And so now that we've been through a dizzying amount of research on reading others, how can you make sure you come off well when others read you?

Do you need to pay more attention to your body language? Nope.

Your facial expressions or your "behavioral mimicry"? Double nope.

When I spoke to Olivia Fox-Cabane , author of The Charisma Myth , she said all of that is doomed to fail unless you have an acting Oscar on your shelf:

...trying to control your facial expressions is not just impossible, it will even backfire. Since the micro-expressions will be incongruent with the main expression, they'll give the impression that something is not quite right and you can end up seeming fake - which, of course, ruins trust and charisma...