Is it<ul><li>No Pain, No Gain!</li></ul>or is it?<ul><li>No Love, No Gain!</li></ul>

Ask yourself?

... but people who always say yes to hard work, tend to underestimate their need of being loved the way they are and their need of self-love.Does working painfully hard for your goals gain as much as working for what you really love?

Doesn't rhyme and sounds weird, right?

What could you gain when you are more compassionate with yourself, instead of using pain as the only self-growth-measure?

What could you potentially 'gain'?

Your math teacher gave you three types of tasks<ol><li>Simple tasks</li><li>Slightly hard tasks</li><li>Impossible to solve tasks</li></ol>Which of these task types increased your gain in math skills the most?

Anecdote – Math

There are at least these three types of people doing Fitness<ol><li>Those chilling more on the phone & in the mirror than training</li><li>Those training just hard enough but with peak technique</li><li>Those training very hard with the motto the more the better and hit overtraining and injuries regularly</li></ol>Which type do you think builds the most sustainable gains?

Anecdote – Muscle Growth

You can choose working hard in a healthy way for the goals that really matter to you (your purpose). Instrumentalising a slight but not painful discomfort for your self-growth, might lead to a personal greater gain success.

The Golden Section

A body, a mind, a heart, a soul in pain can't gain what a body, a mind, a heart, a soul can gain in love.

Can you convince yourself that?

What would the person in your mirror need to do different?

How do you choose to see yourself?

What is the tiniest step to befriend the person in the mirror? Into the mirror ...<ul><li>Hi, I'm happy to see you. Thank you for bringing me so far in life!</li></ul>

What stops you from starting today?

We don't have to be ultra marathon runner to understand that if we make one tiny step forward every day, that longterm we come further than someone running as fast as possible every day.Biologically humans are made for endurance, for consistency. Not those with the biggest motivation win the long distance race against themselves, but those who are the most disciplined. Sow your love today and harvest it everyday 🤍

Sprint vs. Endurance in long distance

The following ideas should question this common believed conviction with critical questions, which only you have the answers for. At the end, you choose how you see yourself.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Psychology

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Philosophy

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Personal Development

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Motivation & Inspiration

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Mental Health

No Pain, No Gain for your Success!?

After playing Bingo of Priviliges in geography, one of my curious young students asked me – Mr. Teacher, is there eternal happiness?I hesitated, but then answered with a smile – Yes. Love!

In the classroom

If your humble, loving and quite, don't feel lonely if the media is giving you the impression that most people are the opposite like greedy, needy and loud. The media doesn't spotlight the humble, loving and quite people, but they exist like you exist.

Feeling lonely, maybe it's the frame

People shown in the media often seem perfect, seem flawless, seem like superhumans. Ask yourself, is that the whole picture or just one pixel from many?People themselves and one single source of media just show one spotlight to an entire scene. You can't see what's hidden in the dark.So why not taking a few minutes to remember that nobody is perfect, that nobody is flawless, that nobody is superhuman?We all are imperfectly human, that is the only perfection there is. Diversity means Evolution, Innovation and progress. So enjoy to be as perfect as anyone else in this world!

Reminder about Perfection

When you really love someone, you don't just talk about marriage and children, you also talk about the last day of your life together. Death.

Love & Death

I don't have a lot, but with you I have everything.

Essentialism

"If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you."– Winnie the Pooh If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred plus one day so you never have to live without me.– isn't sacrifice part of true love? Luckily the ones loving each other coincide what true love means to them.

True Love?

Bunch of my shower thoughts about love, hapiness and perception.

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Mindfulness

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Learning & Education

Happiness & Love

What situations come into your mind when you think about discomfort?<ul><li>You would like to contact someone, but don't because you haven't for a long time.</li><li>You would like to share your constructive criticism at work, but don't want to feel rejected.</li><li>Or you would like to be able to pet a dog to start a little talk with the owner, but don't feel certain.</li></ul>That are just some examples for more introverted people like myself, but everyone has their own comfort- and discomfort zones.

Do you have Zone Control?

Discomfort can be caused by a mixture of emotions like<ul><li>Uncertainty - How will someone react to my action?</li><li>Worries - What will someone think about me after taking this action?</li><li>Fear - Will I be rejected, because of taking this action?</li></ul>All subforms of anxiety and shame.

How do you act on your Discomfort?

Anxiety and shame cause a stress response in our bodies. The extent and that's why also the consequences of this stress response depends on our perception.<ul><li>An extrovert might not perceive the earlier mentioned example-situations as stress</li><li>While an introvert might even avoid social situations (fight or flight) in the first place</li></ul>

The consequences of Stress

Do one thing everyday, that scares you. – Eleanor Roosevelt

A quote that can change your Perception*

*in longterm with habitual practice.When we collect more experience with our age, some realise that changing our view, values, habits etc. wasn't and won't ever come easy, but gets harder with age tendentionally.

Children feel less discomfort of taking action, because in their early life stage they are less capable of thinking about the possible scary or emberassing consequences of their actions (less anxiety & shame). Their few life experiences make them less able to anticipate. Instead they focus more on the present than the future.

Why change is easier for Children? 

<ul><li>Introverts think more likely about the consequences, the reactio, of their actions (future focus)</li><li>Extroverts think more likely about the action itself (present focus) or are more stoic about their thoughts focusing possible future outcomes</li><li>Those extroverts who notice a stress response, but react calmly, are more likely to have learned it intentionally with self-awareness.</li></ul>

What's the difference between Introverts and Extroverts?

Do you know Mel Robbins' "5 second rule"?If not, the key is to distract your brain from your discomforting emotions, with her advice by counting from 5 to 1 and then act.It works for some people, because logic (counting backwards) activates different brain regions than when perceiving your emotions, which can get in the way of taking action.

How can that quote change your Perception?

The quote does at least three things to help you being more in the present moment<ol><li>Distracting you from discomfort</li><li>Creating a potential habit of dealing with discomfort</li><li>Additionaly creates self-awareness of what causes your discomfort</li></ol>1. & 2. are the same benefits form the 5 sec rule. I can recommend the Deepstash articles about it ;)

Why considering the Quote?

Being aware of your own perception can help to identify your own emotions better. When you ask yourself in response of the quote – Why am I scared? You rationalise your emotions and question them to be appropriate or not. Your learn more about yourself.

Your growing companion Self-Awareness

When you learn and understand yourself better, you are more considerate and compassionate with yourself.It will be easier for you to find more reasons to act than not to act on your discomfort, because when you repeatly make the decision to overcome it, it might become a habit. Your brain adapts. The stress response reduces and it becomes easier to focus on the present.A best friend gives you good advice, because her/his emotional stress response don't cloud their mind staying rational.Self-awareness in situations of discomfort might help you to become your own best friend.

Your own Best Friend

means - change to become better.If you decide to do one thing a day that scares you, better start small.Small steps of change bring compound success in longterm without being overwhelmed quickly, because your brain gets the time to adapt to your new strategy to turn active cognitive chosen changes into passive automated habits.

Kaizen

Mastery doesn't come overnight. Mastery takes time.A basic principle is – The more time you spend on something, the more competence you grow in that area.Documenting the situations, where you overcame your discomfort with grattitude briefly and daily in a notebook increases the amount of practice to consolidate your initial change into a habit with thought structured writing.

Hone your progress of Change

The quote in this article changed the way I perceive and act on my zone of discomfort. Today, discomfort is my emotional indicator for where I still have or want to grow. But I try to avoid becoming an self-optimisation addict (other form of stress compensation).Before habitually or blindly acting on every discomfort, you can ask yourself, does it make me happier overcoming it?I'm happy to be an introvert, because it has benefits and that fits my values.Self-awareness can also help you evaluating every change you plan to make based on your own definition of happiness.

Note – Self-reflection

What works for my zone control doesn't have to work for you. We all come in diversity. Remember this before you comment. I just share my personal experiences and don't guarantee anything. With that in mindThank you for your understanding and your attention!

Comfort - Inaction - Inexperience - Inability.Discomfort - Action - Experience* - Ability.*incl. failures

Choose your Takeaway Mindset-Cycle

This article adresses a possible approach of getting more life-control about discomfort causing situations. It covers the importance of perception as a key for change and integrates common concepts like the "5 second rule", self-awareness, habitualization, "Kaizen" and self-reflection, while contrasting an introverted mindset with an extroverted one.

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Habits

Mastering Discomfort: Your Journey to Self-Improvement

Luck is more than the absence of bad luck, like health is more than the absence of illness.The german term for luck 'Glück' can additionally be translated as happiness and well-being.Psychology differentiates between two concepts of Glück:<ol><li>Hedonic Happiness</li><li>Eudaimonic Happiness</li></ol>

Luck in Psychology

Hedonism is the experience of joy, fun and pleasure while avoiding pain and discomfort. In this concept the key to maximise happiness is to pursue positive emotions and avoid the negative ones. It focus more on short-term gratification.Examples<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Delicious food</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Walk in nature</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Sexual activities</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Entertainment</li></ul>

1. HH - Hedonic Happiness

Eudaimonism can be translated with the 'divine inner self'. It is about the pursuit to live a meaningful and fulfilling life.Happiness is derived from finding a sense of purpose, living in accordance to one's core-values (authenticity), reaching one's best potential (excellency) and having a positive impact on the world.It focus more on long-term well-being.Examples<ul><li>Good overall health</li><li>Defining your own success</li><li>Strong and deep relationships</li><li>Life long learning and progress</li></ul>

2. EH - Eudaimonic Happiness

What's better?Psychology doesn't like horse-race comparisons. Both concepts aren't contradictory, but complementary. To understand this we apply both concepts on workplaces.

Hedonic vs. Eudaimonic Happiness

Bullshit Jobs (grey) – ↓ HH, ↓ EH<ul><li>Have no bigger meaning and aren't fun</li></ul>Pleasant Jobs (yellow) – ↑ HH, ↓ EH<ul><li>Aren't fulfilling but also aren't boring</li></ul>Self-sacrificing Jobs (white green) – ↓ HH, ↑ EH<ul><li>Aren't fun, but are relevant to society or your values</li></ul>Profession (green) – ↑ HH, ↑ EH<ul><li>If you can choose, choose your meaningful dreamjob</li></ul>

Hedonic & Eudaimonic Happiness in Workplaces

Pleasure as well as purpose are important to live a happy life.Synergise both in creating good habits. A joyful reward after 'eating the daily frog' task.The world isn't black and white, it's full of colours. Learn to see these to reach balance. It all starts with your perception and choice of response.

Happinness comes from Balance

The pursuit of happiness is not to flee into your dreams, but to live your dreams. And it all starts with how you define happiness in your life and how you perceive it.

Der Begriff Eudaimonie setzt sich aus gutem (eu) & Geist (daimon) zusammen. Kernelemente der Eudaimonie sind Authentizität, Sinn, Entwicklung und Exzellenz.

Happiness: More Than Just Luck

In prolonged times of stress, have you ever experienced thoughts telling yourself that your are...not happy enough?...not successful enough?...not rich enough?...not worth enough?...not pretty enough?...not lovable enough?...just not enough in anything?Even though you have family, friends, a home, work, are physically healthy and have no reason to be rationally unhappy?

Self-Sabotage

So where do these self-destructing thoughts come from, when overall you try to live a decent life?Have you ever experienced really bad things in your past (e.g. destructive criticism, disappointment, relationship, childhood), where deep inside you the seed of not being enough could have been sowed?In these particular moments, did you just swallow the seed or did you try to get it out?

The Origin

In case you have not used self-reflecting methods to practise self-love, there's a high chance that the swallowed seed found the right soil to grow into a limiting conviction likeI don't deserve to be happy / loved / succesful / ...

The seed of a limiting conviction

Your perception is limited. Some convictions are obvious, while others are hidden in the maze of your subconscious.Some come up everyday and others just in stressful situations.The obvious and the hidden, the self-loving and self-sabotaging convictions, all have in common to have an deeming impact on your life-perception, thus wellbeing.

The maze of limiting convictions

Limits are subjective. Your limits are the horizon of your imagination. Imagination is depending on the interaction of perception and experiences (current life-knowledge).So in order to challenge your own limiting convictions which reveal themselves in destructive thoughts, you could shift and expand your perception with new perspectives.

Where there's a Limit, there's a Challenge

<ol><li class="ql-align-justify">Fold an empty piece of paper.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">On the left side - list your limiting thoughts briefly, beginning with the most destrucive one. Leave enough space between each thought, no details and no more than there's space.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">On the (b)right side - pretend to be someone you really trust. List parallelly how these chosen person perceives you and argue reasonably from her/his perspective, why your limiting thoughts are inadequate.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Tear the paper into its two halfes. Keep the right and the left you crush into a paper ball, burn it safely or fold a paperplane and let it fly from your favourite lookout.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Let it go.</li></ol>

A Letter for Self-Love

The left side - is sent back to its origin, your past.The right side just arrived its destination, your consciousness.

The Love is sent on its way

You can't rip out a limiting conviction in the garden of your mind without planting a better one. The chance of limiting regrowth is too high. So how to take care of that hole?Right before bed-time<ol><li>Write down one thing - why you are grateful to be yourself. How would it feel, if that one thing was missing in your life? Focus on the feeling, when you overcome the challenge of getting this one thing back.</li><li>Write down - what the happiest thing was, you experienced today. How did you feel in that moment, when it happened? Remember what you saw, heard, smelled, touched and tasted?</li></ol>

Plant Gratitude & water it everyday

The more destructive your past experiences have been, the bigger the seed of self-sabotage has grown, because it was fed with every information aligning its origin/cause (confirmation bias).Currently there're no broadly available quick-fixes for self-sabotage. So be compassionate with yourself (like with someone you love), if your mind has set-back-thoughts. These thoughts occure progressively less over the time of your self-compassionate practice.

Growth takes Time

My partner and me have experienced a lot of hardships in the past. In stressful situations our minds can bring up self-sabotaging thoughts originating subconsciously from bad experiences. To change that, I tried to create an exercise debunking these thoughts rationally with arguments from another perspective and emotionally by the bond of trust with that loved person. I wanted that anyone is able to do it independently on their own.The goal is to become more self-compassionate to increase self-worth and self-love, because - We all deserve Wellbeing.

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#self-perception #growth #change #convictions #habits

... can change the way how we perceive the world and how we live our lifes. One new observation, one new conversation or one new piece of wisdom.As long as we keep our mind open for constructive criticism and questioning the taken granted, we can continue growing.How could questioning your perception of the world help you continuing growing?

One Encounter

We learn more by looking for the answer to a question and not finding it than we do from learning the answer itself.— Lloyd Alexander

Answers

Pieces of condensed wisdom that can change someones perception of the world. (I call them growth-steroids ;)

Wise Quotes

We are gifted. We can share, discuss, (ex)change perceptions, opinions, convictions with total strangers from other parts of the world.Diversity means wealth for innovation, as different think-tanks can be geniusly recombined.Thanks to Deepstash to give us a platform to connect this diversity symbiotically.This stash is for sharing mindbreaking and preception-bending quotes and some thoughts my mind throw at me like a wrecking ball from time to time.

Connection & Sharing

We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.— Maya Angelou Are our (automated) prejudices legit?

Limited Perception = Limited Information

Not everything that is faced can be changed. But nothing can be changed until it is faced.— James Baldwin Why does ignorance outweigh attention sometimes? How can you reflect your subconscious perception filters? In situations of realisation? In what-if situations? Could regular mindfulness like self-reflection help you? Are some of us ignorant, because we just don't know how and where to start?

The face of change

You get what you deserve. Instead of being a good person today, you choose instead to become one tomorrow.— Markus Aurelius But why do we tend to push change away? Isn't the quote a little too monocausal? Has everyone equal external circumstances for internal changes? Are you just the product of this correlation?

Just Karma?

Knowledge speaks, but wisdom listens.— Jimi Hendrix ...listening...

What can you hear?

Lifelong learning is like having three wishes and using them to have more. Does never ending learning aim for growth beyond your own reality? When learning is expanding the horizon of your current reality, what is holding you back then? Can you do something about it? Are you the one in control? What is in and what can be under your control?

Better than a wish lamp?

The soul becomes dyed with the color of its thoughts.— Markus Aurelius Can you influence your thoughts? What triggers them intern-/externally? Can you contol your exposure to these triggers? Can others control their exposure to their triggers? Is your or their emotional state internal controlled or an external triggered state? How does this question influence your empathy for them and for yourself?

The power of encounting questions

Now to the main question – Can you change your perception?Science says Yes! End of story.

So... what about You?

Well if it was that easy, your world would look already different after reading the sentence before, right? But you are not some logical calculating system, where 1 + 1 = 2 always.You are human. In your life, perception gives you situations, where one plus one equals zero. Situations that doesn't make any sense.

When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has opened for us.— Hellen Keller So at the end changing your perception is coming down to – Are you willing what it takes?

Attention! What are you looking at?

Can you take action?Science says yes! But that is the beginning of another story.

Taking Action!

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Guidance from a team of forward-looking experts for rescuing humanity.

Solutions: Rethinking the World

<ul><li>Solutions increase public wellfare and individual quality</li><li>they create sustainable growth</li></ul>

Why should we solve the biggest problems of our time?

<ul><li>Identifying the biggest challenges of our time</li><li>Learning from human history, don't repeat past mistakes</li><li>Working interdisciplinary- exchanges beyond the own perspective</li><li>Creating ideas and solutions for social, political and technological paradigm shifts</li><li>Rewiring and reviewing new ideas with the lessons from history to estimate their potential</li><li>Thinking beyond one legislative period, job position or life cycle, thinking sustainable</li><li>Nurturing the global dialogue and visions</li><li>Optimism increases motivation and innovation</li></ul>

The Process of Solving the Biggest Problems

Big problems and challenges demand big participation.Deliberative Polls (by Jim Fishkin) are planned meetings for citizens to discuss drafts or schemes made by politics.Process of success:<ol><li>Choosing a representative group of citizens</li><li>Informing them objectively about the topics</li><li>Letting them discuss the topics first in small, then in big groups</li><li>Doing a survey about the topics</li><li>Integrating these data for people orientated political outcomes</li></ol>

Building the 'We'

<ul><li>Dividing the biggest social media platforms to reduce their manipulative impact</li><li>Banning ads</li><li>Diminishing echo chambers and social bubbles</li><li>Increasing the transparency of the algorithms and more individual settings for their application</li><li>Restricting number of friends (Dunbar' number)</li></ul>

Enhance Social Media

Measures for tackling climate change:<ul><li>Reducing CO2-Emissions to net-zero asap</li><li>Establish sustainable carbon capture</li><li>Growing the norm of emitting greenhousegases to be unacceptable (e.g. pricing it)</li></ul>

Rescue the Climate

Problems:<ul><li>GDP doesn't account social inequality</li><li>The majority of employees don't profit from the national economic growth</li><li>The workload of the middle class increased without proportìonal growing financial adjustments</li></ul>

Transform Economics

Measures:<ul><li>Regulating the competition to keep it fair and equally (e.g. no tax relief for the big companies)</li><li>Taxing capital not labour</li><li>Banning Neoliberlism by defining public welfare orientated ethical and moral standards based on empirical data, because every economic act is a moral decision solving or creating current problems</li><li>Choosing complex and adaptable systems and simulations as scientific basis of action to test new economic concepts</li></ul>

<ul><li>Market-Humanism – The market serves humanity not vice versa</li><li>Cooperation and inclusion generates public welfare and growth by a representative participation of the people in the solution-process</li><li>Economy is people not money</li></ul>

The new Golden Rules of Economics

Humans are diverse, yet we all are connected by able to feel happiness. But how long will mankind be able to experience this, when we don't solve the current challenges of our age? This documentary provides a guideline.

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Expert-Knowledge paradoxically seems to be a barrier of unbiased thinking for many experts (Expert-Bias-Barrier).The open and clear horizon of an area of expertise narrows for the expert behind a city made of expert knowledge.

The biased Horizon

Laypeople & amateurs are less restricted by the intrinsic rules and thinking paradigms of an area of expertise, because it is more likely they are not aware of them.This condition, as it does not narrow their view, allows them to openly create more unbiased ideas to an expert topic.

The unbiased Horizon

Innovative problemsolving needs all stages of competence hand in hand.While amateurs can be a creative source of open impulses and ideas, experts can structure and evaluate those specifically towards the problem that needs to be solved.So merging horizons comes down to complement each others strengths and weaknesses with an inclusive and participative approach of solution creation (synergy).

Merging Horizons

Society tends to unerestimate ideas created by non-experts. This limiting conviction restricts the full potential of a society's innovational fundament.

No Pain, No Gain for your Success!?

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Mastering Discomfort: Your Journey to Self-Improvement

Happiness: More Than Just Luck

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