Embrace the idea of different seasons in your life.
If there’s something from a previous season in your life that you once enjoyed but doesn’t fit into it right now, instead of spending your time worried about what you’re missing out on, make the most of the uniqueness of your current season.
I used to suffer from FOMO. That is, "Fear of Missing Out." You've probably heard of it. Hell, you probably suffer from it in one form or another. For me, for a number of years, it was travel. Show me a pretty picture and my knee-jerk reaction was that I needed to sell my last pair of shoes to go there.
FOMO make us want to accumulate as many experiences as possible, but at the same time, it robs those experiences of any real meaning. That's because it causes people to make their decisions based not on the reality of the experience, but rather the imagined experience.
The way to get out of feeling FOMO is to start killing those fantasies that you’re letting rule your decision making.And that means understanding there’s no such thing as a perfect night out or a perfect party.
You hear about FOMO a lot these days. In fact, the word was added to the Oxford English Dictionary in 2013. What does it really mean? A recent study on the subject defined it as: ...''the uneasy and sometimes all-consuming feeling that you're missing out - that your peers are doing, in the know about, or in possession of more or something better than you''.
We all know that Facebook doesn’t provide a very well-rounded picture of people’s lives. It’s more like the cherry-picked perfection version.
People with FOMO have ambivalent feelings toward Facebook.It brings them up when they post about their own carefully edited version of life awesomeness, and slams them back down when they feel they have to compete with other people's lifestyle awesomeness - especially when they're feeling a little down or anxious themselves.
Looking at social media for happiness is a bad idea. You won’t find it out there. Your happiness is determined by how you allocate your attention. What you attend to drives your behavior and it determines your happiness.
Changing behavior and enhancing happiness is as much about withdrawing attention from the negative as it is about attending to the positive.
If it seems like everyone you know is doing cooler stuff than you, feeling happier than you, and generally out-pizzazzing you, Martha Beck wants you to know they've got you fooled. OMG, do you have any idea what you're missing right now? Have you checked Facebook in the last two minutes?