Without writing, it's pretty hard to capture and freeze your thinking, so that you can sharpen it: for example, observing when you're using words that are not well defined or when you're saying things that don't need to be said.
An easy way of getting into the habit of writing, of moving a pen with the aim of seeing your thinking on paper, is starting the practice of Morning Pages (3 pages of stream of consciousness).
It helps you by taking your worries and negative thoughts from your head and putting them in a freeze-frame (so that you can go along with the rest of your day) and it also allows you to see when you are dull or sharp in your thinking.
... for revising your writing:
Charisma, defined as that irresistible magnetism some people possess, is often thought of as trait you’re born with (you either have it or you don’t).
But the truth is that charisma is a skill you can learn.
There are 3 keys to being charismatic:
... by making a graceful exit. Offer the other person something of value before you go:
Phone anxiety - or telephobia - is the fear and avoidance of phone conversations.
It is more than just disliking a phone. You may feel extremely nervous or anxious before, during and after the call. You may obsess or worry about what you will say. Physical symptoms include nausea, shortness of breath, dizziness, and muscular tension.
Phone calls only focus on our voice. Other social cues are absent, making talking on the phone daunting.
The best way to overcome phone anxiety is to make more phone calls.
If you've tried to overcome your phone anxiety or need professional help, counselling might be a great option. Cognitive-behavioural therapy is another effective treatment.
Most of the intentions behind our actions are hidden. If a person is feeling depressed or angry, usually the resulting behaviors distort their true feelings.
By focusing on empathy you can usually break away these subversions and get to the heart of the issue faster.
Most of the time you feel something, nobody else knows about it. So don’t get angry when people aren’t responding to you.
If you deceive your thoughts with your actions, don’t get angry when you fool people.
It happens when helping you directly or indirectly helps me. And our behavior is largely dictated by it.
Start understanding the motives of people and appeal to them as if they were selfish. Don’t expect people to offer aid outside of selfish altruism, it isn’t impossible, but it isn’t likely.
People are forgetful by nature (especially with information they don't find relatable), so don’t assume hostility or disinterest if something is forgotten.
Don't assume everything is fine just because someone isn’t having a nervous breakdown.
We all have our individual problems, angst, and upsets that are normally repressed.
We are social animals and we feel especially sensitive to any threats to becoming ostracized.
So many people who seem to have it all suffer from periods of loneliness.
We are more likely to share a video or an article that creates a very strong positive or negative emotion in us.
These emotions could be: excitement, happiness and even anger.
Feeling inspired motivates us to better ourselves. It energizes us and pushes us beyond pursuing self-interest to helping others.
Asking sensitive questions can help build stronger relationships. However, we should know how to seek useful information while minimising the discomfort we feel.
We often avoid asking questions that feel too sensitive or personal. But, when negotiating a salary or finding a place to stay, knowing how much a coworker earns or how much a friend pays in rent can be very useful.
Research points out that people avoid asking sensitive questions out of fear that they would offend the other party. But when they finally did ask sensitive questions, most people were far less offended than expected.
Moreover, asking personal questions also triggered meaningful conversations that fostered stronger relationships.
Most of us have felt offended at a remark. However, we have probably also experienced the shock of finding out that others were offended by our comments, even if we had no intention of hurting them.
We take offense at explicitly rude language directed at us. We also take offense at what was meant or implied by a comment.
Our expectations are mostly formed in the context of our relationships with others. When they are breached, we tend to feel offended.
We often take offense outside our personal relationships—for example, a comment on Facebook that ridicules or questions something we find important or of value.
We use our values and beliefs to make judgements. Our belief in specific values may be an important part of our identity and explains why we take offense when those values are not respected.
If you are not sure if you will cause offense, try to put yourself in the shoes of the people you are talking to. Ask yourself if you are saying what they would realistically expect you to say and if you are treating them fairly.
If you feel you take offense too quickly, consider what the offending person may not know about you. Rather than being angry about a comment, remember that they may have a different experience and worldview.
Jargon is used by people to convey certain information in a shortened way and is irritating to hear for some. It conveys a tone of pride and is exclusionary by default.
Studies about using jargons reveal that people with this behavioural trait are insecure or are usually from lower-status institutions.
Research shows that the business world, especially venture capitalists, investors and knowledgeable insiders, are unimpressed by unnecessary jargon, and can even form a negative perception towards new technologies. Doctors using medical jargon are often uncommunicative to the patient.
Even experts agree that certain key terms in jargon can mean different things to different people, making the whole exercise useless.
Jargon is sometimes useful as it makes information concise and clear, at least to the experts. It also helps objectify the problem and create a certain distance, helping in situations (like in the medical field) where emotions may be detrimental to the situation.
Jargons help in forming ‘code words’ which are understood by the inner circle, and create bonds between fellow workers in the same domain.
Cultural Intelligence (CQ) is a system comprising of three well-connected components:
One can develop cultural knowledge through newspapers, movies, travelling to various countries, and interacting officially or personally with people of different cultures, learning new traditions, customs, cuisines, and rich new ways to live life.
One can identify and analyse the different cultures and utilize the knowledge in future.
Experiential learning, On-the-job training or studying abroad make us develop various cross-cultural skills in a course of time. The process takes less time when there is already ample cultural knowledge.
Example: Showing up ten minutes late in a meeting is not considered rude in Spain.
This advanced cognitive understanding of other cultures takes place when one observes and analyzes the behaviour of the person from a different culture you want to learn about.
One needs to pay a good amount of attention to check, reflect and optimize the other person’s behaviour to be able to develop this cognitive ability.