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About The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck Book
#1 New York Times Bestseller
Over 10 million copies sold
In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.
For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.
Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.
There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.
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Only give a f*ck about what’s truly f*ckworthy :)
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Do something now, even if it’s really small, and let good actions cascade as a result.
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"If you want the rewards, but not the struggle, you don’t really want it."
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In life we have a limited amount of fucks to give. Time ticks away. So choose your fucks wisely. A book worth gifting, to your self, and to those around you.
This self help guide teaches us that the key to being happier is to stop trying to be positive all the time and instead to become better at handling adversity.
FUCK POSITIVITY!
Sometimes things are fucked up and we have to accept it.
This book will correct your delusional expectations of yourself and the world. Its like a guide to suffering better, more meaningfully with compassion and humility.
I recommend it to anybody stuck in the feedback loop from hell, which is the psychological epidemic making many of us overly stressed, overly neurotic and overly self loathing.
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Life itself is a form of suffering.
The rich suffer because of their riches.
The poor suffer because of their poverty.
People without a family suffer because they have no family.
People with a family suffer because of their family.
People who pursue wordly pleasures suffer because of their worldly pleasures.
People who abstain from wordly pleasures suffer because of their abstention.
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Most of us struggle through life giving way too many fucks in situations where fucks dont deserve to be given.
Your going to die some day. In the short time you have here, if you go round giving a fuck about everything and everyone, you are going to get fucked.
Learn to prioritise and pick and choose what is fuckworthy to you based on finely honed personal values.
Its part of our biology to give a fuck but when you give too many fucks you become entitled to be comfortable and happy all the time, as if everything is supposed to be exactly the fucking way you want. This is a sickness.
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Mark Manson is the bad boy of self-help. Really enjoyed his ideas
Many of our modern values (success, positivity, greatness etc) can actually make us more insecure & miserable. The way to be happy and fulfilled, Manson says, is to not give a f*ck about everything we’re told to care about.
Instead, get clear on what truly matters, focus your choices on those few priorities, and accept that in spite of that, you’ll still make stupid mistakes and suffer occasionally.
He takes on the traditional self-help books, claiming that they reinforce the idea within you that you are not good at something, which leads to a “feedback loop from hell”.
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Here’s a paradox: the more you pursue the positives, the more negative you’ll feel. Those who desperately want to be rich, worthy or happy will only end up feeling poorer, more unworthy or unhappy. On the other hand, the more you accept the negatives in your life, the better you’ll feel.
We’re surrounded by so many messages about being positive that we tend to feel bad for feeling bad. Manson calls this the “feedback loop from hell”. A false positive desire turns into a negative thought or emotion. This thought or emotion then triggers a chain reaction of other negative thoughts and emotions.
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To break the cycle of negativity:
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Humans are the only animals that can conceptualize and think about themselves in an abstract manner. Happiness comes from caring about something greater than yourself.
There are two selves - the physical, and the conceptual. We try to keep our conceptual self alive past the death of our physical self - “immortality projects”, as all the meaning in our life is shaped by our innate desire to never truly die.
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“The desire for a more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.” says Mark Manson.
This is referred to as “the backwards law” by Alan Watts. One must be comfortable with being different, not being indifferent. It’s important not to put too much thought and care into adversity in the face of your own goals.
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The hedonic treadmill - our innate tendency to revert to default levels of happiness despite temporary spikes in happiness - prevents us from being in a constant state of euphoria; in short, we are wired to be dissatisfied. In fact, without pain, we wouldn’t know what joy is, and without sadness, we wouldn’t know what happiness is.
We should pick problems that we enjoy solving to reach true happiness; once we know what we are willing to struggle for and what pains we want in our lives, we will be much more motivated to succeed. Our struggles determine our successes.
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Key Takeaways - The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
Happiness doesn’t appear out of nowhere. Real happiness sprouts from a chain of struggles and feels more meaningful when worked hard for. So the more interesting question you can ask yourself is, “What are you willing to struggle for?”, “What pain can you sustain in your life?”
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Choose one and set your Values and Metrics wisely. Core values we believe or set to ourselves is what defines us on how we perceive what makes us feel good, what is our metrics to say that we are successful with something. Not reaching that metric makes us feel like a failure.
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Everyone of us struggles with problems in life. The difference is just what kind of problems. And what do you obtain if you solve them.
Suffering is part of life. But if you suffer due to problems that will make you achieve a goal you care about, the suffering is worth it. If you suffer for shitty values and unimportant problems you waste your significant life-time
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We orientate our life according to our values. And we set our goals according to them.
Bad values make you dependent from external factors. Good values are achieved internally
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Everybody does mistakes. But in the presence you can take responsibility for them. Fault happend in the past. Focus on the present.
Whatever happend in the past stays in the past. Take responsability for the things that happens in the past, but don't focus on that. Focus on the actions you take today and be responsible for them. All of them.
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Maturity is what happens when one learns to only give a f*ck about what’s truly f*ck-worthy.
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A counterintuitive approach to living a good life by focusing on what truly matters. 🌟📚
A counterintuitive approach to living a good life by focusing on what truly matters.
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Accept that life is inherently unpredictable, and find freedom in embracing the unkown rather than seeking absolute certainty.
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Identify your core values and prioritize what truly matters to you, aligning your actions and choices accordingly.
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Maturity is what happens when one learns to only give a fuck about what’s truly fuckworthy.
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Just because something feels good doesn’t mean it is good. Just because something feels bad doesn’t mean it is bad. Emotions are merely signposts, suggestions that our neurobiology gives us, not commandments. Therefore, we shouldn’t always trust our own emotions. In fact, I believe we should make a habit of questioning them.
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The solutions to today's problems will lay the foundation for tomorrow's problems. True happiness is when you find the problems you enjoy having and enjoy solving.
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For many people solving problems doesn't feel that simple. They f*** up things up in at least one of two ways:
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