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Building resilience

Kkm Modi on Oct 21

What Universe is constantly trying to convey to you? To persist, be resilient! PRACTICE, PERSIST, PATIENCE!

For the past month or so I've been dabbling with situations that are pushing me to quit! To quit everything! Situations that have made my brains ask questions like why exist? After all that you've been doing, nothing works, nobody cares, then why do, why do you even exist? Oh wait, I thought this blog…

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Experts claim that the most successful people aren’t necessarily the most intelligent or best educated; they’re the most emotionally resilient. They don’t let negative emotions cloud their judgment. Instead, they acknowledge such feelings as being inevitable and take responsibility for their actions. They can step back from a situation and not allow their emotions to take over.

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<ul><li>Everyone has to deal with negative emotions or experiences.</li><li>You can’t choose what happens to you, but you can choose how you respond.</li><li>Taking control of negative emotions isn’t the same as suppressing them.</li><li>“Emotionally resilient” people accept their emotions and take ownership of their actions. They use questions to develop better self-awareness.</li><li>They adopt “power postures” or poses to help strengthen them and defuse negativity.</li><li>Instead of reacting to a stimulus, they change their focus to shift the meaning of the stimulus to indicate a better outcome.</li><li>Emotionally resilient people change or mold their beliefs to control their emotions.</li><li>They ask challenging questions to improve themselves.</li><li>They learn to modify their “self-talk and inner movies” by adjusting the controls.</li><li>They rewire bad habits by modifying the “antecedent, behavior” and “consequence” (ABC) loop of events in their lives.</li></ul>

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"...boils complex issues and ideas down to concise actionable material."~ Thomas Lindey "...a quick read that can have immediate and long term benefits. The exercises in chapter two are really good. The advice in chapters 3 and 4 is spot on. I'm going to share it with my three sons." ~ Phil Barth "Compared to the other self-help books, this one of the easiest books to follow and implement, from start to finish." ~ Alnoor Talwar MASTER THE ONE SKILL ALL PEAK PERFORMERS HAVE IN COMMON What is the one skill that the world's most successful leaders, athletes and business people have in common? And more importantly, how can you harness this skill to achieve greater success, fulfillment and well-being in your business and personal life? New research reveals that resilience - more than IQ - is a key factor in determining your success and well-being, at work as well as in your relationships. In fact, studies show that people with higher levels of resilience have higher productivity, better health, greater morale, higher job satisfaction and lower stress. DISCOVER 7 SCIENCE-BACKED TOOLS THAT MAKE THE DIFFERENCE WHEN IT COUNTS In this book, you will discover the 7 things resilient people do differently...and how to apply them in your own life so that you can: * Persevere through adversity. * Quickly bounce back from disappointments. * Break negative emotional patterns by taking control of your self-talk and inner movies. * Instantly shift your emotional state using the power of physiology. * Create greater drive and ambition by mastering the use of self-directed questions. * Supercharge your energy levels at a moment's notice. * Experience even greater excitement, passion, happiness and fulfillment in every area of your life. Using the 7 habits of resilient people discussed in this book, you will be able to handle the vulnerabilities of intimate relationships, the risks and failures of business and the ups and downs of life. RAVE REVIEWS FROM READERS "...a great book if you're looking to master your emotions, become more resilient, flexible, and ultimately successful..." ~ M. Sean Marshall "I'll definitely be reading this book again, because I spent the whole time analyzing my own thoughts and reactions and found a great deal to work on." ~ Rebecca Vickers "[Akash] has knocked it out of the park... A great read full of examples...Highly recommended." ~ Jamie Hill Just one idea in this book might be the what you need. Ready to get stared? Then take advantage of this limited-time introductory pricing, scroll up and click the BUY NOW button to grab your copy...

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Getting turned down or away is discouraging no matter how many years you’ve invested in your professional journey.But even though it stings at first, rejection may actually make you tougher in the long run. The key to achieving your career ambitions comes down to one question: How many times are you willing to pick yourself up after falling down?

Rejection sucks. Always has, always will

In fact, some of the most successful household names have been turned away, more than once. Stephen King, the man who wrote the book on writing saw 30 rejections from publishers for his novel Carrie — the same work that launched his career and spawned an iconic horror movie.

It’s comforting to know that setbacks are common

“One of the most critical skills that can help someone cope with rejection is resilience — or the ability to quickly recover from challenges. Luckily, resilience is not just a static attribute but a learned, lifelong skill that can be honed, just like a muscle that can be strengthened and grown over time.”

<ol><li>G: Ground yourself in the situation.</li><li>R: Recognize what you can control.</li><li>O: Organize your resources.</li><li>W: Work with your community for support.</li></ol>

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Everyone Gets Rejected — Here’s How to Move On

Resilience refers to how well you can deal with and bounce back from the difficulties in life. <ul><li>It can mean the difference between handling pressure and losing your cool. Resilient people tend to maintain a more positive outlook and cope with stress more effectively.</li><li>Research has shown that while some people seem to come by resilience naturally, these behaviours can also be learned.</li></ul>Whether you're going through a tough time now or you want to be prepared for the next one, here are 10 techniques you can focus on in order to foster your own resilience.Check out the tips 💜

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In the face of crisis or tragedy, finding a sense of purpose can play an important role in your recovery.<ul><li>This might mean becoming involved in your community, cultivating your spirituality, or participating in activities that are meaningful to you.</li></ul>

1. Find a sense of purpose

Having confidence in your own ability to cope with stresses of life can play an important part in resilience. <ul><li>Becoming more confident in your own abilities, including your ability to respond to and deal with a crisis, is a great way to build resilience for the future.</li></ul>Listen for negative comments in your head. When you hear them, practice immediately replacing them with positive ones, such as, "I can do this," "I'm a great friend/mother/partner," or "I'm good at my job."

2. Believe in your abilities

It's important to have people you can confide in, Having caring, supportive people around you acts as a protective factor during times of crisis. <ul><li>While simply talking about a situation with a friend or loved one won't make your troubles go away, it allows you to share your feelings, get support, receive positive feedback, and come up with possible solutions to your problems. </li></ul>

3. Develop a strong social network

Flexibility is an essential part of resilience. By learning how to be more adaptable, you'll be better equipped to respond when faced with a life crisis. <ul><li>Resilient people often utilize these events as an opportunity to branch out in new directions. While some people may be crushed by abrupt changes, highly resilient individuals are able to adapt and thrive.</li></ul>

4. Embrace change

Staying optimistic during dark periods can be difficult, but maintaining a hopeful outlook is an important part of resiliency. What you are dealing with may be difficult, but it's important to remain hopeful and positive about a brighter future.<ul><li>Positive thinking does not mean ignoring the problem in order to focus on positive outcomes. It means understanding that setbacks are temporary and that you have the skills and abilities to combat the challenges you face.</li></ul>

5. Be optimistic

When you're stressed, it can be all to easy to neglect you own needs. lsoing your appetite, ignoring exercise, and not getting enough sleep are all common reactions to a crisis situiation.<ul><li>Instead, focus on building self-nurturance skills, even when you are troubled. make time for activities that you enjoy.</li></ul>By taking care of your own needs, you can boost your overall health and resilience and be fully ready to face life's challenges.

6. Nurture yourself

Research suggests that people who are able to come up with solutions are better able to cope with problems than those who cannot.<ul><li>Whenever you encounter a new challenge, make a quick list of some of the potential ways you could solve the problem.</li></ul>Experiment with different strategies and focus on developing a logical way to work through common problems. By practising your problem-solving skills on a regular basis, you will be better prepared to cope when a serious challenge emerges.

7. Develop problem-solving skills

Crisis situations are daunting. They may even seem insurmountable. Resilient people are able to view these situations in a realistic way and then set reasonable goals to deal with the problem.<ul><li>When you find yourself becoming overwhelmed by a situation, take a step back to simply assess what is before you. </li><li>Brainstorm possible solutions, and then break them down into manageable steps.</li></ul>

8. Establish goals

Simply waiting for a problem to go away on its own only prolongs the crisis. Instead, start working on resolving the issue immediately. While there may not be any fast or simple solution, you can take steps toward making your situation better and less stressful.<ul><li>Focus on the progress that you have made thus far and planning your next steps, rather than becoming discouraged by the amount of work that still needs to be accomplished.</li></ul>Actively working on solutions will also help you feel more in control.

9. Take action

Resielience may take time to build, so don't get discouraged if you still struggle to cope with problematic events. <ul><li>Everyone can learn to be resilient and it doesn't involve any specific set of behaviors or actions. Resilience can vary dramatically from one person to the next.</li></ul>Focus on practicing these skills, as well as the common characteristics of resilient people, but also remember to build on your existing strengths.

10. Keep working on your skills

Here are behaviors and practices that can help you learn to be more resilient, improve your self-esteem, and guide you in a positive path forward.

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Kkm Modi on Oct 21

I Quit!

Do you know what makes people successful?

Emotional Habits