Fake friends will shower you in love and praise until you are weak and vulnerable. Then they will attack, hoping to destroy you when you are most defenseless.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Psychology

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Personal Development

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Motivation & Inspiration

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Love & Relationships

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Leadership & Management

Fake friends 

𝐂𝐨𝐮𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐝 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐞𝐲𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐜𝐭. 𝐀𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐭𝐫𝐲 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐞𝐲𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐜𝐭, 𝐚𝐬 𝐢𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐩𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐭𝐨𝐨𝐥 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐩𝐨𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐝𝐚𝐭𝐞.

𝐀𝐦𝐚𝐳𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐅𝐚𝐜𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰...

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Mental Health

communication

Communication

Couples who are In Love Spend More Time Making Eye Contact

Complexity of interactions is filtered out by distance. Farther the distance in relationship, superficial is the conversation

When silence and communication both doesn't work only thing remaining is fight for survival

Dark Forest

Love might look like a weakness for survival however it's the only way for sustainable growth in the dark forest of universe

Ultimate Weapon

Encouraging the seeds of love towards others is a goal worth taking risk for

Worthy Goal

Hope of love is like the sun illuminating the dark forest with light

Hope

Without communication the chain of suspicion grows many levels and leads to never ending battles

Chain Of Suspicion

Soon to be a Netflix Original Series! "Wildly imaginative." —President Barack Obama on The Three-Body Problem trilogy This near-future trilogy is the first chance for English-speaking readers to experience this multiple-award-winning phenomenon from Cixin Liu, China's most beloved science fiction author. In The Dark Forest, Earth is reeling from the revelation of a coming alien invasion-in just four centuries' time. The aliens' human collaborators may have been defeated, but the presence of the sophons, the subatomic particles that allow Trisolaris instant access to all human information, means that Earth's defense plans are totally exposed to the enemy. Only the human mind remains a secret. This is the motivation for the Wallfacer Project, a daring plan that grants four men enormous resources to design secret strategies, hidden through deceit and misdirection from Earth and Trisolaris alike. Three of the Wallfacers are influential statesmen and scientists, but the fourth is a total unknown. Luo Ji, an unambitious Chinese astronomer and sociologist, is baffled by his new status. All he knows is that he's the one Wallfacer that Trisolaris wants dead. The Three-Body Problem Series The Three-Body Problem The Dark Forest Death's End Other Books Ball Lightning Supernova Era To Hold Up The Sky (forthcoming) At the Publisher's request, this title is being sold without Digital Rights Management Software (DRM) applied.

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Philosophy

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Books

Liu Cixin is a Chinese computer engineer and science fiction writer. He is a nine-time winner of China's Galaxy Award and has also received the 2015 Hugo Award for his novel The Three-Body Problem as well as the 2017 Locus Award for Death's End. He is also a winner of the Chinese Nebula Award.

Cixin Liu

The Dark Forest

Love often starts effortlessly. We fall in love without trying, enchanted by our partner's qualities and quirks. This phase is magical, filled with anticipation for each other’s calls and touches.

Natural Beginnings

Every relationship evolves. The initial euphoria of love gradually fades, which is a natural progression. What once charmed us might begin to irritate us. This transition from enchantment to reality is a critical phase where many start to question their choice of partner.

Recognizing the Cycle of Love

The true challenge in a relationship is not about finding the right person but nurturing love with the one you chose. When doubts arise, it's crucial to focus on deepening the connection rather than looking outward for satisfaction. Infidelity and seeking external fulfillment only offer temporary solace.

Commitment Over Confusion

Sustaining love requires ongoing effort and dedication. Just as there are physical laws that govern the world, there are principles that can guide successful relationships. Understanding and applying these laws helps in creating predictable and fulfilling partnerships.

Proactive Love

Love transcends feelings and encompasses decisions. It’s about deciding to stay, support, and grow with someone through varying phases of life. This decision-making process is fundamental in maintaining a resilient bond.

Love as a Decision

In the journey of love, loyalty plays a crucial role. Choosing to stay loyal to one person, working through challenges together, and continuously choosing each other every day fosters a deep, lasting connection. It’s not just about staying with someone out of obligation, but nurturing and cherishing that bond, affirming the choice of being together. Love is not merely found but profoundly built and sustained through mutual effort and loyalty.

Conclusion: The Power of Loyalty in Love

"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage."

Let's understand the psychology of the most powerful word LOVE! We will break it into five main points. LAST ONE IS INTERESTING!🌝

Are you with the right partner?

"Love is to realize there is truth beyond yourself"

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Love expands your perspective: In a self-centered view, the world revolves around you and your needs. Love, however, encourages you to see the world from another person's perspective.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Love fosters connection: When you love someone, you connect with them on a deeper level than just your own wants. You become invested in their happiness and well-being, creating a bond that transcends you.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Love opens you to growth: True love motivates you to become a better person. You might be willing to make sacrifices or compromise for the sake of the relationship.</li></ul>

What has love got to do with truth

This quote stuck with me for a long time. Very Buddhist in nature. 

mindfulness

Mindfulness

Love is the truth beyond yourself

Knowledge is a powerful power and it's up to you use it to your advantage!

If you are wanna be a good thinker, then you need to walk with open eyes!

You have one task. Don't waste your on different useless things. Just focus on that one.

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Parenting

Knowledge of my Father

This book is celebrated for its entertaining and spiritually enriching content, with Ajahn Brahm's ability to impart Buddha's teachings through stories that are both touching and humorous.<ul><li>Humor and Humanity: The book is filled with amusing and heartfelt tales.</li><li>Spiritual Edification: Readers gain a deeper understanding of mindfulness and compassion.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Broad Appeal: The collection is suitable for a diverse audience.</li></ul>

"Who Ordered This Truckload of Dung?"

Ajahn Brahm's second book is described as a compelling guide to profound meditation experiences, with a fresh and commanding narrative.<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Engaging Voice: Ajahn Brahm's narrative is fresh and compelling.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Meditation Guide: The book serves as a practical manual for meditation practice.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Problem-Solving: It addresses common issues faced by meditators and offers solutions.</li></ul>

"Mindfulness, Bliss, and Beyond"

The books by Ajahn Brahm are highly regarded for their insightful teachings and the author's ability to convey life's lessons through engaging stories.<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Powerful Insights: The teachings provide valuable life lessons.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Universal Experience: Stories relate to common human experiences.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Gentle Humor: The author uses humor to address personal flaws.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Valuable Guidance: The texts offer guidance on mindfulness and inner happiness.</li></ul>

Impact and Praise

According to this book, to overcome irrational fear, it is essential to recognize that fear is often rooted in the uncertainty of the future. By acknowledging the infinite possibilities for the future and focusing on the more likely positive outcomes, we can shift our perspective from fear to freedom. Additionally, it is important to understand that fear begins with the thought "What if" and continues with negative predictions about the future. By reframing these thoughts and embracing uncertainty, we can dissolve irrational fear.

How can we overcome irrational fear?

Furthermore, practicing mindfulness and self-awareness can help in overcoming irrational fear by allowing us to recognize when fear is taking hold and consciously choosing to focus on more positive and realistic possibilities.

what now?

The story of the chicken and the duck teaches the importance of prioritizing relationships over being right in trivial matters. It emphasizes the potential damage that can be caused to a marriage or any relationship by arguing over unimportant issues. The story also highlights the significance of empathy, understanding, and compromise in maintaining a healthy and loving relationship. Ultimately, the lesson is about valuing the connection and love between two people over the need to be right.

The Story of the Chicken and the Duck

The book is a collection of Buddhist tales that cleverly relate the wisdom of Buddha's teachings in a poignant, funny, and profound way, intended to be enjoyed by a broad audience.

“Laugh your way to enlightenment” with this inspirational and light-hearted collection of stories from beloved Buddhist teacher Ajahn Brahm. The 108 pieces in the international bestseller Who Ordered This Truckload of Dung? offer thoughtful commentary on everything from love and commitment to fear and pain. Drawing from his own life experience, as well as traditional Buddhist folk tales, author Ajahn Brahm uses over thirty years of spiritual growth as a monk to spin delightful tales that can be enjoyed in silence or read aloud to friends and family. Featuring titles such as “How to Be a VIP” and “The Worm and His Lovely Pile of Dung,” these wry and witty stories provide playful, pithy takes on the basic building blocks of everyday happiness. Suitable for children, adults, and anyone in between, this eloquent volume delivers insight and inspiration in a humorous and engaging voice. Features of this book: <ul> <li>A collection of stories full of humor and wisdom</li> <li>Useful for stress relief and handling life’s ups and downs</li> <li>Perfect for gifting</li> <li>Written in easy-to-understand language</li> <li>Delightful for Buddhists and non-Buddhists alike</li> </ul> This book contains both encouraging, uplifting stories and thoughtful teachings in Ajahn Brahm’s characteristic joyful style. Ajahn Brahm helps us navigate all of life’s difficulties and beautiful moments. Who Ordered this Truckload of Dung? is certain to be an enjoyable addition to any individual or family’s most treasured collection.

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Meditation

Brahm

Who Ordered This Truckload of Dung?

This book is about the exploration of the different facets of human love, including affection, friendship, erotic love, and the love of God. It delves into the complexities and nuances of these different typrs of love, offering a candid, eise, and personal perspective that allows readers to connect with the intimate thoughts of the author, C. S. Lewis. it provides a deep understanding of the nature of love and its impact on human relationship, offering valuablr insights that can resonate with readers on a personal and emotional level.

Four Categories of Human Love

<ol><li class="ql-align-justify">Affection: The humbles, most widespread from of Love.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Friendship: A bond between individuals with shared interests.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Erotic Love: A passionate and intimate form of Love.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Love of God: A divine, spiritual love</li></ol>

Complexities and Vulnerabilities of Human Love

Affection love, also known as storge, is the humblest and most widely diffused of loves, and it is the love in which our experience seems to differ least from that of the animals. It is characterized by a warm comfortableness, satisfaction in being together, and a lack of discrimination in its objects.

1. Affection

Affection can be felt for almost anyone, regardless of their appearance, intelligence, or other qualities. It is the least finicky and the broadest of natural loves.Affection is not proud and does not expect too much, turning a blind eye to faults and reviving easily after quarrels.It is a love that can unite those who are not naturally suited to each other, and it can enter into and color other loves, becoming the medium in which they operate.

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Affection is also the love that can make appreciations possible which, but for it, might never have existed.It is a love that can unite people who, if they had not found themselves put down by fate in the same household or community, would have had nothing to do with each other.It is a love that can open our eyes to goodness we could not have seen, or should not have appreciated without it.

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However, it is important to note that Affection, by itself, left simply to follow its own bent, can darken and degrade human life.It is a love that can be present, causing unhappiness, and it has its own criteria, requiring its objects to be familiar.Affection is also the image used in Scripture when God is represented as our Father.

Affection_4

Affection is a love that is both humble and powerful, capable of uniting and transforming other loves, and it plays a significant role in human relationships and the human experience.

Affection (conclusion)

Friendship love, as described by C.S. Lewis, is a unique and often undervalued form of love.It is characterized by a deep connection between individuals who share a common vision, activity, or interest.Unlike other forms of love, such as Affection or Eros, Friendship is not instinctive or biologically necessary, making it the least natural of loves.However, it is a love that can enrich and enhance our lives in profound ways.

2. Friendship

Friendship arises when individuals discover a shared taste, vision, or point of view, and it is not limited by physical attributes or social status.In a circle of true Friends, each person is valued for themselves, standing for nothing but their true selves.This love is essentially between individuals, and it is a voluntary nobility, where individuals have chosen each other based on a common ground.

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Friendship can also be a school of virtue, making good men better and bad men worse.It can lead to the exclusion of others, creating a sense of pride and exclusiveness within the circle of Friends.However, when approached with humility and a genuine appreciation for the unique qualities of each individual, Friendship can lead to a deep and robust form of Appreciative love.

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Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, art, or the universe itself, and it has no survival value. Yet, it is one of those things that give value to survival.It is a love that can unite those who are not naturally inclined to be together, broadening their minds and leading to the appreciation of goodness and intelligence in others.

Friendship (conclusion)

Erotic love (Greek: Eros) is romantic love, distinct from mere sexual desire. It encompasses emotional intimacy and affection between partners.

3.Erotic Love

All-Consuming: Lovers in Eros often focus intensely on each other, sometimes to the exclusion of the world around them.Transcends Physical Attraction: Though it involves physical desire, Eros also emphasizes emotional and spiritual connection.Idealization: Partners often see each other in an idealized light, which can distort reality.Irrelevant to Happiness: It doesn’t guarantee happiness and can even lead to profound suffering due to its intensity and unpredictability.

Characteristics of Eros

Idolatry: Partners can be tempted to place each other above everything, including God, leading to possessiveness and jealousy.Addiction:  The intensity can be addictive, pushing lovers to demand exclusivity or lose their identity in the relationship.

Dangers and Pitfalls

Unification: Eros brings two people closer, helping them understand the nature of unity and intimacy.Creativity: This love often leads to creative pursuits, such as poetry, art, or grand gestures meant to express affection.

Positive Aspects

Eros is a powerful and beautiful form of love that should be embraced with caution, always aligned with higher spiritual and moral values.

Eros (Conclusion)

Love of God (Greek: Agape) is the selfless, unconditional love that mirrors the love of God for humanity.It transcends natural loves (Affection, Friendship, and Eros) by focusing on giving without expecting anything in return.

4. Love of God

Selfless: It prioritizes the well-being and happiness of others over personal desires.Unconditional: Agape is given regardless of the recipient’s behavior or worthiness.Universal: It extends to all, even those who are difficult to love, including enemies.

Characteristics of Agape

Complements: Agape enhances other loves by preventing their excesses and self-centered tendencies.Overcomes Idolatry: It aligns natural loves under the will of God, preventing them from becoming idolatrous.Unifying: It binds all forms of love together, creating harmony and balance.

Relation to Other Loves

Paternalism: A distorted form can become patronizing, treating others as incapable of self-care.Hypocrisy: It must be genuine, not used as a mask for ulterior motives or self-interest.

Dangers and Misunderstandings

Biblical: The love Jesus Christ preached and practiced, such as caring for the marginalized and forgiving enemies.Daily Life: Helping others without expecting gratitude or recognition, offering kindness even when inconvenient.

Examples of Agape

Agape is the highest form of love and encompasses all others by focusing on unconditional kindness and generosity.According to Lewis, <ul><li class="ql-align-justify">without Agape, the other loves can become self-destructive;</li><li class="ql-align-justify"> but when guided by Agape, they find their truest expression.</li></ul>

Agape (Conclusion)

"The Four Loves" by C.S. Lewis explores the nature of love, including the love between parents and children, love between friends, romantic love, and the love of God. It delves into the complexities, challenges, and rewards of different types of love, offering insights and reflections on the subject

In this candid, wise and warmly personal book, C.S. Lewis describes the four basic kinds of human love -- affection, friendship, erotic love, and the love of God. He explores the possibilities and problems of the love between parents and children; the love of men for other men and women for women; the love of men and women for each other; and the love of God that enriches all love. Lewis also explores the questions of sex, possessiveness, jealousy, pride, false sentimentality, good and bad manners in loving, and the need for more laughter between lovers. There are risks that accompany the rewards of love, the author cautions, but he recommends taking them, since "hell is the only place outside of heaven where we can be safe from the dangers of love."--Back cover.

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Religion & Spirituality

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Society, Arts & Culture

Clive Staples Lewis

The Four Loves

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐫𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐨𝐧, 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐢𝐭, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐮𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐮𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐞𝐝. 𝐍𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐠𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐬𝐟𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐨𝐟 𝐰𝐚𝐭𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐮𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫. 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐚𝐧𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐲𝐨𝐧𝐞!

Moving On: Embracing Change and Success

To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing it's best, night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting.

We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.

Everybody is a genius...but if you judge a fish by it's ability to climb a tree, it will live it's whole life believing that it is stupid.

Start by doing what is necessary, then do what is possible, and suddenly you are doing the impossible.

Hold fast to dreamsFor if dreams dieLife is a broken-winged birdThat cannot fly.Hold fast to dreamsFor when dreams goLife is a barren fieldFrozen with snow.

Poetic quotes that will touch your heart ❤️

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