Jenna Sanderson

Researchers identified a negative personality trait named TIV - Tendency toward Interpersonal Victimhood.

People who score high on a TIV test have a lasting feeling that they are victims in different kinds of interpersonal relationships.

Stepping out of our comfort zone to grab hold of opportunities can be difficult.

Sometimes we are not aware of reasons to do so. However, most of the time, our frame of mind is holding us back. Understanding the shifts in thinking can help us step outside of our comfort zone and move into a personal growth zone.

The practice was created by a Buddhist teacher named Roshi Joan Halifax. Many people are adopting this practice because it helps us guide ourselves and support ourselves in any given situation.

Even the name itself invites the body and the mind to calm down and alleviate any stresses with the heart. Before practicing this method you must first find a comfortable position for your body and practice long deep breaths to soothe your mind.

• Gathering Attention. It means to place your focus on a sound or an object where you're most comfortable at
• Recalling Intention. This is to allow yourself to discover new ways to be resilient and engage in self-care.
• Attuning to Self and Others. We need to check ourselves and to keep in mind that we are interconnected with others.
• Considering What Would Serve. It means that self-care is not selfish.
• Ethical Ending and Engagement. We should reflect on what we can do better moving forward.

• Mindfulness is a valuable stress management mechanism. Practising mindfulness can lead to higher life satisfaction, greater self-esteem, and optimism.
• Narrative. Listen to the stories of others and share your stories, too. See what you can learn from others' trials and victories.
• Play. Ensure you make time for fun.

People find comfort in certainty. We form organisations; we structure our activities and strategies around the idea of certainty; we find satisfaction knowing that planning will bring fruition. But the unforeseen makes the greatest difference to our futures.

We look out for the unexpected every day - for example, when we use a pedestrian crossing, we still look out for the unexpected driver who might race through the red light. That awareness of the unexpected is at the core of understanding the science of smart luck that we can use to our benefit.

Research shows that more than 50% of American workers feel disengaged at their jobs.

Research also shows that motivation is very important to feel engaged. Motivation predicts career success better than intelligence, ability, or salary.

Academics often define introversion by what it is not: extroversion. What everyday introverts think about introversion is not really factored in.

As early as 1980, this problem was identified when a study found that the scientific and common-sense definitions of introversion were not the same.

1. You’re more likely to relax if you take more frequent vacations/year and dial down the expectations on each one.
2. Family visits are more likely to result in a feeling of exhaustion. Prioritize your top 10 relationships for the year and find ways to interact with them year-round. 
3. Getting more adventure on your daily life will take the pressure from your vacations to be adventurous making it more relaxing. 
4. Spending some time outdoors reminds us how small and insignificant most of our problems are.
5.  A staycation – a vacation from work without the travel - will help with regulating your sleeping schedule.
6. If you’re traveling don’t hop from place to place, instead try to immerse yourself in them more. 
7. Plan in transitions. Leave home later and come home early, to ease back into your routine over the weekend. 
8. Nearly all deadlines are arbitrary. Map out what needs to be done on your return and extend the deadlines around your holiday instead of trying to meet them all before you leave.
9. Don’t over-plan and over-extend your vacations. 
10. Find the time and space prior to it to focus on work without interruption so you can fulfill your workaholic needs and not feel like you left too much unfinished.

Any time there's a crisis, it can spark self-evaluation. We can wonder where we are in our life and career. Are we doing things that feel fulfilling and challenge us?

Whether you've been unsatisfied in your career path or your job seems risky at the moment, this might be a time to map out a future that is satisfying and potentially financially rewarding.