Truthfully, familiarity has killed more marriages than adultery. When we are familiar with something, we treat it as common. Let’s never become too familiar with the one we love. Let’s look for ways to connect with them again today by asking new questions, planning a fun date night, or expressing your love and appreciation. If we think we know everything about our spouse, we stop pursuing them with fresh curiosity and passion. When familiarity is taken too far, it causes married couples to become better roommates than life partners full of love, intimacy, and friendship.

Familiarity Can Be Dangerous

Rather than focusing on the faults of your spouse, focus on what he or she does well. Let your words reflect an awareness of their strengths, gifts and contributions to your relationship and home.An atmosphere of fault-finding will destroy the intimacy in any marriage, whether it comes from the wife or the husband – or both.If a fault is at a level that needs to be addressed for the sake of the relationship, address it. But express your disappointments in a spirit that shows honor.Be mindful not to criticize your spouse while bringing light to a behavior that brought you pain or concern.

Fault Finding With Caution

Every marriage needs boundaries - limits that keep the bad things out, and the good things in.In setting the boundaries in your marriage, there are three important areas to consider: <ul><li>Your emotions - who you’re sharing them with and how often.</li><li>Your interactions - who you’re spending time with and why.</li><li>Your time - where it’s being spent and how much?</li></ul>

"A happy marriage is a union of two good forgivers".

For a relationship to have any hope of thriving, we need to learn to let go of our pride in exchange for something greater—humility. Marriage teaches you more about selflessness than you ever wanted to know.Because we before me is where it always has to begin.

We > Me

“Marriage may be the closest thing to Heaven or Hell that any of us will ever know on this earth.” —

It’s not enough to wish for a healthy marriage, you’ve got to take the steps to make it happen.Love doesn’t simply stay safe on its own, you have to learn to protect it. Be deliberate about protecting it.

Put In The Work

Marriage would be so much easier If husbands and wives realized they're on the same side. No great marriage is healthy because of chemistry or because you married your high school lover. Great marriages occurs only when you deliberately choose to work on them.

RUTH GRAHAM

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