<ol><li>Understand and accept that you will make mistakes.</li><li>You are not your code.</li><li>No matter how much “karate” you know, someone else will always know more.</li><li>Don’t rewrite code without consultation.</li><li>Treat people who know less than you with respect, deference, and patience.</li><li>The only constant in the world is change.</li><li>The only true authority stems from knowledge, not from position.</li><li>Fight for what you believe, but gracefully accept defeat.</li><li>Don’t be “the coder in the corner.”</li><li>Critique code instead of people – be kind to the coder, not to the code.</li></ol>

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<ol><li>Listen to others actively.</li><li>Affirm people's opinions.</li><li>Empathize with different perspectives. You might not understand it, but you can respect it.</li><li>Disagree respectfully. Don’t insult any opinions or ideas if you disagree with them.</li><li>Apologize when you're in the wrong. It shows a great deal of maturity and respect.</li><li>Call out disrespectful behaviour. Let the people around you know that you won’t tolerate it.</li><li>Show gratitude.</li><li>Compliment the achievements of others.</li><li>Be reliable. Do what you say you'll do.</li><li>Offer support to friends in need.</li><li>Take care of yourself.</li><li>Avoid self-destructive behaviors.</li></ol>

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<ol><li>Give someone feedback on a preprint or a paper you liked.</li><li>Ask someone for access to a paper or its materials.</li><li>Ask someone for a potential collaboration.</li><li>Ask someone to mentor you.</li><li>Invite someone for a workshop or another event.</li><li>Contribute to someone’s research project . </li><li>Acknowledge someone.</li></ol>

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Every recruiter will ask about your salary expectations when you first start interviewing. Do not give them a number. Instead, ask for the range they’re budgeted for the role.Bonus points: If you’re junior/mid, time all your interviews so you get offers around the same time. If you’re senior, get some press before you start meeting folks.

1. Negotiation starts earlier than you think

Go into the interview ready not just to answer questions but to ask some of your own. You will use this as ammunition to negotiate later. Here are a few examples of what you should ask:<ul><li>What’s the biggest priority for the team right now?</li><li>Why is this role open?</li><li>What’s the biggest challenge for someone stepping into this role?</li><li>How does the org structure on the team work?</li></ul>

2. Mine for intel during interviews

Most experienced recruiters will ask you again to put up a number for your salary.What recruiters say: “If you give me your number, I will make it happen for you.” What they mean: “I’ll get you something lower, but kinda close to what you asked for.”

3. Don’t give in to the pressure

At FAANG-size companies (i.e. over 5K employees), compensation is heavily formulaic, often with a “compensation committee” who sets your salary. Your recruiter gets a number to go with and every time you negotiate they have to go back to that committee to ask for a re-evaluation.Unfortunately, this may hurt your chances of getting more on your offer later. Most companies will consider “new information,” like another offer, to reopen a negotiation. Don’t forget, an offer to stay from your existing company also counts!

4. At FAANG, your recruiter may have no say at all

Your initial offer speaks volumes, if you know how to interpret the data.Initial offer comes in low: The team may have felt that you have a lot of “room for growth.” Ask the interviewer to share feedback in order to fix any misconceptions before you ever negotiate.Middle of the road: It likely means you don’t have a strong advocate on the interview loop. Do not negotiate until you match with a team and you have a manager batting for you.&nbsp;Initial offer comes in top-of-band: There was likely a discussion about giving you a higher level.

5. Read between the lines

You may be dealing with the founder directly. It’s very likely there is no range for the role, as smaller companies have much less access to salary data. The goal at the initial offer conversation is to understand three things:<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">The current state of the company (financing, runway, profitability)</li><li class="ql-align-justify">The plan for your role/function</li><li class="ql-align-justify">The value of the equity, considering exit scenarios</li></ul>

6. At a startup, the playbook is different

The next step is to upsell your worth before you come back with any kind of counteroffer. This is especially important if you’re going for a senior role.Ask for follow-up meetings with decision makers. If everyone wants you, you’ll be calling the shots later.Come prepared with three things, tailored to who you’re meeting:&nbsp;<ul><li>Questions about how you can create meaningful impact</li><li>Ideas based on your interviews so far</li><li>Bonus points: discussing obstacles to your taking the role and making them sell you on it</li></ul>

7. Your job is to win hearts and minds

Ask yourself these questions:&nbsp;<ul><li>Is the offer competitive? (Browse offers online)</li><li>Does it add up? (Consider taxes on bonuses and stock.)</li><li>If you have goaled comp, are the goals realistic?</li></ul>

8. OK, now get some good data

Not all offers are made equal — in fact, they are intentionally confusing. It seems obvious that you should look at the comp, but that’s not everything:<ul><li>Which company has a better trajectory?</li><li>How do promotions work?</li><li>Is your manager influential enough to pull for you when needed?</li><li>Is your product or team visible enough to get good resourcing?</li><li>What’s the company brand worth to your earnings trajectory?</li></ul>TL;DR: Getting paid more up-front doesn’t always mean you’ll make the most overall. Plan carefully.

9. Comparing offers

It can be awkward to ask for more money, but trust me, everyone expects you to do it.

10. Time to make an ask

“I need a competing offer.” Just being able to say you’re speaking to other companies is sufficient — you can quote the expected salaries for other roles if needed.“I need to provide copies of my other offers.” You can always say, you signed an NDA before every interview.“I should send the recruiter an email with my ask and justification.” Negotiating via email definitely leads to a worse outcome. If you want a meaningful/large increase is to have the conversation over the phone.&nbsp;

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“If I find a number online, I can quote it as a reason to get more.” Nothing boils a recruiter’s blood more than “It says X on Glassdoor.” Have arguments prepared that are specific to your situation.“The best way to get more is to reiterate how qualified I am.” You already got interviewed and everyone’s read your resume. Use the information you collected during the interview to build additional arguments.“I need to be aggressive and threaten to walk if they don’t match.” If you want big moves, you need to collaborate with your recruiter, not make them an enemy.

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The 10 commandments of salary negotiation

<ol><li>Ask yourself, "Do I think positively?"</li><li>Strengthen your memory for positive information.</li><li>Strengthen your brain's ability to work with positive information.</li><li>Strengthen your brain's ability to pay attention to the positive.</li><li>Condition yourself to experience random moments of positivity (just repeatedly link boring things with positive thoughts and feelings over and over again)</li><li>Think positive, but not too much, and think negative when you have to.</li><li>Practice gratitude</li><li>Savor the good moments</li><li>Generate positive emotions by watching fun videos</li><li>Celebrate your success</li><li>Find good aspects even in bad situations</li></ol>

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The simple act of giving the floor to another person yields immediate benefits. The longer you listen, the more you’ll understand. The more the other person talks, the more they’ll feel heard and comfortable. Earnest, open-ended questions can build trust and open the door for dialog.

Listen. And keep listening.

Even if you squirm with some of what you hear, latching on to areas of disagreement almost always devolves into an argument — a trap one can	too easily fall into. Instead, tune your ear for where you agree.For example, if someone opines that climate scientists are corrupt, you can readily agree that science should be credible and ethical — we all want that.

Say out loud the things you agree on.

This is the part of the conversation that we tend to focus on, but without careful groundwork, the opportunity won’t even arise. Typically, it took several minutes of warm-up before getting to this point.

Share your findings, but only as they relate.

A polarizing topic can hurt a conversation more than it helps. When someone begins to hate, take a few steps back and talk about a common goal, for example making an appeal to pro-life values by underscoring how the earth is essential to all life.

Offer a vision of a common goal that’s appealing to both of you. 

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