100+ Facts About Love & Relationships to inspire your approach to Affection

All problems are interpersonal-relationship problems. 

So if you don’t have a good relationship with yourself then how you’re going to have a good relationship with others? It all begins with having the right relationship with the most important person, you. 

Would you be friends with yourself? Would you be your own boss? Would you marry your own self? What version of you would you rather not be?

According to researchers, romantic love is made up of three elements:

• Attachment: Needing to be with another person and desiring physical contact and approval
• Caring: Valuing the other person's happiness and needs as much as your own
• Intimacy: Sharing private thoughts, feelings, and desires with the other person

When one is loved and cared for, the person feels content, secure and rooted.

We are no longer at the mercy of society to tell us to work harder or to earn a certain amount. Being loved makes us enjoy the simple pleasures of life without the need to constantly prove oneself and accumulate materialistic toys to impress others.

Boundaries can be described as how emotionally close you let people get to you. They are also where you draw the line within a relationship. They say how much you are willing to give or take before requiring that things change or deciding to call it quits.

Setting healthy boundaries in relationships is a key skill for relationship stress management. It is a kindness we can do for ourselves as well as for those we are close to.

• Some suggest that love is a basic human emotion, like happiness or anger.
• Others believe it’s a cultural phenomenon that partly arises from social pressures and expectations.
• Research has found that romantic love exists in all cultures, which suggests that love has a strong biological component.

It’s a part of human nature to seek out and find love. However, culture can significantly affect how individuals think about, experience, and display romantic love.

Life may be tough, but faith, hope, and love are everlasting. They can help you overcome any obstacle. Don't give up.

Keep these in mind:

• 🙏 Faith can move mountains
• 🌟 Hope can give you strength
• ❤️And the greatest of these is love
• ♥️Love is all we need ♥️

It's important to remember: never lose faith, keep hoping, and never stop loving. These are the keys to facing any challenge.

Not all men are cheaters, and believing so can make you less trusting and more paranoid of your partner.

If you want a solid bond, you have to trust your significant other and communicate if you have concerns about his fidelity.

• You are having trouble getting through to your spouse; you talk about the same issue over and over again without coming to an agreement.
• You seem unable to have a decent conversation without turning it into an argument.
• You fear to bring up certain topics.
• You do not talk meaningfully about anything anymore.

A common belief is that men who kiss their wives in the morning live up to five years longer. Kissing sparks the brain’s pleasure centers, leaving you feeling euphoric throughout the day. A kiss from your loved one can lighten your mood and reduce stress, which is highly beneficial to your health.

• Words of affirmation: Expressing affection through spoken affection, praise or appreciation.
• Acts of service: Actions, rather than words, are used to show and receive love.
• Receiving gifts: Gifting is symbolic of love and affection.
• Quality time: Expressing affection with undivided, undistracted attention.
• Physical touch: It can range from having sex to holding hands. With this love language, the speaker feels affection through physical touch.

Love and mind are of two different natures. Mind connects people with boundaries and there is no fear in that, love on the other hand, disolves all boundaries and involves great risk. The mind brakes your actions and asks you to be cautious, while love pushes you right throught the dangers of having real experiences no matter what. It's not easy for the mind to break down, love however crumbles itself easily, and how many treasures were found between the wreckage.

1. Remove the speck in your eye
2. Understand that Chemistry is volatile
3. Don’t study chemistry in part
4. Constant practice
5. Have a mentor.

• Ghosting: Stopping communications suddenly and completely with someone you are dating, but no longer want to date. You cannot face the pain you will inflict, so you make it invisible by disappearing.
• Icing: Making up a reason to prolong the relationship. "I'm too busy." You want the person to hang on and be there if you change your mind.
• Simmering: Reducing the frequency of dates and communication. You know it isn't working, but you like the security of the relationship while you browse other options.
• Power parting: You know it isn't working and end the relationship conclusively. "This isn't working for me. Thank you for sharing your world. I enjoyed our time together and wish you all my best."

Foster meaningful connections this year.

• Criticism: complain without blame.
• Content: regularly express appreciation, gratitude, affection, and respect for your partner.
• Defensiveness: accept responsibility, even if only for part of the conflict.
• Stonewalling: stop any conflict discussion and call a timeout.

We experience relational ambivalence with our parents and our siblings. We feel the tug between the parts of us that are forever entwined with them and the parts of us that want to separate ourselves.

We experience it with our children, those beings who teach us a love we’ve never known as well as an unparalleled frustration that can incite harmful thoughts.

We experience it with our friends, the ones we don’t really want to see but end up feeling obligated to invite to our wedding.

Success means building strong relationships. Creating a wealth of social and romantic relationships hinges on the ability to meet people and connect with them in a meaningful manner. And living without regular social contact is as unhealthy as smoking cigarettes.

Feel special and valued when: their partner gives them praise and compliments.

For them, words are more important than deeds. They want to feel that their partner is paying attention to their personal qualities and the little triumphs of their lives

The future workplace is hybrid, with people working both from home and in offices. Leaders will need to proactively work to help their teams feel a sense of community and social connection.

The concept of love languages helps pretty much any relationship - it’s useful to understand what matters to people.

It all comes down to knowing what’s important to people so you can understand, empathize and work with them a little better. 

We all have different life experiences; we come from different backgrounds. It makes sense that we communicate differently, too.

Never stop romancing them. This’ll let them know for sure you’re still crazy about them.

Also still kiss them hello and goodbye. Small gestures like this help us all to experience love from our partners.

Psychologists have identified different types of love that people may experience.

They include:

• Friendship: Liking someone and sharing a certain level of intimacy.
• Infatuation: Intense feelings of attraction without a sense of commitment; it may eventually deepen into a more lasting love.
• Passionate Love: Intense feelings of longing and attraction; idealization occurs and there’s often a need for constant physical closeness.
• Companionate Love: Marked by trust, affection, intimacy, and commitment.
• Unrequited Love: When one person loves someone who does not return those feelings.

The concept of Love Languages was originally developed by Dr. Gary Chapman and popularized by his 1992 book, The 5 Love Languages. Truity's 7 Love Styles assessment updates and expands the concept to put emphasis on what really matters in modern relationships.

Love in the leadership-at-work sense is not a feeling; it's expressed as an "action verb." 

It's love that shows up in meeting the needs of others to get results, clearing obstacles from people's paths, and empowering others to succeed and grow as workers and human beings. It has intrinsic value for both leader and employee. 

Author Gary Chapman developed the theory that there are five basic ways romantic partners give and receive love.

The five love languages are:

1. Physical touch
2. Quality time
3. Acts of service, such as cooking a meal or cleaning the car.
4. Words of affirmation, such as verbal praise, compliments, and expressions of love.
5. Gift-giving ranging from small tokens to surprise deliveries.

The majority of us have one or two dominant love languages, but each of us speaks all five languages to some degree. By learning how to 'speak' each other's preferred love language, you're ensuring both of you feel supported and seen.

Storge is the love parents have for their children. Mothers are very familiar with this type of love as it comes naturally to them when they give birth. Storge can be seen as an unconditional love as parents (especially mothers) tend to love their children regardless of bad behavior.

Reverence is an emotion that makes us put the people we are in awe of, on a pedestal. It helps us emulate the good qualities of the person and improve ourselves. If the person we revere and admire is also someone close to us, we may think we are in love.

It can be confusing to understand if we are in love with 1) the person; or 2) the perfect qualities of that person, which we admire.

At one point or another, most people will experience the tingling of love or something similar. They will also likely experience the thrill of developing a romantic relationship. Some will last. Others will go by fleetingly. 

There will, at the very least, have one aspect in common – the feeling we call “love.” Many poets and philosophers have pondered upon how that is defined and what that means. Scientists have taken a more practical approach and may have found some answers through their observations. 

It is difficult to discuss some sensitive subjects, and we are tempted to avoid them. Other times we simply expect our partners to know what we are doing, thinking or what we want.

It is much better to get things out in the open regularly rather than waiting to have big rows that might damage your relationship.

The Greeks categorized love into three types:

• Philia: The love of material things and friends.
• Eros: Physical love, lust, love of the senses
• Agape: Godly or fatherly unconditional love.

Understanding the brain chemistry of love and the impact of separation.

Research shows that love can be addictive, and people can experience withdrawal symptoms when they are separated from their partner. This is because love activates the same brain regions as drugs like cocaine and heroin

Although the 5 Love Languages is a handy communication tool to improve how we interact with each other, it shouldn't be the only tool in the toolbox when it comes to finding ways to understanding love and happiness.

People and relationships can’t be lumped into one simple category. As an individual and a couple, you should be able to take what you need from each language, and use that info to learn and grow together.

Many would say that love is one of the most important human emotions. Although it’s one of the most studied behaviors, it’s the least understood. There’s much debate whether love is a biological or cultural phenomenon.

It’s most likely driven and motivated by both biological and cultural influences. Although hormones and biology are important, the way we express and experience love individually, also plays a role about our personal ideas of love.

Everyone has different needs. To ensure that your’s and your partner’s needs are met, is to talk about them.

Helping another person feel loved involves communicating through words and deeds. 

Some ways to do this include: showing that you care, making them feel special, telling them they are loved, and doing things for them.

Extraordinary couples are like everyone else. Except they make their love intentional.

In business, fitness, or even your hobby, you don't passively wait for things to get better. The same is true for your relationship. Don't take your partner for granted. Take action.

We can all agree that, on balance, and taking everything into account, love is a wonderful thing. For many, it is the point of life. It infiltrates every fibre of our being and every aspect of our daily lives. It is the most important factor in our mental and physical health, our longevity and our life satisfaction. And regardless of who the object of our love is – lover or friend, dog or god – these effects are largely underpinned, in the first instance, by the set of addictive neurochemicals supporting the bonds we create: oxytocin, dopamine, beta-endorphin and serotonin.

Relational Ambivalence is the experience of contradictory thoughts and feelings—of love and hate, attraction and disgust, excitement and fear, contempt and envy—toward someone with whom we are in a relationship.

 We are taught that love is unconditional, passion is absolute, and that finding “the one” should clear us of all doubt. But relationships are never black and white. We learn that romantic love is supposed to flood us with certainty and thus there is no room for ambivalence. But ambivalence is as intrinsic to relationships as love itself.

• Talkative girls and silent boys make the best couples.
• Being loved back by a person you love exactly feels like having butterflies in the stomach.
• Most of the time boys make the first move. But, if a girl does it then, believe me, no one can love you more than that girl.
• Men love faster than Women.
• Seeing a loved one automatically can raise your heart beat faster.
• Most of the people can't make eye contact with their crush.

• It will be helpful for finding little ways to show them extra affection in a personalized way.
• It’s also helpful to know that whatever love language they speak is also the language they are most likely to feel hurt by.
• Even if your child scores high in one or two languages, that doesn’t mean you should ditch the other languages completely.

Having good, supportive friendships, a strong marriage or close and loving relationships with our family members will make us much more likely to be happy. 

Action steps: Take time, today, to spend time with your loved ones, to tell them what they mean to you, to listen to them, and develop your relationship with them.

Eros is a dangerous type of love fuelled by passion and can become addictive. Passionate love depends not on values and personality but sexual attractions and desires.

Most mornings, commit to spending five minutes with your partner. Think of a relationship intention, then share it. "Today, I intend to be careful with my tone of voice when I feel impatient."

Commit spending two minutes at the end of the day reviewing your progress and ways to improve it.

You communicate a genuine interest when you inquire or listen to the small details that make up your partner’s day. It’s those insignificant moments that make up the reality of our lives.

Attachment + Caring + Intimacy = Perfect Love❤️



• It only takes up to 4 minutes to decide whether you like someone or not

• When Two Lovers Gaze At Each Others’ Eyes, Their Heart Rates Synchronize

• Falling In Love Has Neurological Effects Similar To Those Of Cocaine

• Cuddling Releases Natural Painkillers

• Even Looking At A Picture Of A Loved One Relieves The Pain

• Couples Who Are Too Similar To Each Other Are not Likely To Last

• Romantic Love Eventually Ends.Only To Be Followed By Committed Love

• Holding A Loved One’s Hand Relieves Pain And Stress



Try Loving-Kindness Meditation.

LKM promotes self-acceptance and positive emotions, reduces stress and improves relationships.

It involves meditating while thinking about a person you love or care about, concentrating on warm feelings and your desire for their well-being and happiness.

• When disconnected, they ache for reconciliation. 
• avoid blaming each other in arguments or disputes, 
• try to meet one another’s needs 
• parent each other a little
• understand that the future and relationships are uncertain.

Love comes from our subconscious mind, containing ten times more information than our conscious mind, thus making love an uncontrollable feeling that we cannot get rid of.

We often speak the love language to our partners that we ourselves want to receive.

If your partner's love language is gifts, they'll put the item on display or wear it every day, But the surest way to find out if your partner's love language is gifts is to ask them.

Philia can describe the love of a long relationship , a good friendship or familial bonds. This type of love can be comforting and make you experience more positive emotions.

Jealousy is an emotion and, as with all emotions, it evolved to protect us, to alert us to a potential benefit or threat. It works its magic at three levels: the emotional, the cognitive and the behavioural. Physiology also throws its hat into the ring making you feel nauseous, faint or flushed.

As the initial stage of love fades away, a deeper, richer sense of each other should take its place, and couples can find more ways to make things interesting and fun.

Years of pop culture exposure, in which love has been depicted in a perfect way, we have an idealistic and black-and-white understanding of love.

Real love is accepting someone with all the flaws that come with them, with no conditions.

Attachment + Caring + Intimacy = Perfect Love❤️

• It only takes up to 4 minutes to decide whether you like someone or not

• When Two Lovers Gaze At Each Others’ Eyes, Their Heart Rates Synchronize

• Falling In Love Has Neurological Effects Similar To Those Of Cocaine

• Cuddling Releases Natural Painkillers

• Even Looking At A Picture Of A Loved One Relieves The Pain

• Couples Who Are Too Similar To Each Other Are not Likely To Last

• Romantic Love Eventually Ends.Only To Be Followed By Committed Love

• Holding A Loved One’s Hand Relieves Pain And Stress

Being in a relationship is not about dates or showing off. It's about being with the person who makes you happy.

Romantic relationships have the extraordinary potential to expand our selves. 

They create a 'role engulfment' where one's identity is based entirely on one specific role of being a good lover/partner. It is conducive to one's growth and health and eventually applies to the self, and one starts to help others selflessly.

Feel special and valued when: their partner takes an interest in their hobbies and interests and makes an effort to enjoy activities together.

The motivation here is togetherness, but it's about more than just spending quality time with a partner.

Agape is a concept of love found in the Bible that describes God’s love for humankind and humankind’s love for God. The word “Agape” is of Greek origin and is considered the highest form of love not only by Christians but by other religions too. Buddhists believe that Agape is the foundational love for all humanity.

Oxytocin is the love hormone for a reason and gets released by your body once you embrace or cuddle with someone. The hormone is found in the brain and sexual organs and could contribute to the bonding process between two individuals.

When mentally ill, we may want to return again and again to the subject that should normally have been dealt with.

However, the loving response is to take the worry as seriously as possible and address it head-on without scoffing or denying the scale of the concern.

Our relationships have been sidelined, with excitement and novelty taking a backseat, due to our lives daily struggle.
The forgotten skill of nurturing and prioritizing your relationship is imperative. Example: Daily time together, communicating with each other lovingly and honestly.

Inverting a good marriage can show you how to avoid a bad one.

Ask yourself what behaviors might ruin a marriage ( Lack of trust, not respecting the other person, not letting each person have time to be an individual, etc.)

We usually overlook the emotional aspect of working with people while handling tight deadlines.

Leaders have to take simple actions like trusting and respecting their colleagues and team members, being true to themselves and have a clear understanding of the value of any work assignment, meeting or request. Making reliable commitments ensures that others keep their agreements as well.

• What’s your first memory of me?
• What’s your favorite memory of us together?
• How did you meet your best friend or other best friends?
• What’s an uncommon belief you hold?
• What’s something you’d like to learn more about?
• What is the most exciting thing you’ve learned in the past few months?
• How do you define trust? What do you do to show trust in relationships?
• What’s something I don’t already know about you?
• What are your hidden talents?
• What do you consider your biggest life accomplishment?
• What’s your favorite childhood memory?
• What person had the biggest positive impact on you as a child, and why?
• Who do you really look up to, and why?

The 5 Love Languages is the concept, from Dr. Gary Chapman, that there are five different ways of communicating love.

The 5 Love Languages are:

• Words of Affirmation
• Quality Time
• Receiving Gifts
• Acts of Service
• Physical Touch

People express love differently, and they have different ways they want to receive love. So, some of these languages may speak more to us than others.

The mortality risks associated with loneliness exceeds those associated with obesity and physical inactivity and are comparable to the risks of smoking. 

Digital connections cannot replace in-person ones and the value of physical presence and touch.

Studio Ghibli films are united around the importance of relationships as an essential part of achieving great things.

Victories are rarely achieved alone, but trustworthy friends, companions, and allies make it possible. Their triumphs are shared with friends and family. They are embracing, laughing, and smiling together.

• Intimacy: Emotional closeness, communication, feeling that no one knows you better or has your back more strongly than your mate.
• Thrill: Excitement, attraction, adventure.
• Sensuality: The entire spectrum from kissing goodnight to holding hands, from making tender love to raw passion.

Only when you are in a state of giving, are you ready to be in a relationship. Again Jay says to come down to the values and qualities you want in a person to have in your life. Our relationship are precious and giving undivided attention is our supreme duty. Keep away all distractions and devote yourself in meaningful relationships with the close people in your life.

Your partner isn’t a mind-reader. It’s up to you to tell them exactly what you need.

Just say “It would mean a lot to me if . .. .” and fill in the blank with whatever you need to feel loved and supported.

It refers to the idea that we all give and receive love differently. The five languages are:

• Words of affirmation
• Acts of service
• Receiving gifts
• Quality time
• Physical touch

Love, attachment, and affection have an important impact on well-being and quality of life.

Loving relationships have been linked to:

• Decreased risk of heart disease
• Less risk of dying after a heart attack
• Better health habits
• Increased longevity
• Lower stress levels
• Less depression
• Lower risk of diabetes

Five reasons people get attracted to someone else:

• Physical – you like their looks
• Material – you like their possessions, power, or accomplishments
• Intellectual – you like how they think
• Emotional – you connect well. They understand your feelings.
• Spiritual – they share your deepest goals and values

Have deep conversations with people and really give them your presence and attention.

Stages of trust - refer image!

Good relationships take commitment and effort.

The challenge for couples is cultivating a mature and trusting love that is the key to a lasting relationship.

1. You love one-on-one time, crave it even.
2. It means a lot when they make time for you and when they include you in their plans.
3. You cherish every moment spent together creating special memories and building strong bonds.
4. You feel content just being around your partner, even when doing nothing at all.

1. You enjoy holding hands, hugs, cuddles, and kissing.
2. You feel grounded in a relationship with plenty of mutual physical affection.
3. Public displays of affection makes you feel wanted and desired. 
4. You simply love being around your partner. From the small brushes as you walk past each other, to the playful pats on the butt.
5. Sexual intimacy makes you feel loved and closer to your partner.

1. You enjoy hearing the words, "I love you." It’s both special and meaningful.
2. Appreciation is felt when you’re being acknowledged and praised. It lets you know that you are valued.
3. You like when your partner notices something different and tells you, it shows they’re paying attention.
4. Hearing thoughtful comments on the positive things you do means a lot to you.
5. When you do something nice, and they say, "Thank you," it makes you feel recognized and affirmed.

1. You feel most cared for when your partner relieves you of some responsibilities, like chores or tasks. It shows their support. Even more, if you’re stressed or tired.
2. It means a lot when someone follows through on something, especially when it comes to help.
3. Actions mean everything. You expect people to come through and need to know you can rely on them.
4. You love when your partner steps in to do little things for you to make your life easier. 

1. You feel loved when you receive a gift. It’s a meaningful gesture you truly appreciate.
2. You love to seek out mementos during special holidays and after trips or vacations. Seeing the item reminds you of the sentimental moments and your commitment. 
3. Meaningful gifts are the best. It strengthens your bond and builds a deeper connection. You treasure those nostalgic items. 
4. You thrive on the thoughtfulness and gesture of receiving a gift. It shows that you are seen, cared for, and prized.

In the beginning of a relationship, you’re both putting your best foot forward. But eventually your flaws start to show, and your partner has to learn how to deal with them.

Recognizing that all relationships take work will keep you from feeling disappointed later on.

Many couples have reached a cozy state of companionship. The humdrumness of life affects the long-term relationship.

It is not uncommon to lose the 'fire' and is unrealistic to expect consistency.

Though love, sex, and intimacy do fluctuate over our lifetimes, there are several possible ways to reconnect with your partner and rekindle the relationship.

Knowing that you are being heard is one of the experiences most likely to cement a feeling of connection to another. 

Use a technique called “active listening” - a form of listening in which you acknowledge that you understand what is being said. 

The general view expects that love and sex will be aligned. But in truth, they won’t stay so beyond a few months or, at best, one or two years.
This is not anyone’s fault. Relationships in the long term have other key concerns (companionship, administration, another generation). 

If you believe that great relationships just happen naturally and nobody should ever have to work at them or talk things through, you tend to avoid problems rather than try and solve them.