We refer to self-absorbed people by different names—<a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/narcissism">narcissistic </a>, egocentric, self-serving, vain, self-indulgent, or conceited. Such people have additional traits that, when taken together, form a distinct <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/personality">personality </a>style. Personality comprises your enduring ways of thinking, behaving, and displaying emotions.In studying egocentric people for forty years, Homer B. Martin, MD, and I discovered details of their unique ways of thinking, behaving, and emoting that make up their personalities. We discovered they go through their lives believing unconsciously they are inert and helpless. In our book, Living on Automatic, we refer to this as the <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/conditions/erectile-disorder">Impotent </a>Personality. We use the word impotent to mean helpless, ineffective, weak, lacking in vigor, and unable to take effective action. We discovered that characteristics of the impotent personality include being demanding, capricious, irresponsible, arrogant, whimsical, and insatiable. Such people have inflated <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/self-esteem">self-worth </a>. They blame others for their own deficiencies and have tunnel vision. Their commitment to relationships is conditional, not steadfast.Those with impotent personalities change their demands according to their whims. They want something and the next moment demand the opposite. They see no inconsistency in the new expectation. They justify capricious demands by saying, “I changed my mind. I want this now.” They had such whimsical behavior accommodated in childhood. It becomes a part of their impotently-conditioned role and their helplessness. They believe they are incapable of being steadfast or sticking with one idea or one desire.

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يعرّف الخبراء تطوير الذات على أنّه السعي الجاد لاكتساب المعارف وتعلّم المهارات، إن تطوير الذات حاجة ضرورية لا يمكن تجاهلها فهي تشعر الفرد بالثقة وتساعده على التميّز وإثبات النفس فينطلق للعمل بحماس ونشاط ليحقق كل أحلامه وأهدافه، إذا كنت تسعى عزيزي لتطوير ذاتك تابع قراءة المقال سنقدم لك أفكار مدهشة تساعدك على تطويرها.

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يعرّف الخبراء تطوير الذات على أنّه السعي الجاد لاكتساب المعارف وتعلّم المهارات، إن تطوير الذات حاجة ضرورية لا يمكن تجاهلها فهي تشعر الفرد بالثقة وتساعده على التميّز وإثبات النفس فينطلق للعمل بحماس ونشاط ليحقق كل أحلامه وأهدافه، إذا كنت تسعى عزيزي لتطوير ذاتك تابع قراءة المقال سنقدم لك أفكار مدهشة تساعدك على تطويرها.

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