Your identity is a mirror covered with dust. When you first look in the mirror, the truth of who you are and what you value is obscured. Clearing it may not be pleasant, but only when that dust is gone can you see your true reflection 👥

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Spend a week tracking how much time you devote to the following: family, friends, health, and self. The areas where you spend the most time should match what you value the most. Say the amount of time that your job requires exceeds how important it is to you. That’s a sign that you need to look very closely at that decision. You’re deciding to spend time on something that doesn’t feel important to you

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next step is to decide what your values are and whether your choices are in alignment with them. Contemplating monk values may help you identify your own<ol><li>Higher values</li><li>Lower values</li></ol>

CURATE YOUR VALUEs

Higher values propel and elevate us toward happiness, fulfillment and meaning. Lower values demote us toward anxiety, depression, and suffering

Higher & lower values

fearlessness, purity of mind, gratitude, service and charity, acceptance, performing sacrifice, deep study, austerity, straightforwardness, nonviolence, truthfulness, absence of anger, renunciation, perspective, finding the good, compassion toward all living beings, satisfaction, gentleness/kindness, integrity, determination ✨

Higher values according to Gita ♥️

It is impossible to build one’s own happiness on the unhappiness of others.

Why we Think we are Right Even When we are Wrong are we ashamed or grateful when we discover we were wrong about something? Are we defensive or intrigued when we find information that contradicts something we know? If we aren’t open-minded, we deny ourselves opportunities to learn, grow, and change

EGO IS AN OBSTACLE to GROWTH

You can only keep up the myth of your own importance for so long. If you don’t break your ego, life will break it for you

Importance of breaking 

Appreciate everything, even the ordinary. Especially the ordinary.

GRATITUDE It’s hard to believe that thankfulness could actually have measurable benefits, but the science is there. Gratitude has been linked to better mental health, self-awareness, better relationships, and a sense of fulfillment 🙌❤️

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Thinking like a monk can help you to improve yourself and brings more and more positivity , happiness in your life 🙌🏻✨

Jay Shetty, social media superstar and host of the #1 podcast On Purpose, distills the timeless wisdom he learned as a monk into practical steps anyone can take every day to live a less anxious, more meaningful life. When you think like a monk, you’ll understand: -How to overcome negativity -How to stop overthinking -Why comparison kills love -How to use your fear -Why you can’t find happiness by looking for it -How to learn from everyone you meet -Why you are not your thoughts -How to find your purpose -Why kindness is crucial to success -And much more... Shetty grew up in a family where you could become one of three things—a doctor, a lawyer, or a failure. His family was convinced he had chosen option three: instead of attending his college graduation ceremony, he headed to India to become a monk, to meditate every day for four to eight hours, and devote his life to helping others. After three years, one of his teachers told him that he would have more impact on the world if he left the monk’s path to share his experience and wisdom with others. Heavily in debt, and with no recognizable skills on his résumé, he moved back home in north London with his parents. Shetty reconnected with old school friends—many working for some of the world’s largest corporations—who were experiencing tremendous stress, pressure, and unhappiness, and they invited Shetty to coach them on well-being, purpose, and mindfulness. Since then, Shetty has become one of the world’s most popular influencers. In 2017, he was named in the Forbes magazine 30-under-30 for being a game-changer in the world of media. In 2018, he had the #1 video on Facebook with over 360 million views. His social media following totals over 38 million, he has produced over 400 viral videos which have amassed more than 8 billion views, and his podcast, On Purpose, is consistently ranked the world’s #1 Health and Wellness podcast. In this inspiring, empowering book, Shetty draws on his time as a monk to show us how we can clear the roadblocks to our potential and power. Combining ancient wisdom and his own rich experiences in the ashram, Think Like a Monk reveals how to overcome negative thoughts and habits, and access the calm and purpose that lie within all of us. He transforms abstract lessons into advice and exercises we can all apply to reduce stress, improve relationships, and give the gifts we find in ourselves to the world. Shetty proves that everyone can—and should—think like a monk.

Think Like a Monk

No matter how intelligent you are or what life has thrown at you, there is no way to become more deserving of success than anyone else. If a person loses their business and feels indebted, they’re inviting more frustration and anger into their life. Mentally strong people can shift their focus away from their debt. Hence, they can help people in need. Mentally strong people keep themselves busy doing good deeds.If you follow this guidance, you can stop wasting time, stop feeling like you are owed something and stop resenting others’ success.

1. Mentally Strong People Don’t Feel the World Owes Them Anything

By far, the most harmful drug is self-pity. It is addictive, provides only temporary pleasure, and disconnects people from reality.No one is immune to hard times. However, it is how you react to these situations that is important. Mentally strong individuals do not spend precious time pitying themselves. They replace self-pity with gratitude. Amy Morin provides an example of an American long-distance runner, Marla Runyan. She ran the New York Marathon in a little over two hours. Marla also has a master’s degree in education and has written a book.

2. Mentally Strong People Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves

The most impressive aspect of all this is that she is legally blind.The key to her success lies in her refusal to indulge in self-pity. She’s always refused to identify her illness as a disability. Rather than dwelling on what her illness took away, she’s grateful for what it gave her. In addition, research suggests that developing your gratitude capacity can strengthen you on many levels. In the first place, gratitude improves your physical well-being. A 2003 study found that grateful people suffer less from aches and pains.

When you see a colleague receive a promotion, feelings of envy may come to the surface. While this may be normal, feeling jealous of others’ success eventually leads to resentment, which can distract you from your path.Instead, overcome your envy of other people’s success and learn how to use their success to your benefit.

3. Mentally Strong People Don’t Resent Other People’s Success

Let’s take the example of Milton Hershey. His employee, H.B. Reese, began building a rival candy company in the same city while still working in Hershey’s chocolate factory. Hershey, however, didn’t become angry or resentful. Instead, he gave Reese his full support and allowed Reese to use Hershey’s milk chocolate for his experiments. Throughout those experiments, Reese created a peanut buttercup surrounded by Hershey’s milk chocolate.

Instead of viewing each other’s company as competition, the two men celebrated their successes. They used one another’s power to their advantage. They supported their strengths, and in the end, they both built thriving businesses. The two men continued to collaborate throughout their lives, and after their death, the two companies finally merged. When people enjoy and celebrate success, they attract other successful people, creating opportunities for collaboration and continued success.

When you allow your boss to make you feel a certain way, you give them power over how you think, feel, or even behave. No one should have power over your feelings. You should change your daily vocabulary to recognize that the choices you make are yours.Avoid phrases like “He made me mad,” or “I have to work late today.” One of the biggest factors in taking control of your feelings is forgiveness. When you hold on to anger and resentment, you allow others to limit your ability and disrupt your life. Therefore, it’s important to forgive others for their wrongdoings and focus back on yourself.

4. Mentally Strong People Don’t Give Away Their Power

Forgiveness is also psychologically beneficial, like gratitude. For instance, when people forgive others, their blood pressure decreases, and their hearts beat more calmly. Additionally, those who practice unconditional forgiveness are likely to live longer lives.

When you feel your life is out of control, take out a piece of paper, and draw a horizontal line through the middle. In the top section, write, “What I can’t control.” In the bottom section, write, “What I can control.” When populating the top section, remember you can’t control what has happened. However, you can control what you focus on, what things mean, and how you behave. After you’ve listed the things you can and can’t control, rip off the top section.

5. Mentally Strong People Don’t Focus on Things Beyond Their Control

Many people feel haunted by their past and the legacy of their families. However, it’s possible to find constructive ways to move forward despite one’s origins.Take activist and social worker Wynona Ward. Born in a small village in Vermont, she grew up with a sexually and physically abusive father. Ward didn’t tell anyone about this abuse but worked hard to get ahead in school and escape her hometown. She got married at 17-year-old and began working as a truck driver with her husband. But while she’d worked hard to free herself, others in her family struggled to do so.

6. Mentally Strong People Don’t Dwell on the Past

E.g: Ward discovered that one of her brothers was now abusing his children.She decided to went back to university in Vermont & study every moment of her free time. After significant hard work, she managed to get a law degree. With some financial aid, she founded Have Justice Will Travel, a traveling legal service for families in the countryside dealing with domestic abuse problems. Her actions show us a vital mindset of mentally strong people. Coming to terms with the past doesn’t mean acting as if certain things never happened. You must accept and forgive the past so that you can build on it.

Pleasing everyone can negatively impact mental strength. Suppose you worry too much about pleasing others. In that case, you should learn to make choices that align with your values and act accordingly, even if that means disappointing or upsetting others. When you accept you won’t please everyone, you become stronger and build courage when you anticipate displeasing others.

7. Mentally Strong People Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone

Mentally strong people don’t just pick themselves up and get back on their feet. Before that, they take a moment to find out why they fell off.When you own and study your mistakes, you’re less likely to slide back into your old ways. Experience less resistance to owning and studying a mistake you’ve made by imagining it was performed by someone else. Identify the factors that led to the mistake: thoughts, behaviors, and external factors. Then, write an alternative action for the next time those thoughts, behaviors, and external factors arise.

8. Mentally Strong People Don’t Repeat The Same Mistakes

It’s not as if some people have more willpower than others. It’s just that some people are willing to adapt while others aren’t.Judge Greg Mathis is an excellent example of a mentally strong person. Arrested several times as a teenager, he promised his dying mother he would change. After being released from jail on probation, he started working at McDonald’s and eventually got accepted to Eastern Michigan University, and later, law school. However, due to his record as a criminal, he was barred from working as a lawyer.

9. Mentally Strong People Don’t Shy Away from Change

It would have been easy to let this obstacle from the past stand in his way. But Mathis was always ready for change, even when it seemed improbable. He quickly found other ways to serve the city of Detroit.After a period as the Detroit Neighborhood City Halls manager, he and his wife founded a nonprofit organization. This organization helped young people find work. A few years later, he was elected a judge by the people of Detroit.Mathis’ success is a testament to mentally strong people’s characteristics: embracing change in your life. But how can you embrace change?

The first step is to ask yourself which change you’d like to execute in your life. Think carefully about how this change would make you feel. Pay special attention to negative feelings and thoughts. Once you’ve learned to ignore these types of thoughts, you can create a plan for successful change.

It consists of five steps:<ol><li>Set yourself a 30-day goal.</li><li>Decide on concrete, daily changes in your behavior to help you reach that goal.</li><li>Create a list of anticipated hurdles along the way.</li><li>Create accountability.</li><li>Measure progress.</li></ol>Be more mindful of your feelings around change and use the five steps to prepare for change. In doing so, you’ll be on your way toward your goals.

Don’t be too afraid about what you’re going to do. Every moment of your life is an experiment. The more you experiment, the better.Many people fear taking risks. You must consider life decisions and assess risks carefully. Therefore, it’s essential to learn how to minimize risks and determine which risks are worth the benefits. Calculate risks by asking yourself: “What are the potential costs?”, “What are the potential benefits?”, “How will this affect my goals?”, “What are the alternatives?”, “What is the best thing and the worst thing that can happen?”, ...

10. Mentally Strong People Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks

“How much will this matter in five years?” If you write the answers to these questions, you can review and scrutinize them. Later, this will help you calculate the risks and reach a decision. Taking risks and stepping outside your comfort zone makes you stronger. Perhaps those risks aren’t as scary as you once imagined. Additionally, begin to practice taking risks and facing your fears. Open yourself up to new opportunities and start facing your fears.

Many people experience significant fear of failure. Many will avoid failure at all costs, so they fear taking risks. However, almost every success story begins with a long road of failure and perseverance. Simply put, those who succeed view their failures as stepping stones for improvement. Failure is simply a part of becoming a success and is a sign you are being challenged.

11. Mentally Strong People Don’t Give up After Their First Failure

You are likely surrounded by noise most days. Many seek to maintain those noise levels by turning on the television. They aim to fill those uncomfortable silences, but when you fill your life with noise, you miss a powerful opportunity.

12. Mentally Strong People Don’t Fear Alone Time

Research shows that spending time alone and quietly results in renewal, rejuvenation, inspiration, and reflection. Avoid drowning your thoughts with technology or sounds. Instead, build your mental strength by designating ten minutes each day to be with your emotions. During these ten minutes, you can think about your life goals and determine if you are on track to achieve them. You can also use the opportunity to think about new goals or dreams. Adopt visualization techniques to imagine the life you want. Don’t forget these thoughts by writing them all down in a journal.

You can even take your mindfulness a step further and turn to meditation to become comfortable in silence. Studies have shown that meditation positively alters the brain’s structure by regulating cognition and emotion. Even more, meditation has been proven to positively affect those who struggle with breathing difficulties, tumors, insomnia, chronic pain, and cardiovascular diseases.

A 1972 study looked at whether people succeeded in their New Year’s resolutions. They found that 25 percent of participants had abandoned their resolutions after 15 weeks. In a similar 1989 study, that number had gone down to only one week.The underlying issue is that our goals and expectations are unrealistic.

13. Mentally Strong People Don’t Expect Immediate Results

Here are a few simple rules to help you set realistic goals:<ul><li>Don’t think that change is easy. Accept from the start that reaching your goal will be tough. You’ll have a greater chance of succeeding if you simply accept it’s going to be tough.</li><li>Don’t create a fixed deadline to reach your goal. It’s healthy to have an approximate idea of when you would like to get your result, but don’t make it an all-or-nothing situation.</li><li>Finally, don’t anticipate that achieving your goal will suddenly make your life wonderful.</li></ul>

Sometimes improvements are well-hidden, and occasionally, they even look like steps backward. For example, the author once worked with parents of young children, teaching them how to manage tantrums. The standard advice was to studiously ignore the kids when they threw themselves on the ground and started howling and kicking.

Many parents initially complained. They said the tantrums were getting worse, as the children were screaming louder, making more of a fuss. But if the parents persisted in ignoring them, the tantrums inevitably improved.This example shows that it’s important to be patient, stick to your goal, and keep working at it. You must maintain these actions even when you do not appreciate any progress at a given moment.

"Kick bad mental habits and toughen yourself up."—Inc. Master your mental strength—revolutionary new strategies that work for everyone from homemakers to soldiers and teachers to CEOs. Everyone knows that regular exercise and weight training lead to physical strength. But how do we strengthen ourselves mentally for the truly tough times? And what should we do when we face these challenges? Or as psychotherapist Amy Morin asks, what should we avoid when we encounter adversity? Through her years counseling others and her own experiences navigating personal loss, Morin realized it is often the habits we cannot break that are holding us back from true success and happiness. Indulging in self-pity, agonizing over things beyond our control, obsessing over past events, resenting the achievements of others, or expecting immediate positive results holds us back. This list of things mentally strong people don't do resonated so much with readers that when it was picked up by Forbes.com it received ten million views. Now, for the first time, Morin expands upon the thirteen things from her viral post and shares her tried-and-true practices for increasing mental strength. Morin writes with searing honesty, incorporating anecdotes from her work as a college psychology instructor and psychotherapist as well as personal stories about how she bolstered her own mental strength when tragedy threatened to consume her. Increasing your mental strength can change your entire attitude. It takes practice and hard work, but with Morin's specific tips, exercises, and troubleshooting advice, it is possible to not only fortify your mental muscle but also drastically improve the quality of your life.

13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do

<ul><li>Make way for ambulance. </li><li> If you ask your friends for some house work, feed them as payment. </li><li>Avoid asking someone how much they earn.</li></ul>

Be Good

<ul><li>If someone is typing a password, just look away, turn the other side.</li><li> If you borrow a car/bike, fill up the tank before you return it.</li><li>Avoid using mobile phone, when you are in conversation with someone.</li></ul>

Respect

<ul><li>Do not swipe right or left when someone shows you a photo on their phone.</li></ul> <ul><li>Offer to carry the luggage from elderly.</li><li>While eating on the dining table, avoid keeping your left hand on the table. It is disturbing to the person on your left.</li></ul>

Privacy

<ul><li>Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is treating you for lunch/dinner.</li><li>Never give advice until you're asked.</li></ul> Avoid making surprise visits.

Be Gentle

<ul><li>Don't mess up an apology with an excuse.</li></ul> <ul><li>Don't make plans in front of people you are not inviting.</li></ul> Show the same respect to everyone.

Be Sin

<ul><li>If you see an open tap; put some efforts, go ahead and close it.</li><li> Never invade someone's personal life.</li></ul> In public transport please give your seat if you feel the other person deserves it more.

Responsible

Some rules writeen some rules implied so Remember theses Threads before going somewhere yes we belong to a community who needs to prepare a lot before being social 🥺

 Unwritten Rules You learn

How often did you not say what you needed to, only to replay the conversation that could’ve been? The love you could’ve shown. The bold conversation you could’ve had. And all you’re left with is the agony of “if only.”“If only I’d spoken up.”“If only I’d stayed quiet.”“If only I had said it differently.”There was an underlying shame that accompanied my “mistakes,” real or perceived, and the only way out was to raise the bar even higher for myself. Desperate attempts to please or prove myself in other ways. Constant vigilance for criticism or disapproval.Isn't it?

It Feels Worse Isn't It?

When you speak to yourself with kindness and understanding, you actually build the courage and conscious awareness to take corrective action where needed.﻿Practice: Breathe into the emotions with understanding and talk to yourself with kindness. It may not feel authentic initially, but practice is key!

Meet The Emotion With Compassion

The way we show up as our best selves is to listen to the message the emotion is trying to convey. Practice: Create distance from your emotion and listen to the message it’s trying to convey. Say: “I see you, Shame. How can I help you?”

Listen To An Emotion's Message With Curiosity

Now that you’ve navigated the emotion(s) with compassion and curiosity, you’re ready to decide on the right thing to do. Unlike action that’s underpinned by fear or shame, conscious action is pro-social by nature because it’s aligned with your values and leads to feelings of goodness and mastery, both essential for authentic self-worth. You may realize that you can safely let go of the thought and move on. You may realize that you need to meet the other person to clarify what you said—or to apologize.

Decide On The Right Action

Practice: Ask yourself, “What would the best version of me do right now?” Check in with yourself whether the action is aligned with who you want to be. And then act on it!Have an awesome day!😊

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When interactions don’t go our way, we often get stuck in an inner commentary of “if only.” Here’s a three-step process to help you get past it.

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Regret Something You Said (or Didn’t Say)? What to Do About It

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Be Unstoppable

Steps: 1) Identify negative thoughts that pop into your mind and write them down 2) Understand the distortion happening with each thought 3) Write a reframed positive version of those thoughts 3) Speak those new positive thoughts as affirmations each day

1. Positive Thinking

Steps: 1) Set one, specific, measurable fitness goal and write it down 2) Make it simple and easy to achieve Eg. 10 pushups before bed 3) Log it daily, keep it simple in the beginning 4) Try to improve on the goal each day/week Eg. 1 more rep

2. Exercise 

Steps: 1) Choose one task you want to get done 2) Plan and dedicate a block of time to do the task 3) Set a time limit to achieve it in 4) Turn your notifications off to get rid of distractions 5) Deep work until the task is done

3. Single tasking 

- Stop procrastinating - Become a top 1% male - Build unstoppable habits - Gain top tier confidence Read "Iron Clad Discipline" and become an unstoppable man.

4. Men, if you want to: 

Steps: 1) Choose an early and consistent waking time 2) Find your intentions for the morning (Workout, homework, business ect) 3) Choose productive habits that align with your intentions 4) Start with a big and healthy breakfast

5. Morning Routine 

Unstoppable people are like warriors. They are always ready to take on the world. They are guided by a light from within, full of boundless energy and unwavering in their goals. They have learned to activate their natural talents and develop the skills necessary to achieve whatever they aim for.

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13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do

Unwritten Rules You learn

Regret Something You Said (or Didn’t Say)? What to Do About It

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