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The Best Way to Pick an Apartment? Try a Decision Matrix
Choosing An Apartment: The Scientific Way
Many individuals and couples have an idea in their minds about what kind of apartment they would like to move into. The problem is when there are more than a couple of factors, preferences and opinions.
A scientific way to make a decision about the things that we consider important is to make a decision matrix, listing the various factors that are crucial to the final choice, and assign weightage to each factor.
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