Control freak

What there is in a "controlling" personality is deep anxiety, a desparate response to emotional deprivation.

The drive to conttrol is not an innate trait but a coping style.

Emotional repression is a coping style rathen then a personality traits set in stone.

"My mother and fatheer needed me to be happy" is the simple formula that trained many a child - later a streessed and depressed ot physically ill adult - into lifelong patterns of repression.