Why people swear

• Swearing helps mitigate pain.
• Those who speak more than one language, report that swearing in their first language carries a bigger emotional punch.
• A few blue words, uttered in a good-natured way, indicates and encourages intimacy.
• A recent study suggests that people who swear are perceived as more trustworthy.

There’s great research coming out that says that jocular abuse, particularly swearing among friends, is a strong signal of the degree of trust that those friends share.

You’re demonstrating that you have a sophisticated theory of mind about the person that you’re talking to and that you understand their mental model.

Attitudinal surveys show that both men and women tend to judge women’s swearing much more harshly.

For example, when women with breast cancer or arthritis swear as a result of their condition, they’re much more likely to lose friends, particularly female friends. Whereas men who swear about conditions like testicular cancer tend to bond more closely with other men using the same vocabulary.

One study found that participants who swore saw a 2 to 4 percent increase in performance and an 8 percent boost in strength compared to those who kept their mouths shut.

Cursing diverts your attention, which makes you work harder than if you were only focusing on how tough the workout is.

When we complain or vent without cursing, we are keeping ourselves in check and don't totally release all feelings.

Cursing can be an effective emotional release. Our whole body and all emotions are connected with no filter.

It can be a seriously bad idea to let loose and throw a punch at someone who's made us angry.

We use swear words, to let profanity stand in for aggressive action.

Swearing engages both sides of your brain.

This may be why people who have trouble speaking, such as stroke victims or stutterers, are often able to speak more easily when they curse.

The words we attach to our experience become our experience. 

Words have a biochemical effect on the body. For example, if you use a word like “devastated,” you’re going to produce a very different biochemical effect than if you say, “I’m a bit disappointed.”

Replace just one word that will transform the way you experience something “negative.” This is how you create a choice instead of a habitual reaction.

These small changes in your vocabulary give you the power to change your experiences in life by lowering the intensity of negative emotions to the point where they no longer control you.

• If your audience is likely to disagree, speak faster. It gives them less time to form their own counterarguments and you have a better chance of persuading them.
• If your audience is likely to agree, speak slower. It gives them time to evaluate your arguments and factor in a few of their own thoughts.

Gaining agreement has an enduring effect, even if only over the short term. So instead of jumping right to the end of your argument, start with statements or premises you know your audience will agree with. Build a foundation for further agreement.

Popular people do not focus on themselves, their problems, or their achievements.

They are active listeners, asking a few questions to encourage others to talk. They do not expect perfection and tolerate the weaknesses of others well.

Likable people are always positive and optimistic.

They are very grateful for the things they have in life and do not focus on the things they lack.

Some words remain a mystery, as human language cannot be simply demarcated and translated as is, by giving definitions to words.

Certain words add to the mystery and the beauty of languages and provide richer shades to communication.

Certain words contain the essence of the lifestyles, and the hardships endured in certain cultures. These words are relatable to those who themselves have experienced the same.

• Foreseeable expectations are those which we assume others will know based on our interpersonal relationship with them and feel offended when we see it is breached.
• Reciprocity expectation is a hope that our favors and kind deeds towards someone are repaid by them.
• Equity expectations happen when we want to be treated fairly and equally.

These expectations, values and beliefs are all based on our past experiences.

Believing in our values forms our identity and provides us with a sense of entitlement to feel offended because we feel these 'sacred' values should be respected. 

This is amplified by being exposed to a lot of different points of view on social media.

• Self-Awareness: be aware of your trengths, weaknesses, and values and displaying them to your team.
• Relational Transparency: remain genuine, straightforward, and honest with your team. Display the behavior you hope to see in your employees.
• Balanced Processing: stick to your values when making decisions, but remain open to discussions and alternatve options.
• Doing the right thing: focus on doing the right thing for the long-term success of the business, not yours.