Michelle E.



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The value of small talk

Small talk can be defined by how much information is exchanged. If you know nothing more about the other person than you knew before the conversation, then it is small talk.

Research shows that small talk with people, even with strangers, can boost our mood. While small talk often feels boring and awkward, one can turn it into enjoyable small talk by commenting on a shared experience or asking open-ended questions.




How to talk to children
  • Children often cannot formulate their words to express what they're feeling. If you ask, "How was your day?" they may shrug because they don't know what part of their day you're interested in. Making your questions more specific can help: "What was the best thing about your day?"
  • Try to meet your child's emotions, rather than telling them how to feel. If your child says, "I hate everyone in my class", you may want to tell them that it is not a nice thing to say. Instead, help them find other words to draw out their emotions. "It sounds like you had a really bad day."
Influencing A Change

At first, Steve Jobs insisted he would never make a phone. It took two years for his team to persuade him to reconsider. Within nine months, the App Store had a billion downloads, and a decade later, the iPhone had generated over $1 trillion in revenue.

While many leaders have studied the genius of Jobs, few have studied the genius of those who managed to influence him. While too many overconfident leaders reject worthy opinions, it is possible to get anyone to open their minds.

Popularity of Ted talks

TED talks are watched by more than two million times every day. They have become the standard in public speaking and presentation skills.

So probably your next public speech will be compared to a TED talk. But having to raise your game to the TED-style is not a bad thing; adopting some of the techniques that have brought TED speakers global acclaim will make it much more likely that you will persuade your audience to act on your ideas.

Waiting For The Email Response

A common scenario in the world of remote working is waiting for a response for the email one has sent, looking for the information, input or conversation that is required from a coworker or a client.

While we start to think that we are being ghosted, it is common for people to delay email responses as they are juggling work and personal commitments, and our email does not make it to their top 10 list of must-do work. We can keep a few things in mind while reaching the person again in a follow up email.

Habits of People Who Build Extraordinary Relationships
  • Take the hit. Few acts are more selfless than taking the undeserved hit and few acts better cement a relationship.
  • Step in without being asked.  They pay close attention so they can tell when others are struggling and then come up with specific ways in which they can help.
  • Answer the question that is not asked. They think about what lies underneath the question so they can answer that question, too.
  • They know when to have fun and when to be serious, when to be over the top and when to be invisible, and when to take charge and when to follow.
  • Prove they think of others. Take a little time every day to do something nice for someone you know, not because you're expected to but simply because you can.
  • Realize when they have acted poorly and apologize before they are asked to.
  • Give consistently, receive occasionally. They think about what they can give, not what they can get.
  • Value the message by always valuing the messenger.
Mistakes at Work
  • Most people unconsciously overreact about their mistakes.
  • It is much better to accept mistakes, learn from them, and move on.
Before You Give A Presentation
  • Walk the stage. It is good to get a feel for the stage because it means you can establish a sense of ownership of the space, which will increase your confidence.
  • Check the equipment to avoid minor mishaps.
  • Know where you are sitting and use it to your advantage. People take 3 - 7 seconds to form an opinion of you.
  • Your performance starts the moment you step onto the stage, not with your first line. Your audiences want you to be awesome because they made an effort to see you.
Feedback focuses on the past

Many people prioritise feedback over advice. But Harvard researchers found that feedback often has no impact on our performance. They argue that feedback often leads to vague input.

Feedback is often associated with evaluating past performance and is not focused on how you can improve.

Ancient stories that shaped history

Alexander the Great learned to read and write by studying Homer's Iliad. Thanks to his teacher, the philosopher Aristotle, he had done so with unusual intensity. When Alexander embarked on his conquests, a copy of the Iliad accompanied him.

Homer's Iliad helped to shape an entire society and its ethics. The story revealed the kind of effect moral choices could have on the general public.


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