The real and lasting victories are those of peace and not of war.

Why not peace because war only pleases EGO of two causing lives of millions .

Why War

The wars happened , happening and about to happen is to construct happiness , peace or they even selfless??.Then what kind of war is this ??

What War

Every person we behead is fortunate to be a son / daughter , mother / father , sister / brother , a lovable other half of someone who is praying there and importantly who arent even benefitted a single penny through thisBut losses everything .....

War Against Whom

For every big problem the root cause is a small seed of misunderstanding......

Please Don't Fight

War only pleases EGO But never pleases Problem .

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Personal Development

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Motivation & Inspiration

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Problem Solving

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Leadership & Management

Peace Over War 

Always, always you go through the fire to reach the shine.Πάντα, πάντα περνάς από τη φωτιά για να φτάσεις στη λάμψη.

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Reading & Writing

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Mental Health

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Books

Odysseas Elytis: How You Reach The Shine

𝐂𝐨𝐮𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐝 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐞𝐲𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐜𝐭. 𝐀𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐭𝐫𝐲 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐞𝐲𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐜𝐭, 𝐚𝐬 𝐢𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐩𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐭𝐨𝐨𝐥 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐩𝐨𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐝𝐚𝐭𝐞.

𝐀𝐦𝐚𝐳𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐅𝐚𝐜𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰...

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Communication

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Love & Relationships

Couples who are In Love Spend More Time Making Eye Contact

If something was guaranteed to you, would you worry about it? No, you wouldn’t. So when Allah says,“There is no moving creature on earth but that its sustenance lies with Allah” — Quran 11:6Why do you then worry about money? If money were to sustain humans, then no billionaire would die and no poor would live.Don’t choose that career because it has high-paying jobs. Choose what really interests you and makes you happy.

Why Worry?

Yes, it’s true that you have to do something in order to earn some money. Why not do something you love and get what you deserve?Why would you do something that you don’t like and try to earn what you don’t deserve?<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Write down what you want to do</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Learn about it</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Obsess over it</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Achieve Mastery</li></ul>

But Still…

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">do what you love</li><li class="ql-align-justify">do it in public and gather an audience</li><li class="ql-align-justify">monetize your audience by selling them your product</li></ul>Social Media is the future. Do what you want to do but post on social media to get attention.📚 If you found this article  helpful and want more clarity and unique ideas, then subscribe to <a href="https://binsletter.beehiiv.com/subscribe">my free weekly newsletter here</a> to get mentally stronger every week.

Earn while doing what you love

Stop trying to justify your reason to earn money as gaining "freedom". Let me ask you this. If I take away all of the money from you, would you have freedom? Freedom can never be taken. You have a really wrong definition of it.

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Productivity

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Learning & Education

Stop worrying about money

I wondered how I could live my life in a way that makes it the most productive and meaningful. And as I contemplated this more and more, the answer became only apparent. There was no corner I could cut. The guaranteed path was only that called basic.

Already I, and all of us, know the answer to the question I raised. How to have a healthy body? Sleep on time. Sleep more than 8 hours a day. Have a healthy and nutritious diet. Avoid junk foods. Workout regularly and do cardio at least three times a week.It is that simple and incredibly crystal clear.

But simplicity and obviousness don’t mean that they are easy tasks. Actually, maybe they are the most challenging things we humans could do. Because to do them, not only we must be consistent, but also need to be resistant to our desires.

When I wake up, I want to check my phone first. When I am in bed, it is so hard to leave it. Working out regularly and maintaining a healthy diet is just tiring. Being productive and practicing your skills are easily so hard. …Well, who doesn’t really not know what to do to become a better person?

The process of calibrating yourself hence supposed to be the process of doing something unwanted. You should recognize what your body and mind are rejecting at the moment and force them to do that. Metacognition is immensely important here; they are the hint.

This morning, I wanted some extra sleep, but I went straight to a toilet to facewash. I then went straight to my desk to start working on my project, though I wanted to procrastinate just for a minute or two. After some coding work, after some debating with myself what if I skip the gym today, I went to the gym.

Emotions are ephemeral while the result from acting not. If you recognize what your body is rejecting, try doing it. If you have the right will to become a better version of yourself, this tactic will actually help you out. There is no such way that could cut corners to make you better, besides this daunting yet guaranteed path.

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Habits

Go back to basics

Things that our mind can process easily will make us overconfident.When we see someone does hard thing effortlessly, we often think we can do it too.When we see a final product that looks perfectly normal, we think the process leading to that is also easy and smooth.When we see a great book that is easy to read, we think it’s also easy to write it, while the opposite is true.

The Fluency Effect

“We are frequently overconfident about the extent of our knowledge—we think we know more than we really do.”

We have a tendency to confirm what we already believe.Because of this, we only focus on finding confirming evidences, even though seeking evidences that will say otherwise is equally important.This is dangerous for us, especially if what we believe is not a factual truth.If we’re looking for truth, we must look for disconfirming evidence even though it makes us uncomfortable.

Confirmation Bias

“Confirming data is necessary but not sufficient, because you also need to disconfirm your hypothesis.”

We often underestimate time and effort required to complete a task. That’s why we miss deadlines, exceed our budget, or run out of energy before we finish.To overcome this, we need to come up with specific and detailed plan. We need to divide the task into smaller ones that we can estimate more accurately.

Planning Fallacy

“The perceived fluency of an impending task makes us underestimate the difficulty of executing”

There are multiple cues that people use to infer causality of an event:<ul><li>Similarity</li><li>Sufficiency</li><li>Necessity</li><li>Abnormality</li><li>Recency</li><li>Controllability</li></ul>

Causal Attribution

“One of the most important functions of causal reasoning is to control future events. We want to avoid mishaps and repeat good outcomes by identifying the reasons each happened.”

We often feel anecdotes from people we know more persuasive than scientific evidence. This is because we don’t understand statistics well.3 key concepts we must always remember:<ol><li>Law of Large Number (more data in a sample, more accurate conclusion)</li><li>Regression Toward the Mean (extreme result will be followed by moderate ones)</li><li>Bayes’ Theorem (just because probability of A given that B occurs is high, it doesn’t mean that probability of B given A occurs is also high)</li></ol>

Key Concepts in Statistics

“The more observations we make, the more accurately we can generalize the pattern to cases we have not yet observed or make predictions about the future.”

People weigh negative information more than positive information. According to revolutionary work by Kahneman and Tvetsky, we treat the same monetary values differently, depending on whether they are gains or losses. This is called loss aversion.We have this bias because our ancestors were living on the line, small error can cost them their life. So it’s better to play safe.

Negativity Bias

“Our preferences and choices are based on how the options are framed rather than the options per se.”

When we see or experience new things, our existing belief and knowledge will color our judgment and interpretation about it. This is how our cognition works.This top down processing happens automatically and spontaneously, whether we want it or not. To overcome this, we need external help to review our perspective and change it into a more healthier view of the world.

Biased Interpretation

“Sometimes, it’s easier and better to focus on solving the problems caused by different perspectives than trying to change those perspectives themselves.”

When we perceive something, we interpret it based on what we already know.We believe that everybody else, including people who don’t posses what we know, would see the situation similarly that we do.This is a common cause of communication problem.We need to put ourselves in everybody else’s shoes and take their perspective to be better at communication. We also need to ask questions more.

Curse of Knowledge

“Often our communication failures occur simply because we neglect to consider the other person’s perspective.”

An ability to delay short term rewards to prioritize long term outcomes is a positive trait and it highly correlates with success in the long run.However, it’s also important for us to enjoy the process, not just the final goal. This will increase our probability to avoid physical and mental health issues at our young age.

Problem of Delayed Gratification

“The decisions we make for ourselves should be as impartial as possible and based on statistical principles and probability theories, because they provide the most accurate predictions”

This book is based on a popular course in Yale University and is written by the professor.

“An INVALUABLE RESOURCE to anyone who wants to think better.” —Gretchen Rubin Award-winning YALE PROFESSOR Woo-kyoung Ahn delivers “A MUST-READ—a smart and compellingly readable guide to cutting-edge research into how people think.” (Paul Bloom) “A FUN exploration.” —Dax Shepard Psychologist Woo-kyoung Ahn devised a course at Yale called “Thinking” to help students examine the biases that cause so many problems in their daily lives. It quickly became one of the university’s most popular courses. Now, for the first time, Ahn presents key insights from her years of teaching and research in a book for everyone. She shows how “thinking problems” stand behind a wide range of challenges, from common, self-inflicted daily aggravations to our most pressing societal issues and inequities. Throughout, Ahn draws on decades of research from other cognitive psychologists, as well as from her own groundbreaking studies. And she presents it all in a compellingly readable style that uses fun examples from pop culture, anecdotes from her own life, and illuminating stories from history and the headlines. Thinking 101 is a book that goes far beyond other books on thinking, showing how we can improve not just our own daily lives through better awareness of our biases but also the lives of everyone around us. It is, quite simply, required reading for everyone who wants to think—and live—better.

Understand yourself and those around you.

psychology

Psychology

Woo-kyoung Ahn

Thinking 101

The idea that one should stick to only educational content or a specific type of content is false at core.It's simple, educational, fun, family and friends all are important, but the problem lies in social media algorithms promoting things you like more than content that might be beneficial for you.Restrict pages you follow for fun such as memes, vines and celeb pages. Have a maximum limit of 10 on them.Do not scroll reels.

Rebuild Your Social Media With Relevancy

Don't be convinced looking at just one side of things.Everyone has different opinions about different things. You'll find both good and bad in it and guess what?? Both of them will have research to back it's answers, dive deep and pick the most logical answer that fits your set of circumstances and your body.If logic fails to convince you of the side to take then listen to your inner being, it has the knowledge of the universe. It knows what it wants and what is best for you! Relax and make your decision.

Question The Content

Have you ever visited the research papers to find out what's good and bad about the food you're eating? I'm sure you have. But, did it leave you confused with cancer, obesity and diabetes on one side and vitamins, minerals and protein on the other?If yes, then you need to look at two things, one is your belly area tightly does it feel good when it goes inside your body, does it cause bloating, excess fat, heatburn or other symptoms? If it's causing any of the two you need to remove it and add new gradually add back to see what works and what dosent.The other problem you might want to look at i<warningtag>s a tightened stomach, relax an</warningtag><warningtag>d</warningtag><warningtag> blow it make it flexible.</warningtag><warningtag></warningtag>

Food Paradox : The Researches Are Confusing You.

Sooner or later we will realise that the world has already moved to a place from which there is no return. The chaos and destruction we've brought upon mother nature will come back to us.Capitalism and Mass production are reasons to blame. If you're wondering, why's that? That's because apart from the essentials to live like food, water, clothes and shelter you don't really need anything. But these companies created demands and desires are ruthlessly claiming the minds of people. Luring them with feelings of pride and feeling of completion.Don't give in to what crowd believes in. Be Free!

Environmental Degradation Is The Real Deal!

"All demand is Created"

The face that people show on social media is not real and neither are their lives perfect. It's shrouded in their desire to make money out of your following and achieving a sense of superiority.Look for real people around you and not on a television or a mobile phone or a computer.

Don't Listen To Influencers

Most of us are hypocrites, we say we're gonna do the work but we don't, we say we are gonna start but we never do. We say it and we don't? Ever wondered why? Even when you know what is right you are unable to accomplish it? The problem lies in "saying it", don't say it out aloud until you do it so take action then say it.

Don't Lie To Yourself

Internet is bombarding us with information every minute, reducing attention spans like petrol in hot air. If you're thinking about the consequences... It's no less than lighting fire in that air. The result is low satisfaction, goldfish memory, indecisiveness etc. etc. What to do?

philosophy

Philosophy

health

Health

Over Information and the right-wrong paralysis.

"In a society that convinces us that our parents are a hindrance and a burden. We often forget that our parents are in reality our most precious allies "

I've seen persons who are capable of abandoning their parents when they start to get old. But then, maybe it's because they had a difficult childhood, because of abusive treatment, we're not in other people's lives. And that type of situations are not concerned by my reflection. Many people say that they are in no way indebted to their parents, that they owe them nothing, that they have no responsibility towards them. And they say these words with sush pride, such disdain...it's incomprehensible.....

The Sensitive Subject : Parents

Your parents are the ones brought you up. Took care of you when you couldn't, loved you (and there's nothing purer than the love of a mother or a father). Accepted you as you are, forgiven your mistakes, guided you when you were lost. They're the ones who helped you when you fell. When you reach a crisis, they're the only ones who'll reach out to you without you even having to ask. And if you do, they won't hesitate for a second. THE ONLY PEOPLE YOU CAN TURN AND WALK AWAY FROM, WHEN YOU COME BACK THEY'LL WELCOME YOU WITH OPEN ARMS AND HEARTS. In a society that convinces us that parents are...

Only love byyyeee🌷﻿Never forget to think because the truth will never be handed to you on a silver platter.

Read, think by yourself and find the truth...

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Mindfulness

×A bit of awareness×

Love often starts effortlessly. We fall in love without trying, enchanted by our partner's qualities and quirks. This phase is magical, filled with anticipation for each other’s calls and touches.

Natural Beginnings

Every relationship evolves. The initial euphoria of love gradually fades, which is a natural progression. What once charmed us might begin to irritate us. This transition from enchantment to reality is a critical phase where many start to question their choice of partner.

Recognizing the Cycle of Love

The true challenge in a relationship is not about finding the right person but nurturing love with the one you chose. When doubts arise, it's crucial to focus on deepening the connection rather than looking outward for satisfaction. Infidelity and seeking external fulfillment only offer temporary solace.

Commitment Over Confusion

Sustaining love requires ongoing effort and dedication. Just as there are physical laws that govern the world, there are principles that can guide successful relationships. Understanding and applying these laws helps in creating predictable and fulfilling partnerships.

Proactive Love

Love transcends feelings and encompasses decisions. It’s about deciding to stay, support, and grow with someone through varying phases of life. This decision-making process is fundamental in maintaining a resilient bond.

Love as a Decision

In the journey of love, loyalty plays a crucial role. Choosing to stay loyal to one person, working through challenges together, and continuously choosing each other every day fosters a deep, lasting connection. It’s not just about staying with someone out of obligation, but nurturing and cherishing that bond, affirming the choice of being together. Love is not merely found but profoundly built and sustained through mutual effort and loyalty.

Conclusion: The Power of Loyalty in Love

"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage."

Let's understand the psychology of the most powerful word LOVE! We will break it into five main points. LAST ONE IS INTERESTING!🌝

Are you with the right partner?

"Love is to realize there is truth beyond yourself"

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Love expands your perspective: In a self-centered view, the world revolves around you and your needs. Love, however, encourages you to see the world from another person's perspective.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Love fosters connection: When you love someone, you connect with them on a deeper level than just your own wants. You become invested in their happiness and well-being, creating a bond that transcends you.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Love opens you to growth: True love motivates you to become a better person. You might be willing to make sacrifices or compromise for the sake of the relationship.</li></ul>

What has love got to do with truth

This quote stuck with me for a long time. Very Buddhist in nature. 

Love is the truth beyond yourself

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