The Lord (or Paramatman) shines forth and is experienced when all notions and sense perceptions cease, when all thoughts become extinct in a pure, quietened, single-pointed mind. This does not mean, however, that Paramatman is a creation of the quiet meditative mind; but rather, that Paramatman becomes self-evident when the mind is in this state of total quietitude. Normally, our minds are so chittered with the universe of names and forms that we are unable to experience the eternal Brahman. 

At any rate, bitterness comes only because of jealousy, competition and the suppression of longings.