The Looking Paradox

We usually believe that effort will be draining and that it's better to save our energy for when we really need it. Yet, more often than not, the opposite is the case: when we really use our full effort for something that truly matters to us, we feel more energized, not less.

In school, your teachers worked out a lesson plan and made sure you were aiming in the right direction. When you're teaching yourself, you have to do it yourself.

• Deconstruct and select: Every skill can be broken down into pieces. Find out what are the minimal learna...

Be yourself. Be who you are. Don't think "well, girls only like this and that" or "guys want blah blah blah" and then try to conform to that. If it works, you have just shot yourself in the foot. Because guess what? You've just attracted a partner who is looking for something you're not. Good luc...