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Nov 11, 2020
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We are born to seek other people's faces. Babies less than 10 minutes old prefer a picture of a human face to other images. People can't resist seeing faces on tree trunks, cloud formations, pieces of toast.
What makes faces so captivating is that they remind us that we share the world with people who are like us but are also unique.
Fearing confrontation never does anybody good, especially to ourselves.
When we don't advocate for ourselves we will never be able to meet our needs. Surely, avoiding confrontation gives us temporary relief from our anxieties but it will not benefit us in the long run because the problem will keep hanging over our heads.
Before you have any conversation about hard topics, find areas of alignment.
In order to have an effective conversation, don't ask a question the other person is not willing to answer. When you desire a certain outcome, see where your goals and theirs align.
“What you’re trying to do, when you tell a story, is to write about an event in your life that made you feel some particular way. And what you’re trying to do, when you tell a story, is to get the audience to have that same feeling.”
It is not the person who has the best idea or the right answer that wins. It is the person who tells the most compelling story that wins.
Many successes work this way. Tesla is worth seven times more than GM and Ford combined, not because it built a good business but because Elon Musk is good at getting peoples attention.
Deep acting is the emotional labour we put in our personality and actions that fulfil the expectations of a desired role.
Just as flight attendants have to be happy at their jobs, and bill collectors have to be nasty, we all have to modify our emotions to suit the various roles we play in our lives.
Honesty is the most important ingredient. You don’t have to be or have gone through something to write about it but you must have a heartfelt feeling about it so you can expose that emotion through your writing.
Our brain uses two separate areas to identify the mood and the real meaning of the words. Words are passed to the left temporal lobe of the brain for processing, and intonation is channelled to the right side of the brain, a region more stimulated by music.