Rather than dwelling on the things you can't control, try putting your effort into the things that you can. 

Have a long commute to work? Try listening to audiobooks. Hurt your leg jogging? Try swimming. More often than not, we take the bad and let it hold us back when it doesn't have to. 

There are four things that are very useful for people who have big expectations of themselves and life that will help you stop pressuring yourself.

1. You don't need to have big goals to be successful.
2. You don't need to have many thriving relationships or community...

As long as you're conflicted about your preferences and the ways you've chosen to identify yourself, you have a problem.

It could be that you don't want to disappoint yourself and clearing the lowest hurdles possible. You are choosing a lifestyle of avoidance and low expectations.