explain why you want to discuss a particular issue• you explain intentions and desired outcomes for resolving the disagreement,•Explain the significance of your relationship.Frames dictate the rules of the interaction

Frames

Control the frame with how you talk together with your actions.• Set the tone so that the other person is reactive e.g BIG AND BOLD in your introductions• Take your time in reacting to the situation, don't let the situation dictate how you respond. This requires self-control, self-discipline, and a high EQ.• Be despondent to conflict or exterior agitation.

Body Language 

Upward inflection: express an invitation or indicates nervousness Downward inflection: expresses commands and indicates certainty• Introduce yourself to the frame with HIGH ENERGY i.e greetings • Be slow and less reactive when dealing with conflict

Tone

Take NOTHING personalChallenging what is said and defending yourself against empty allegations means you accept the narrative that has been set for you.It is better to be less reactive and maintain self-control. The less you have to defend or explain yourself the more confident you seem.

Confrontation

Have an abundance mindset. Set the belief that no person or one event is more important than the other as this is the EGO talking.Consider your conversations as an opportunity for partnership rather than a zero-sum game. As much as people are lucky to work with you, you are lucky to work with them. It's a partnership, a win-win situation for all involved.Example • You are not selling to the other person but simply helping them find a solutionLet the other people earn YOUR favor

Effortless Impression

Practice negotiating when you don't have to negotiate. In these situations, you are less needy therefore coming across as less desperate.The person with the better option always wins therefore create other options for yourself.

Always have options

Commanding Confidence 

Over the past 12 years, Chris Anderson has had a ringside seat, listening to many hundreds of amazing TED speakers. He’s helped them prepare their talks for prime time, and learned directly from them the secrets of what makes for a great talk.And even though these speakers and their topics all seem completely different, they actually do have one key common ingredient. And it’s this: Your number one task as a speaker is to transfer into your listeners’ minds an extraordinary gift - a strange and beautiful object that we call an idea.

The #1 Task Of A Speaker

During a talk, X number of people, many of whom have never seen each other before, are finding that their brains are starting to sync with the speaker’s brain and with each other. They’re literally beginning to exhibit the same brain-wave patterns. They’re not just feeling the same emotions; there’s something even more startling happening.

Brains Sync

If we could look inside the speaker’s brain, we would see billions of interconnected neurons in an impossible tangle. But if we looked closer, we would see that a few million of them are linked to each other in a way which represents a single idea. And incredibly, this exact pattern is being recreated in real time inside the minds of everyone listening; in just a few minutes, a pattern involving millions of neurons is being teleported into X minds, just by people listening to a voice and watching a face.

Ideas Teleport

What is an idea anyway? Well, we can think of it as a pattern of information that helps us understand and navigate the world. Ideas come in all shapes and sizes, from the complex and analytical to the simple and aesthetic.Our minds are teeming with ideas, and not just randomly. They're carefully linked together. Collectively they form an amazingly complex structure that is our personal worldview. It’s our brain's operating system. It's how we navigate the world. And it is built up out of millions of individual ideas.

Our Ideas Are Our OS

That’s why ideas really matter: if communicated properly, they're capable of changing, forever, how someone thinks about the world, and shaping their actions both now and well into the future. Ideas are the most powerful force shaping human culture.

Human Software Update: New Ideas Installation

If you accept that your number one task as a speaker is to build an idea inside the minds of your audience, here are four guidelines for how you should go about that task: <ol><li>limit your talk to just one major idea</li><li>give your listeners a reason to care</li><li>build your idea, piece by piece, out of concepts that your audience already understands</li><li>make your idea worth sharing</li></ol>

Guidelines For Successfully Installing Ideas 

Ideas are complex things; you need to slash back your content so that you can focus on the single idea you’re most passionate about, and give yourself a chance to explain that one thing properly. You have to give context, share examples, make it vivid. So pick one idea, and make it the line running through your entire talk, so that everything you say links back to it in some way.

Limit Your Talk To Just One Major Idea

Before you can start building things inside the minds of your audience, you have to get their permission to welcome you in. And the main tool to achieve that? Curiosity. Stir your audience’s curiosity. Use intriguing, provocative questions to identify why something doesn’t make sense and needs explaining. If you can reveal a disconnection in someone’s worldview, they’ll feel the need to bridge that knowledge gap. And once you've sparked that desire, it will be so much easier to start building your idea.

Give Your Listeners A Reason To Care

You use the power of language to weave together concepts that already exist in your listener’ minds - but not your language, their language. You start where they are. The speakers often forget that many of the terms and concepts they live with are completely unfamiliar to their audiences. Now, metaphors can play a crucial role in showing how the pieces fit together, because they reveal the desired shape of the pattern, based on an idea that the listener already understands.

Build From Your Listeners’ Ground Up

Ask yourself the question: “Who does this idea benefit?” And be honest with the answer. If the idea only serves you or your organization, then, sorry, it’s probably not worth sharing. The audience will see right through you. But if you believe that the idea has the potential to brighten up someone else’s day or change someone else’s perspective for the better or inspire someone to do something differently, then you have the core ingredient to a truly great talk, one that can be a gift to them and to all of us.

Make Your Idea Worth Sharing

There's no single formula for a great talk, but there is a secret ingredient that all the best ones have in common. TED curator Chris Anderson shares this secret - along with four ways to make it work for us.

There's no single formula for a great talk, but there is a secret ingredient that all the best ones have in common. TED curator Chris Anderson shares this secret -- along with four ways to make it work for you. Do you have what it takes to share an idea worth spreading?

TED's Secret To Great Public Speaking

<ol><li>Tell the audience what you’re going to say</li><li>Say it to your audience</li><li>Then tell them what you’ve said</li></ol>

3 Parts For Telling Something To An Audience

This popular advice allows speakers to hammer their points with repetition, but I wonder how many members of the audience will remain awake. Do you know who originated this tripartite template? I have seen it credited to the ancient philosopher Aristotle and the self-help pioneer Dale Carnegie.

At the end you have to review what you have already said. Here you may properly do what some wrongly recommend doing in the introduction-repeat your points frequently so as to make them easily understood. What you should do in your introduction is to state your subject, in order that the point to be judged may be quite plain; in the epilogue you should summarize the arguments by which your case has been proved.

At The End 

Radio expert John Horn says the continuing popularity of several stale and long-familiar comedy programs reminds him of the political spell-binder who gave this frank explanation for his success: “First I tells ’em what I’m gonna tell ’em. Then I tells ’em. Then I tells ’em what I told ’em.”

A friend presented me the concept and it made me curious

Tell ’Em What You’re Going To Tell ’Em

Tommy Shelby from Peaky Blinders is a quiet, introverted character but also highly charismatic.  We can learn eight habits from him to instantly command more respect from the people around us.

Commanding respect

Don't be in a rush. It instantly gives the sense that you're above feeling daunted. Moving slowly and comfortably in a situation where people would be stressed shows you don't feel intimidated or pressured.

Use slow, relaxed movements

Holding eye contact all the time during conflict can be a mistake as it can escalate the tension if neither of you is willing to break.  The goal isn't to never break eye contact but to know what your behaviour signals to other people. <ul><li>Hold eye contact if your priority is to show you're not intimidated.</li><li>Look down if your focus is to de-escalate and defuse the situation. </li><li>You can hold eye contact for three to five seconds, then break to the side instead of down.</li></ul>

Comfortable holding eye contact

You can project confidence without speaking. Being non-reactive in situations where most people would lose it shows you feel confident in your ability to handle whatever is happening.  The goal here isn't to fake that you're okay while freaking out on the inside. It's to cultivate a genuine deep internal confidence.

Don't be reactive to hostility

Gail up your hand gestures when you're speaking to more people.

Be as big as your audience

Show conviction with your words. When you speak about your plans for the future, don't say "I hope" or "I want" but "I will". Show conviction with your tone. Turning your tone upward makes statements sound like questions. This gives the impression that you're unsure of yourself.

Focus on how you speak

<ul><li>Take a pause when people most want to hear what you have to say.</li><li>You may worry that speaking slowly and pausing a lot will lead to people cutting you off. You can prevent this by continuing to speak in that same slow-speaking cadence until you're finished with your sentence.</li><li>Don't shout. Quiet words can carry massive weight.</li></ul>

Speak slowly and use pauses between words to hold attention

For example, focussing on "I" is not very persuasive if you want a raise or promotion from work. So instead, focus on the value you can add to the company by playing at a higher level. Work with your boss to create a concrete list. At the same time, go out and get other job offers. Then, if they want to back out from the agreement, you can tell them that you want to stay, but you have other offers that pay more.

Use a carrot-stick motivation

Join Over 13,000 Members At Charisma University: https://bit.ly/3Nondse Subscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-Subscribe People love Tommy Shelby from Peaky Blinders. He’s a quiet, introverted character, and at the same time extremely charismatic. While you don’t want to be like Tommy in every way, there are 8 habits you can learn from him to instantly command respect from the people around you. ⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 0:00 - Intro 0:21 - #1: Have slow, relaxed movements 0:57 - #2: Hold eye contact, even during conflict 1:57 - #3: Be non-reactive to hostility 3:00 - #4: Be as big as your audience 3:33 - #5: Show conviction with your words 3:56 - #6: Show conviction with your tone 4:26 - #7: Speak slowly and use pauses between words 6:23 - #8: Use carrot / stick motivation -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- #PeakyBlinders #ThomasShelby #CharismaOnCommand -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us further: Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.com Facebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommand Instagram: @CharismaOnCommand

Becoming A Public Speaker Is Your Journey To Make - Celeste Headlee

Commanding Confidence

TED's Secret To Great Public Speaking

Tell ’Em What You’re Going To Tell ’Em

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