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“I have to be better than just OK to be happy”

When you start making demands and deals with yourself to allow happiness into your life, you are signing your life away. 

These are when-contracts: "When I get what I want, then I can be happy.” The problem is that the finish line is a moving target, as life is ever-changing and so are your desires.

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“If I don’t constantly seek happiness, I will be sad”

Instead of seeking happiness, feel the contentment in your life. It’s easier to find, and it lasts much longer.

When our lives are actually out of control, we feel stress. When they are not out of control, we may create our own stress by pushing ourselves to be happy, and i...

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“If I have lots of money, I will be happy”

Money can buy a lot of things, but after your basic needs are taken care of, the upgrades that come with an increase in income really don’t make that much of a difference.

A famous Princeton study in 2010 found that emotional well-being did not increase for people maki...

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“When life is normal again, then I can be happy again”

Things can never be like they were. The entire world is traumatized, and we don’t yet know what normal is going to look like. 

This time is not about trying to be happy. It’s about learning to love and enjoy what we have.

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“If I have a fulfilled life, then I will never be unhappy”

Everything has a life cycle, and feelings of fulfillment are no different.

You will need to seek different kinds of fulfillment as your life changes and your body ages. And unhappiness, like happiness, is only temporary.

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“When I find true love, then I will be happy"

This is perhaps the most common myth we tell ourselves about happiness, but nothing could be further from the truth. 

Love is the best thing on the planet, and it is also the most painful, so brace yourself. Be careful about what you ask for.

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“There’s something wrong with me if I’m not happy all the time”

“There’s something wrong with me if I’m not happy all the time”

There is nothing wrong with you if you aren’t happy all the time. No one can be happy all the time. In fact, a temporary feeling of giddiness or being high on life is often mistaken for happiness. 

True happiness is more of an inner peace thing.

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