Every day we are assaulted by negativity; no wonder we can't help but dish it out as well as receive it. This negativity is not part of anyone's plan of the day. What can we do then?Rather than focusing on the negative, we can focus on the small joys of the day instead :) We have three core emotional needs; peace, love, understanding From these emotions stems all other sorts of emotional feelings; distress, anxiety, overwhelming feeling and so on How? When we have a loss of any one of the emotional needs, it generates fear and fear further creates all sorts of negative emotions

Negativity Is Everywhere 

Observer: We step away and look at the situation as if we are not in the middle of it. Negativity is a trait, not someone's identity. Back away: Once you are in a stage where you can understand the situation, back away from negativity.The 25/75 principle: For every negative person in your life, have three uplifting people. Be sure that at least 75% of your time is spent with positive people.Allocate time: Only you have control over what you do every day. Allocate time for people according to their energy.Don't be a saviour: If all someone needs is an ear, you can do that.

Ways To Deal With External Negativity 

OEO's are opinions, expectations, and obligations respectively

No matter what you think your values are your actions tell the real story

Whenever we make a choice, whether it's big or small, we as driven by our values. If these choices work well for us, then our values are in alignment with our actions. But when things don't work out, it's worth revisiting what drove the decision you made.

Choice = Value 

When we criticize others, we can't help but notice the bad in ourselves. But when we look for the good in others, we start to see the best in ourselves.

Once we begin to neutralize the external tendencies, we become able to see our own negativity. Internal negativity Envy, complaint, anger. The only competition you should do is to outstrip each other in showing love and respect The more we define ourselves to the relation of others the more lost we are.1) Anartha-nivritti: Letting go of unwanted emotions and thoughts 2) Spot, stop, swap: Become aware of the issue - SPOT, We address that issue - STOP, replace it with positivity -SWAP. Grass is greener where you water it. Complain mindfully. Choose words mindfully. Find joy in others.

Internal Negativity 

It is only through this curiosity, thought, effort, and revelation that we find our way to peace, calm, and purpose

Do not give attention to what others do or fail to do; give it to what you do or fail to do.

if you can't explain something simply, you don't understand it well enough.

Your identity is a mirror covered with dust. When you first look in the mirror, the truth of who you are and what you value is obscured. Clearing it may not be pleasant, but only when that dust is gone can you see your true reflection.

When you try to live your most authentic life some of your relationships may be put in jeopardy. Losing them is a risk worth bearing; finding a way to keep them in your life is a challenge worth taking on

If you know your values, you have directions that point you towards people and actions and habits that are best for you <3

Values

If you wanted to know how to dominate the basketball court, you might turn to Michael Jordan; if you wanted to innovate, you might investigate Elon musk; you might study Beyoncè to learn how to perform. If you want to train your mind to find peace and purpose? Monks are the experts <3"A layperson who is consciously aiming to be continuously alive in the Now is a monk"Monks can withstand temptations, refrain from criticising, deal with pain and anxiety, quiet the ego, and build lives that brims with purpose and meaning.

Why approach monk mind❔

Once you filter out the noise of (opinions, expectations, obligations) oeo's, you will see the world through different eyes. The next step is to bring the world back in. When I ask you to strip away external influences, I don't want you to tune out the whole world indefinitely :)

Filter OEO's, Don't Block Them 

Cancers of the mind: comparing, criticizing, complaining

The goal of monk thinking is a life free of ego, envy, lust, anxiety, anger, bitterness, baggage

-fearlessness, purity of mind, gratitude, service and charity, acceptance, performing sacrifice, deep study, austerity, straightforwardness, nonviolence, truthfulness, absence of anger, renunciation, perspective, restraint from fault finding, compassion toward all living beings, satisfaction, gentleness, integrity, determination.-greed, lust, anger, ego, illusion, envy

Greater And Lower Values

There is no commandment that says we have to be upset by the way other people treat us. The reason we are upset is because we have an emotional program.

The only thing that stays with you from the moment you're born until the moment you die is your breath. When you get stressed-what changes? Your breath. When you get angry-what changes? Your breath. We experience every emotion with the change of our breath. When you learn to navigate and manage your breath, you can navigate any situation in life.

Breath 

Leaves sprout, transform, drop. Reptiles, birds and mammals shed their skins, feathers, fur. Letting go is a big part of the rhythm of nature, as is rebirth. We humans cling to materialistic stuff - letting those things go is a direct route to space (literally) and stillness. We separate ourselves - emotionally if not physically - from the people and ideas that surround us

Letting Go

The monks think of their ashram as a hospital, where they all are patients. They were all there to heal. To get better and healthier. Everyone has different sicknesses, everyone is still learning, and just as we would not judge anyone else's health problem, we shouldn't judge someone who sins differently We can also apply the same attitude to our lives. <3

Home = Hospital 😌

Society's definition of happiness is nobody's and everybody's

We should plant trees under whose shade we don't plan to sit

I am not what I think I am, and I am not what you think I am. I am what I think you think I am.

I wanted to grow as a person. I didn't want to know humanity or compassion and empathy only as abstract concepts, I wanted to live them. I didn't want discipline, character, and integrity to just be things I read about. I wanted to live them 💗

Growth 

We live in a perception ofa perception of ourselves

When we tune out the OEO's of the world around us we begin to hear ourselves.

Fill your heart with purity, then contribute to fill purty in the world.

Jay Shetty, social media superstar and host of the #1 podcast On Purpose, distills the timeless wisdom he learned as a monk into practical steps anyone can take every day to live a less anxious, more meaningful life. When you think like a monk, you’ll understand: -How to overcome negativity -How to stop overthinking -Why comparison kills love -How to use your fear -Why you can’t find happiness by looking for it -How to learn from everyone you meet -Why you are not your thoughts -How to find your purpose -Why kindness is crucial to success -And much more... Shetty grew up in a family where you could become one of three things—a doctor, a lawyer, or a failure. His family was convinced he had chosen option three: instead of attending his college graduation ceremony, he headed to India to become a monk, to meditate every day for four to eight hours, and devote his life to helping others. After three years, one of his teachers told him that he would have more impact on the world if he left the monk’s path to share his experience and wisdom with others. Heavily in debt, and with no recognizable skills on his résumé, he moved back home in north London with his parents. Shetty reconnected with old school friends—many working for some of the world’s largest corporations—who were experiencing tremendous stress, pressure, and unhappiness, and they invited Shetty to coach them on well-being, purpose, and mindfulness. Since then, Shetty has become one of the world’s most popular influencers. In 2017, he was named in the Forbes magazine 30-under-30 for being a game-changer in the world of media. In 2018, he had the #1 video on Facebook with over 360 million views. His social media following totals over 38 million, he has produced over 400 viral videos which have amassed more than 8 billion views, and his podcast, On Purpose, is consistently ranked the world’s #1 Health and Wellness podcast. In this inspiring, empowering book, Shetty draws on his time as a monk to show us how we can clear the roadblocks to our potential and power. Combining ancient wisdom and his own rich experiences in the ashram, Think Like a Monk reveals how to overcome negative thoughts and habits, and access the calm and purpose that lie within all of us. He transforms abstract lessons into advice and exercises we can all apply to reduce stress, improve relationships, and give the gifts we find in ourselves to the world. Shetty proves that everyone can—and should—think like a monk.

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Jay Shetty, social media superstar and host of the #1 podcast On Purpose, distills the timeless wisdom he learned as a monk into practical steps anyone can take every day to live a less anxious, more meaningful life. When you think like a monk, you’ll understand: -How to overcome negativity -How to stop overthinking -Why comparison kills love -How to use your fear -Why you can’t find happiness by looking for it -How to learn from everyone you meet -Why you are not your thoughts -How to find your purpose -Why kindness is crucial to success -And much more... Shetty grew up in a family where you could become one of three things—a doctor, a lawyer, or a failure. His family was convinced he had chosen option three: instead of attending his college graduation ceremony, he headed to India to become a monk, to meditate every day for four to eight hours, and devote his life to helping others. After three years, one of his teachers told him that he would have more impact on the world if he left the monk’s path to share his experience and wisdom with others. Heavily in debt, and with no recognizable skills on his résumé, he moved back home in north London with his parents. Shetty reconnected with old school friends—many working for some of the world’s largest corporations—who were experiencing tremendous stress, pressure, and unhappiness, and they invited Shetty to coach them on well-being, purpose, and mindfulness. Since then, Shetty has become one of the world’s most popular influencers. In 2017, he was named in the Forbes magazine 30-under-30 for being a game-changer in the world of media. In 2018, he had the #1 video on Facebook with over 360 million views. His social media following totals over 38 million, he has produced over 400 viral videos which have amassed more than 8 billion views, and his podcast, On Purpose, is consistently ranked the world’s #1 Health and Wellness podcast. In this inspiring, empowering book, Shetty draws on his time as a monk to show us how we can clear the roadblocks to our potential and power. Combining ancient wisdom and his own rich experiences in the ashram, Think Like a Monk reveals how to overcome negative thoughts and habits, and access the calm and purpose that lie within all of us. He transforms abstract lessons into advice and exercises we can all apply to reduce stress, improve relationships, and give the gifts we find in ourselves to the world. Shetty proves that everyone can—and should—think like a monk.

Jay Shetty is a storyteller, podcaster, and former monk. Shetty’s vision is to Make Wisdom Go Viral. He is on a mission to share the timeless wisdom of the world in an accessible, relevant, and practical way. Shetty has created over 400 viral videos with over 5 billion views, and hosts the #1 Health and Wellness podcast in the world, On Purpose. Learn more at JayShetty.me.

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