People are often attracted to what pleases the eye, but few make an effort to discover what lies beneath 🦋

Self-help

Kalyani N

Only legends can wake up everyday before 8am to reflect, study and work.

Go study while they party

In today's world, where we jump from trend to trend, we learn how to adapt to new things almost instantaneously. However, in this process of keeping up with society, we lose something bigger - our sense of self.

Journey of Self

One word. Predictibility. When you know what you're made up of, what your thoughts are, what your emotions mean, your triggers, flaws and strengths - you can predict how you'd react, thus, having more control over our reactions. Who we are today is a product of our upbringing, societal expectations, exposure, conditioning etc. When we attempt to strip away all these other layers, we get to the core Self.

Why is it important to learn about yourself? 

There are many different ways to dive into self-discovery. But, you're more likely to commit to it when it's the inner curiosity that pushes you to know more. 1. Regular reflections (be it good or hard times) can be of great help. Simply identifying your emotions and then analyzing them could lead to many breakthroughs. 2. Dive into your trauma (if applicable) - our past trauma has an impact on our present and future, and they have a habit of sneaking up in the most unexpected ways. Reflect on your adverse events and reach a resolution that works for you. To heal, you must feel.

How do we explore the Self?

When you start your journey of Self, you'll discover parts of yourself that you've never seen before. Don't be afraid to interact with them. As you go deeper, it gets more addictive.

In Conclusion

Self-discovery and its importance

1. You can make money but you can't make time.2. Prioritize your family and yourself.3. Don't be afraid to cut off toxic people in your life.4. Take less drama. Always look for things that will make you happy.5. Don't settle for less, you deserve better.6. If you focus on thinking about the future, you are missing your present.7. Appreciate your sorroundings.8. Be the main character of your life.9. It doesn't matter how cheap your things are. As long as it can be use and you are happy with it, it's worth it!10. Stop overthinking!

20 things i learned at 20

11. Love yourself.12. Do what you want in life, not all people will remember what you do.13. Take a risk so you won't regret later.14. Being alone isn't being loney.15. Cherish your present.16. Cucumber taste better in your 20s lol.17. Go out, have fun.18. Be confident.19. Depending on others for your happiness is not healthy.20. Your feelings are valid.

Reflection 

Reflection at 20

“The sky is big enough for all the stars to shine”Ask how a win-win situation looks like for a person across the table.

Win win.

All of us can change. Choose a specific area you want to grow and make consistent effort to achieve your goal. "What’s not growing is as good as dead, so don’t die while you are still breathing”

Personal growth.

“If people just took it a day at a time, they’d be a lot happier.” ― Richard Bachman

A day at a time.

Dont get absorbed to thinking people watch and interested in your every every move. Just live your life to the fullest.

You are not important.

Choose your circle wisely; people who match your standards, people who add something in your life and not substract.

Find your tribe and stick to it.

“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” — Arthur AsheAnza tu!

Start with what you have.

Allow people to be who they are, have their own bodies, ideas etc, while you also habe yours. “It’s coexistence or no existence.” — Bertrand Russell

Coexist.

Organise your life putting everyone where they should be. This helps balance expectations and bring clarity on who has to do what in your life.

Compartmentalize your life.

Children are given to us by virtue of responsibility but not possession. Your children are their own people.

Your kids are not yours.

People will always value you with what you have tagged yourself, and so know your price and then add some.

They will pay what you price yourself.

“Our focus is our future and what we focus on will multiply in our life.” — David DeNotaris.

Your get what you focus on.

Of all the skills of leadership, listening is the most valuable — and one of the least understood. Most captains of industry listen only sometimes, and they remain ordinary leaders. But a few, the great ones, never stop listening. That’s how they get word before anyone else of unseen problems and opportunities.” — Peter Nulty,Fortune Magazine

A leaders power is on his ears.

“Time is more value than money. You can get more money, but you cannot get more time.” — Jim Rohn

Time matters.

They say “age is just a number” (such an annoying saying isn’t it?). As someone who minored in Mathematics both in High School and University, trust me when I tell you numbers do matter a lot. In any…

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