When you're in the middle of asking questions to satisfy your curiosity, you may be tempted to give advice instead of finding out why someone is asking. 

When you engage with team members, instead of giving answers, ask, "what's the real challenge here for you?"

We need to give control to get control.

This means giving people (the people you love, your employees, even yourself) the flexibility to experience with the rules. Instead of a rigid framework, define one with key principles.

1. What’s the reason for dropping this truth bomb? Is it to address their career growth, their health, their relationship? You need to be crystal clear & make sure it is at the heart of the conversation.
2. Why does it...