It can be hard to force yourself to stop a train of thought. An easier alternative is to change the intensity of your language, thus muting its power.

"I can't stand this" becomes, "This is challenging. " "I hate... " becomes, "I don't like... " and even, "I don't prefer... "

Identifying the hidden dimension under the relationship fight can affect how we fight and how we move forward.

• Power and control fights: "You undermine me with the kids."/ "Because I make less money, I feel like I have to check with you before I buy anything."

“All my films are all my children.”

“I can't stand modern movies. The images are too weird and eccentric for me.”

“I would like to make a film to tell children ‘it's good to be alive.’”

"In order to grow your audience, you must betray their expectations."