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4 Actionable Steps To Feel Happy, Content and Grateful | Scott H Young

Adjust your reference point

Since gratitude is a relative experience, it’s often useful to recognize how many things aren’t problems in your life, but you just never notice them.

Even if you feel like you don’t live in great conditions, that your friends have better jobs and relationships there were many points in time when things could have been much, much worse. 

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About gratitude

Gratitude isn’t just a practice of saying thank you, but also the process of focusing your attention away from problems and danger and onto things which are good.

It takes a lot of practice to make gratitude a habit, because our mind are usually  powerful problem detectors.

Avoid comparisons

The next time you think the average person is better off than you, ask yourself whether you might not simply be ignoring the problems and pains of others, simply because they aren’t as visible as the success people want you to see.

Interpreting fairness

If we feel like someone else is getting a better deal than us, we’re likely to throw it back in their face.

This isn’t to say you shouldn’t fight against unfairness, but  there will always be unfairness in life and so it’s better to step back and see that opportunities we get in life aren’t always so bad, even if others seem way better.

Shifting perspectives

Being grateful for your problems cand be a tough perspective to adopt (especially if your problems are extreme or tragic); however, the problems themselves allow you an opportunity to live differently than if your life had been without them.

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Appreciate everything

The habit of being grateful starts with appreciating every good thing in life and recognizing that there is nothing too small for you to be thankful for.

Find gratitude in your challenges

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Dig a little deeper into some of your own past experiences and try to figure out how they have helped shape you into the person you are today.

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Sit down daily and think through five to ten things you are grateful for. 

Picture it in your mind and sit with that feeling of gratitude in your body. Doing this every day will rewire your brain to be naturally more grateful, and you’ll start feeling happier after every session.

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