Imagine you do something without thinking; those actings are so smooth and just flows.But when you start thinking about what you're going to do, crap!&nbsp; You just cannot figure out what to do and your feelings and the reality do not match!&nbsp;Let me give you more details.

How to THINK? 

Simple thinking is the ultimate key.&nbsp;<ul><li>If you do something good, you can expect something good.</li><li>If you do less, the more is not going to come up, most likely.</li><li>If your method is sloppy, the job at the end will be sloppy.&nbsp;</li><li>If you care too much, too much at the end will scratch your ears.&nbsp;&nbsp;</li></ul>

Simple Math 

Balance is basically the equality of the poles apart.This beautiful painting above for example:&nbsp;<ul><li dir = "auto">orange and blue are the opposite colors.</li><li dir = "auto">gray is neutral so it does not have any effect.</li><li dir = "auto">orange and blue together complete each other.</li><li dir = "auto">this way, you can appreciate the orange and blue more. Because they can show themselves more with each other.&nbsp;</li></ul>So, always think about what you have and what you expect.&nbsp;If you think that everything is perfect, believe me there is <ins>something wrong</ins> you don't know yet.If you think everything is bad, maybe you just can't see what you have to be <ins>appreciate.</ins>&nbsp;

Law of the Universe: Balance

You can think by your Brain but cannot decide without your Heart! That's actually a scienctific fact but we'll look at it later. So, you defined all the logical data and make a good connection between what you have and what you want. And also, you draw a couple of possibilities you may choose.&nbsp;So, how you're gonna choose? Basically all these paths are equal and direct you to same goal.&nbsp;That, you need to listen your emotions. <ul><li>You need to feel yourself</li><li>ask, am I feeling comfortable with this idea?</li><li>or am I feeling stressed and scared?</li></ul>

Heart or Brain?

Emotional Intelligence was an international phenomenon, appearing on the New York Times bestseller list for over a year and selling more than five million copies worldwide. Now, once again, Daniel Goleman has written a groundbreaking synthesis of the latest findings in biology and brain science, revealing that we are “wired to connect” and the surprisingly deep impact of our relationships on every aspect of our lives. Far more than we are consciously aware, our daily encounters with parents, spouses, bosses, and even strangers shape our brains and affect cells throughout our bodies—down to the level of our genes—for good or ill. In Social Intelligence, Daniel Goleman explores an emerging new science with startling implications for our interpersonal world. Its most fundamental discovery: we are designed for sociability, constantly engaged in a “neural ballet” that connects us brain to brain with those around us. Our reactions to others, and theirs to us, have a far-reaching biological impact, sending out cascades of hormones that regulate everything from our hearts to our immune systems, making good relationships act like vitamins—and bad relationships like poisons. We can “catch” other people’s emotions the way we catch a cold, and the consequences of isolation or relentless social stress can be life-shortening. Goleman explains the surprising accuracy of first impressions, the basis of charisma and emotional power, the complexity of sexual attraction, and how we detect lies. He describes the “dark side” of social intelligence, from narcissism to Machiavellianism and psychopathy. He also reveals our astonishing capacity for “mindsight,” as well as the tragedy of those, like autistic children, whose mindsight is impaired. Is there a way to raise our children to be happy? What is the basis of a nourishing marriage? How can business leaders and teachers inspire the best in those they lead and teach? How can groups divided by prejudice and hatred come to live together in peace? The answers to these questions may not be as elusive as we once thought. And Goleman delivers his most heartening news with powerful conviction: we humans have a built-in bias toward empathy, cooperation, and altruism–provided we develop the social intelligence to nurture these capacities in ourselves and others.

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The professional benefits of networking are well-documented. But if the very thought makes you squirm with discomfort, you aren’t alone.
Networking makes people feel morally impure, especially workers lower on the professional food chain who see engaging in networking as selfish. Still, failure to network has real consequences for workplace performance.
New research suggests that, for those who loathe happy-hour meetups and employee get-togethers, a change in attitude could be the ticket to a bigger network and more productive career.

Networking Professionally

“Think about networking as an opportunity rather than a burden. That’s the biggest hurdle you need to overcome.”

In an extensive research, it was found that the more promotion-focused respondents were, the less impure they felt about networking; the more prevention-focused they were, the more they experienced that “ick” factor.

Making Networking Less Uncomfortable

<ul><li>Researchers examined how encouraging a promotion or prevention focus might influence people’s responses to networking.&nbsp;</li><li>They looked at two different kinds of networking: spontaneous, unintentional networking and intentional, concerted glad-handing.</li></ul> Results of various related studies showed that promotion focus results in fewer feelings of impurity, but a prevention focus has you reaching for a hand sanitizer.

A Prevention Focus: Networking Feels Like Dirty Work

Further statistical analysis confirmed that it was the greater feelings of impurity that led people in the prevention group to network less than people in the promotion group. In other words, if you can shake off the dirty feeling, you’re more likely to shake new hands.

Research Into Practice

<ul><li>Research offers a simple way to help reluctant networkers overcome their discomfort.</li><li>The more you view networking through that promotion-focused lens, the easier it will feel, and the more likely you’ll be to actually do it.</li><li>Remind yourself that networking isn’t just selfish.</li><li>By expanding your own professional network, you may be able to help employees or colleagues find their next opportunities.</li></ul>

Washing Your Hands of Networking Discomfort

If you’re avoiding networking opportunities, you’re likely hurting your career. A simple shift in mindset could get you back in the game.

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Dread Networking? Here’s How to Make It Feel Less Icky.

Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other peopleRule 2: SmileRule 3: Remember that a person's name to them is the sweetest and most important sound in any languageRule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselvesRule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest.Rule 6: Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.

Six Ways To Make People Like You

Everybody likes a compliment.

Principle 1: Do not criticize, condemn or complain Principle 2: Give honest and sincere appreciation Principle 3: Arouse in the other person an eager want

Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

Everything you and I do springs from 2 motives: the sex urge, and the desire to be great

Rule 1: The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. Rule 2: Show respect for the other man's opinions. Never tell a man he is wrong. Rule 3: If you're wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically. Rule 4: Begin in a friendly way. Rule 5: Get the other person saying "yes, yes". immediately. Rule 6: Let the other man do a great deal of the talking.

Twelve Ways of Winning People to Your Way of Thinking

Be hearty in approbation and lavish in praise.

Rule 7: Let the other man feel that the idea is his. Rule 8: Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view. Rule 9: Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires. Rule 10: Appeal to the nobler motives. Rule 11: Dramatize your ideas. Rule 12: Throw down a challenge.

Twelve Ways of Winning People to Your Way of Thinking (Pt 2)

Once I did bad, that I heard ever. Twice I did good, that I heard never.

Rule 1: Begin with praise and honest appreciation. Rule 2: Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly. Rule 3: Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person. Rule 4: Ask questions instead of giving direct orders. Rule 5: Let the other person save face. Rule 6: Praise the even the slightest improvement. Rule 7: Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to. Rule 8: Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct. Rule 9: Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

Nine Ways to Change People Without Giving Offence or Arousing Resentment

Few human beings are proof against the implied flattery of raft attention.

Provides suggestions for successfully dealing with people both in social and business situations

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Social Media is training us to compare our lives, instead of appreciating everything we are. No wonder everyone is always depressed.

Perfect for the Bill Murray fan in all of us, this epic collection of “Bill Murray stories”—many reported for the first time here—distills a set of guiding principles out of his extraordinary ability to infuse the everyday with surprise, absurdity, and wonder. No one will ever believe you. New York Times bestselling author Gavin Edwards, like the rest of us, has always been fascinated with Bill Murray—in particular the beloved actor’s adventures off-screen, which rival his filmography for sheer entertainment value. Edwards traveled to the places where Murray has lived, worked, and partied, in search of the most outrageous and hilarious Bill Murray stories from the past four decades, many of which have never before been reported. Bill once paid a child five dollars to ride his bike into a swimming pool. The star convinced Harvard’s JV women’s basketball team to play with him in a private game of hoops. Many of these surreal encounters ended with Bill whispering, “No one will ever believe you” into a stranger’s ear. But The Tao of Bill Murray is more than just a collection of wacky anecdotes. A sideways mix of comedy and philosophy, full of photo bombs, late-night party crashes, and movie-set antics, this is the perfect book for anyone who calls themselves a Bill Murray fan—which is to say, everyone. Praise for The Tao of Bill Murray “When confronted by life’s challenges and opportunities, we should all be asking ourselves, ‘What would Bill Murray do?’ This book actually has the answers.”—Jay Duplass, writer, director, actor, fan of Bill Murray “[Gavin Edwards] captures Murray’s enigmatic, comic genius.”—The Washington Post “Rib-tickling.”—Newsday “If you are among the multitudes who have a Bill Murray story (viz: ‘I was in the airport bar, and who sat down next to me but Bill Murray?’), The Tao of Bill Murray will speak to you.”—Elle “Murray is an endless delight, and his knack for bons mots and non sequiturs will keep readers laughing before revealing an unexpectedly poignant vision for happiness. . . . A fun and revealing look behind the charm and mythos of Bill Murray that will only strengthen his legend.”—Kirkus Reviews “This book is bursting with anecdotes that underline Murray’s unconventional and fun-loving life. . . . Murray’s fans are sure to savor [it] and walk away with a deeper appreciation of the actor and his work.”—Publishers Weekly (starred review) “I just can’t fathom how anyone could not like the man. He lives as much as possible by his own rules; this is a guy who doesn’t buy round-trip airline tickets because he prefers to make decisions on the fly. That old question of the three people you’d most like to have dinner with? I’d pick Bill Murray and leave the other two chairs empty just to see who he pulls over to join us. . . . You will love The Tao of Bill Murray. Period.”—GeekDad “A hilarious read—occasionally heartwarming, sometimes head-scratching. . . . Sure to please Murray fans.”—Library Journal

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