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Anxious and Avoidants:

  • Are attracted to each other.


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Shadowwork Prompts (Avoidant):

  • What doesn’t feel safe about relationships to me?
  • Why do I feel dependency is a bad thing?
  • What methods do I use to escape from intimacy?
  • What do I fear will happen if I let someone in?
  • What does my ideal relationship look like?
  • How can I show up...


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Secure Attachment Style:

  • Positive outlook on life and dating.
  • Maintain long healthy connections with others.
  • Don’t overthink.
  • Comfortable with intimacy.
  • Know when to reach out for support.
  • Trusting of others.
  • Can communicate needs maturely.
  • Can handle c...


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Avoidant Attachment Style People Might Say:

  • "I don’t have time for them. They’re too clingy."
  • "I wasn’t meant for relationships. Better off on my own."
  • "See, this wouldn’t happen if I was with someone else."
  • "I liked this person for so long, but now that they’re reciprocating the energy, I am no longer inte...


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Avoidant to Secure:

  • Build self-awareness around toxic traits.
  • Ask for advice/support.
  • Gratitude journal about a partner.
  • Open mind/flexibility.
  • Communicate.
  • Date someone with a secure attachment.


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Avoidant Attachment Style:

  • Inconsistent care and lack of affection as a child turn into a fear of closeness.
  • Isolation becomes your safe space.
  • Relationships represent danger, chaos, and pain.


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Signs of Avoidant Attachment:

  • High, rigid, superficial standards.
  • Romanticize exes, past situationships, and people you’re not currently with.
  • Flirt, lead people on, and breadcrumb for fun.
  • Refuse to ask for help.
  • Get the ick with a person that treats you right.
  • Trust issues....


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Low self-esteem and fear of rejection.


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Anxious Attachment Style Cause:

  • Inconsistent parenting.
  • You’re the best one day and the worst another.


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Anxious Attachment Style Consequences:

  • Clingy and codependent.
  • Constantly need validation from others.
  • Always want to be around others.
  • Need a lot of emotional support.
  • Fear abandonment.
  • Feel unlovable.
  • Feel the need to perform for and earn love.
  • Think other people's...


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Disorganized to Secure:

  • Transition from avoidant and anxious to secure attachment styles.


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Anxious to Secure:

  • Go against limiting beliefs (ask questions).
  • Don’t overthink, literally call and ask for reassurance (ask them what they’re thinking).
  • Self-validation and confidence building.
  • Abundance mindset.
  • Addition mindset (what can me and my partner gain from negat...


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Shadowwork Prompts (Avoidant) Pt2:

  • What are some limiting beliefs around relationships?
  • How can I practice vulnerability without compromising boundaries?
  • What are some healthy coping mechanisms I can use when I feel the urge to withdraw?
  • What are small steps I can take to start healing?


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  1. Take an attachment style quiz on Google.
  2. Research attachment styles and analyze how they apply to your life.
  3. Journal and engage in shadow work.
  4. List out all your past relationships and create pros and cons lists (helps identify triggers).
  5. Develop self-awa...


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Shadowwork Prompts (Anxious) Pt2:

  • What is the root cause of my anxiety when it comes to intimate connections with others?
  • Why do I worry about not being good enough for someone?
  • What are my biggest triggers in relationships and their root causes?
  • What can my partner do to help me feel more secure?...


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Consequences of Avoidant Attachment:

  • Trouble feeling or showing emotions.
  • Feel uncomfortable with too much physical closeness.
  • Get the ick when people are being caring to you.
  • Stuck in a serial dating or situationship phase because you fear closeness.
  • Self-sabotage and choose wrong partners ...


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Shadowwork Prompts (Anxious):

  • Why do I need to be surrounded by others to be happy?
  • What do I fear about being alone?
  • What experiences from my childhood contributed to my attachment style?
  • What are some of my toxic things?
  • What are some insecurities around abandonment and rejection?


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Fearful Avoidant / Disorganized Attachment Style:

  • Symptoms of avoidant and anxious attachment styles mixed together.
  • Crave care from others but push them away when they try to give it to you.
  • Sensitive to signs of rejection.
  • Shy away from physical closeness and emotional connection.
  • Trust issues.


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  • I am worthy of love and affection.
  • I am capable of building healthy and fulfilling relationships.
  • I trust myself to make healthy choices in my relationships.
  • I am deserving of kindness and respect in all of my relationships.
  • I am capable of setting and en...


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Affirmations Pt2:

  • I am willing to be vulnerable and open in my relationships because I have a safe space with the people in my life.
  • I only choose partners who are loving, supportive, and respectful.
  • I am so grateful for all of the love and healthy connections in my life.
  • I can be ...


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Causes of Avoidant Attachment:

Caused by:

  • Physical neglect.
  • Emotional neglect.
  • Lack of empathy and affection from parents (constantly put you down, invalidated you, told you not to cry, said you’re being too sensitive, said it wasn’t okay to express any negative emotions like anger and sadness).


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This covers anxious attachment, avoidant attachment and fearful avoidant/disorganised attachment, understanding all 4 attachment styles, how to heal them and achieve a secure attachment style so that you can get and maintain healthy loving relationships, and STOP SELF SABOTAGING FOR GOOD!

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Anxious Or Preoccupied Attachment Style

  • Some people are always craving for emotional intimacy, even when the other person is not serious or romantic.
  • They are in a constant need of approval and reassurances from their partner, and tend to be anxious when the other person isn’t providin...


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