When you're stuck, you need feedback. You need information that tells you what you're doing well and where you're going wrong.
We all have areas in our lives where we'd love to see positive and meaningful change. But sometimes, we don't know how to keep moving forward. We do research and think of strategies. We try to implement a few tactics, but then we get stuck. We are unsure if we are going in the right direction.
Getting helpful information in an ongoing, interactive loop allows you to course correct.
Asking how you could be a better partner, team member, friend, or leader from people who can give you accurate feedback can help you improve.
If you want good feedback:
Some professions come with feedback. Writers have editors, athletes have coaches. If you need more feedback, consider hiring a coach as everyone can do with some improvement.
Some feedback is just noise. Feedback is based on observation and reactions to your specific actions.
Great feedback isn't about convincing others to do things your way - it is about giving them insight on how to improve on their own methods.
Giving feedback requires an awareness of what you're saying and how you say it.
Steve Jobs stated that life is not fixed and ready-made for you to live in. You can change and influence the world and leave your mark on it.
Most of us will have a far less impact than Steve Jobs did. But in the smaller sphere of our lives, there is enough flexibility if we understand that life can be changed.
Thinking up a new life is not enough unless you also pair it with action. It is important then to realize that most of our actions happen without thinking. We do the same pattern endlessly, and those actions create our lives.
Real change seldom comes from a single exertion. It comes from committing yourself to specific daily habits until the habit feels comfortable.
Setting difficult, ambitious goals and committing to them has a much bigger impact than people realise.
Edwin Lock, who pioneered the experimental study of goal-setting, found two things:
Growth is dominated by two trends:
Understanding what kind of growth you're dealing with prepares you for progress.
For most of recorded history, most of the roads to worldly success came at other people's expense.
In modern time, the most prominent way we have become rich isn't through plunder but through invention and service. We improve our lives mostly by making life better for others.
Exposure therapy works to reduce an irrational fear by exposing you to the fear in a safe environment.
Public speaking, talking to strangers, or taking tests can create a paralyzing anxiety. Knowing how to deal with it makes a big difference.
Most of the essential activities in our life are infinite games, meaning that to win means you have to keep on playing. For instance, health isn't over when you've reached your weight-loss goal.
If you can keep going, you haven't lost.
The quality of your life is mostly determined by what you pay attention to. But most of what grasps our attention isn't good for us, such as anxiety and anger about things we cannot control.
Like a prudent gardener, you can choose what you let grow in your mind by watching the conversations you have, the books you read and the news you follow.
In the novel, The Count of Monte Cristo, two people are unfairly imprisoned. One spends his time brooding, raging and attempting suicide. The other spent his captivity improving his mind by practising languages, developing tools, and reconstructing manuscripts from memory.
Freedom is possessed by varying degrees by different people. Your life situation could be constrained, or you may only have choices you don't like very much. But increasing your options is part of a good life.
While it's true that life is better when you have friends, money and status, that lifestyle is never satisfied. It always demands more.
Instead of striving to attain some ideal of life, organise your energy around pursuits that matter. Engaging in meaningful activities that help you and others are more satisfying.
Happiness isn’t a ready-made concept but comes from our own actions.
We don't need to make happiness an elusive goal to reach but can take the actions required for the art of simple living.
Morning is a time of the day that we need to be alive, awake and practice mindfulness.
Get away from all your distractions in the morning and take a deep breath, reconnecting with the immediate environment and breathing in the morning air.
Any development we see was at first just an idea. We all were born naked and did not have the possessions, the hair, the clothes, and the relationships that formed as we reached our adulthood. We started from nothing and inside nothing (zero) there lies infinity.
One has to know that one has limitless potential and start from the first principles, pressing the reset button and starting the game again to pursue the seemingly impossible.
The past mostly regrets, and the future is anxiety and worry. The only thing that is real is the present moment, and the art of mindfulness delves into the present, instead of being in dreams or illusions.
Our breath connects us to the present moment, like an anchor. By focusing on our breath, we eventually become mindful by default and live in the Now.
The process of making art allows individuals to explore themselves and their emotions, it aids them when facing hurdles in their lives, and even increase mindfulness.
The same parts of our brain are activated when we make art and when we deal with solving problems, which makes art a great way of release since it can be a practice ground that can help you maneuver both personal and interpersonal issues.