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Read your way to success

85 % of millionaires read at least two books per months.

So, as cliche as it sounds, people who read, succeed.

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How To Read A Book A Week - 3 PROVEN Tricks

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  • Implementation intention: this basically means setting an appointment to read.
  • Chunking: It means to break down a big task (your book) into smaller, manageable parts.
  • Temptation bundling: it happens when we associate a tasks we dislike with something we enjoy.

The biggest problem with reading is the starting point, actually starting to read - we buy tons on books for "later" and we never read them.

By physically scheduling a time and place for starting to read, you're setting an appoint to do so. And we tend to respect our appointments.

One of the main reasons we start reading books and never finish them is the fact that those books seem too big and intimidating.

When you break down a book and measure your progress by its chapters, your brain will no longer see it as a huge obstacle you have to overcome.

Tell yourself that after every chapter you read, you are going to reward yourself with the next episode of the show you like.

After doing so for a while, you will start to actually like reading, because your brain will associate it with something pleasant.

Big decisions are significant because they are rare

We make decisions throughout life. Some decisions are big and affect our lives for years or even decades.

A big decision is so significant because it is rare. You don't get an opportunity to learn from your mistakes. This makes it important to learn from others who have been there before.

I asked hundreds of people about their biggest life decisions. Here's what I learned

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Research found decisions that are very significant and common are getting married and having a child. Other fairly common big life decisions include starting a new job and pursuing a career.

Less common, but among the highest-ranked life decisions include ending a life of an unborn child or a dying parent and engaging in self-harm.

Much can be learned about how to make good life decisions by finding out what people's biggest regrets are. The five biggest regrets are:

  • I wish I'd dared to live a life true to myself, not what others expected of me.
  • I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
  • I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
  • I wish I'd stayed in touch with my friends.
  • I wish I had let myself be happier.

Women commonly have regrets about romance/family, while men have regrets about career/education.

  • Inaction causes regret. (Deciding not to pursue something.) Males, in particular, regret not pursuing a romantic relationship.
  • Poor decisions produce greater regret when you can't justify those decisions afterwards.
  • Poor decisions in domains relevant to our sense of social belonging. (Breaking up your family by having a fling.)
  • Regrets for lost opportunity, such as not being there for your children while they were growing up.
  • Decisions that move you further from the ideal person you want to be.
  • The most important life decisions relate to family and friends. Spend time getting these decisions right, and don't let other distractions undermine these relationships.
  • Seize opportunities. You can always apologise or change course later, but you can't go back in time.
  • Avoid making decisions that are against your personal values.
  • Is to spend more than half of your work day in a semi-conscious state, in-and-out of focus
  • to be addicted to technology, stimulants, unhealthy eating, and distraction
  • to lack purpose in your life
  • to be apathetic
  • to not really believe in anything with enough conviction to sacrifice for it, invest in it, and fight for it.

10 Ways to Make Peak-State Decisions and Invest in Yourself - Medium

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... means you’re operating at the level you want to be, so that you can achieve ambitions beyond anything you've done before. You can reach this state by: 

  • Getting your body moving and breathing deeply (some of the easiest ways to get into a peak state).
  • Listening to music that motivates you.
  • Giving a genuine compliment or being kind to someone.
  • Learning and expanding your mind.
Morning rituals

They are what triggers a peak state.

The core purpose for having a morning routine is to put yourself into a peak state in the morning — so you can then operate from that state for the rest of your day. Rather than being reactive, addicted, and unconscious in your morning — it’s far better to proactively put yourself in a peak state in a ritualistic manner.

When you make a definitive decision to live differently, you need to continually re-create the experience that spawned the decision, because there will be resistance to your living out that decision.

You need to act consistently from the peak state that formed your decision. So, you need to develop a routine of regularly getting yourself into a peak state.

This investment is almost always what triggers a "point of no return moment". It’s that point in time when a person becomes truly committed.

Once you make an investment in your decision, you solidify your new identity. Your role changes. You become a leader of the cause you’re about.

Reach out to the right people
If you’re striving to do something big, you will not be able to do it alone.

Reach out to the right people. People who won’t let you fail. Or, who will at least give it to you straight when you’re going the wrong direction. And you will go the wrong direction, from time-to-time, because egos, money, time, and other things are on the line.

Richard Marcinko
“The more you sweat in training, the less you bleed in combat.”
lf-made is an illusion. There are many people who played divine roles in you having the life that you have today. Be sure to let them know how grateful you are. Example: the person who introduced you to the person who introduced you to your spouse or business partner or client. Go back that far.”&n

Because no one care about your success more than you do. Most of the people around you will hold you to a lower standard - they are too busy with their own goals to care about yours.

Hence, you need to put people around you who will hold you to the standard of your decision, or an even higher one.

Judy Blume
Each of us must confront our own fears, must come face to face with them. How we handle our fears will determine where we go with the rest of our lives. To experience adventure or to be limited by the fear of it.

Inspiring Quotes to Help You Face Your Fears

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Dale Carnegie
Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.
Eleanor Roosevelt
You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.' You must do the thing you think you cannot do.
Marie Curie
Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
He who is not everyday conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life.
Marilyn Monroe
We should all start to live before we get too old. Fear is stupid. So are regrets.
Salvador Dali
Have no fear of perfection--you'll never reach it.
Louisa May Alcott
I'm not afraid of storms, for I'm learning how to sail my ship.
Henry Ford
One of the greatest discoveries a man makes, one of his great surprises, is to find he can do what he was afraid he couldn't do.

You don't need to master every detail of every subject to become a world-class thinker.

If you can master the fundamentals of each discipline, then you can develop a remarkably accurate and useful picture of life.

How to Train Your Brain to Think in New Ways

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Mental Models: Out of Box Thinking

Mental models are the various thinking frameworks that are used to understand life, make decisions, and solve problems.

Just raw intelligence is not enough to solve problems. A different or a broader set of mental models can provide a different view of the problem, leading to an unconventional, new solution not thought of before.

Mental Models: Examples

A mental model is an explanation of how something works. They are beliefs, worldviews or frameworks of thinking. You carry a certain kind of thinking in you to arrive at a solution to a problem.

Some examples:

  • Demand and Supply: to understand the economy
  • Game Theory: to understand trust and relationships
  • Entropy: to understand disorder and decay
Yuval Noah Harari
Scientists generally agree that no theory is 100 percent correct. Thus, the real test of knowledge is not truth, but utility.
Different perspectives

Each individual mental model is just one view of reality. The challenges and situations we face in life cannot be entirely explained by one field or industry.

All perspectives hold some truth. None of them contain the complete truth.

Charlie Munger
“All the wisdom of the world is not to be found in one little academic department.
Liquefy all your Knowledge

Develop "liquid knowledge" that flows easily from one topic to the next.

Instead of separating knowledge into different sections, isolating it, we are better off expanding, merging and liquefying the knowledge.

Reading Fiction
  • What may sound a bit counterintuitive, is that reading fiction can provide us with self-improvement benefits, even though the stuff we read would just be a figment of someone’s imagination.
  • Fictional books, poetry and other works are a form of therapy for many centuries, with their unique spell that taps into our creativity and forms beautiful worlds inside our minds
  • Reading also helps us sleep better, be less stressful, have a high level of self-esteem, and low rates of anxiety and depression.

The Surprising Power of Reading Fiction: 9 Ways it Make Us Happier and More Creative

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Imagining stories activates the particular regions inside our minds that facilitate better understanding of others and seeing our surroundings with a new perspective, equivalent to putting oneself in someone else's shoes.

When we read about a situation and how someone else is feeling, we create the feeling inside our minds.

With just six minutes of silent reading, a person can lower their heart rate and ease the tension in their muscles by about 68 percent.

Reading puts our mind in a low gear, resting its cognitive ‘chips’ and disengaging it from active duty for a while. Reading puts our mind into a light trance, a form of meditation, and has similar benefits like relaxation and a peaceful, calm feeling.

Reading non-fiction before bed makes us project into the future, and increases our anxiety levels.

Reading fiction does the opposite, it stokes our imagination, disengaging our mind from the day’s tensions and being conducive to a relaxing sleep.

Reading fiction can help us explore many ideas of complex emotions, change and other unknown factors that are missing from our lives.

Peeking into a different (fictional) reality of someone else's story helps us learn how others live and adapt to changing situations, something that benefits us in our life situation.

Hearing a good story makes us remember information for a long period of time. Studies show that regular readers have better memory, and a 32 percent lower rate of mental decline.

Even memory-related disorders like Alzheimer’s disease are less in regular readers, according to a study published in Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences.

Reading fictional tales with diverse characters makes a reader more tolerant and open-minded towards marginalized groups.

Young readers are less discriminating and more inclusive towards others who come from a different socio-economic background or look different than them.

Reading fiction creates activity in the left temporal cortex region of the brain, which is associated with language.

Reading fiction helps build up our vocabulary, far more than reading non-fiction, as fictional books have a greater variety of words and phrases.

Fictional writings are diverse, uncertain and ambiguous. This leads to creating the ideal environment for creativity inside our minds. It decreases our need for cognitive closure, strengthening our mind.

Reading fiction also leads to having more evolved procedures for processing information in our minds.

Reading makes a large majority of people feel good, more satisfied with life.

Reading for pleasure has been able to foster even with the advent of the internet along with so many attention magnets like video games, smartphones and even Netflix. This is proof that it has something in it that makes people happy.

The Benjamin Franklin Effect Mechanism

Some researchers think this effect comes from our need to reconcile us doing someone a favor and us not liking that person, so we assume that we like them. 

Other researchers think that the one being asked for help senses that the one asking wants to get friendly with them and in turn reciprocates the liking.

Harness the power of the 'Ben Franklin Effect' to get someone to like you

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How your brain becomes dull

In the era where information can be easily accessed by almost everyone, the brain becomes less sharp because we don't use it to find or create solutions anymore.

The brain then gets discontented whenever we can't figure out an answer to our questions in an instant. It chooses to move away from the problem instead of trying to solve it.

Your Superpower: Resourcefulness

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To develop your resourcefulness, ask yourself these questions:

  1. Do you solve your problems in the easiest way you can or do you take the time to figure out a solution?
  2. How can you reach your desired result for the problem?

Make sure to practice this consistently in the moment. To be able to answer your own questions is where creative and astonishing ideas materializes. Take control of your actions, thoughts, and emotions.

The Curse Of Knowledge

The Curse Of Knowledge is common among many experts, teachers and professionals, and is a cognitive bias where the knowledgeable person incorrectly assumes that others are able to decipher what he is trying to say.

This has serious implications in the field of education and sales when the better-informed speaker is unable to adjust their content and words to the level of the audience or prospect.

The curse of knowledge

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