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Online Dating Can Be De-Humanizing

Many persons swipe through photos looking for the perfect mate often dismissing someone more quickly than they would have had they first met the person face-to-face. Online dating can make you picky and judgmental.

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Take Your Time Making Choices

Online dating greatly increases your pool of potential suitors. But the excess of choice might make you overlook good candidates.

Personal growth helps in making long-term relationships work. Don’t be quick to give up on those who are superficially flawed or aren’t an exact match to you.

How To Portray Yourself

You should like your photos but they should accurately depict your physical appearance. Well perceived pictures often feature a genuine smile (one that makes your eyes start to crinkle up) and a slight head tilt.

Briefly write what’s distinctive and interesting about you and what you’re looking for. Ideally, dedicate 70% for the former and 30% for the latter.

Choosing The Right Dating Apps

Research shows that people tend to fall for others similar to themselves. Being honest about yourself and your needs increases the odds that you will meet compatible people.

Besides being honest, you should consider an app’s target demographic and use the apps that fit your needs well. 

Don’t Say What You Don’t Mean
Don’t Say What You Don’t Mean

When we meet someone we fancy online, it’s tempting to become an effusive people-pleaser in the hope that your affections will be reciprocated.

Going overboard with the compliments early on will either sound inauthentic or engender false hope that can cause problems down the line. If you mean it, say it.

Don’t Lie About Yourself

Men are most likely to lie about their occupations on dating apps, whereas women tend to use old pictures or heavily edited recent ones.

Most lies people tell on dating apps aim to portray them in a way they think the other person will deem attractive. But tailoring your online image will set your date up for disappointment.

Don’t Use Emojis

Research indicates that only 8% of people think sending an emoji message will get you a reply in the first instance. It gives the impression that you have a small vocabulary and are lazy.

Try and start out with at least a sentence or two, ideally including a question the person can answer you. Basically you want to invite a conversation, not merely state your presence.

Internet And Marriage

At least one-third of all marriages in the U. S. are now between partners who met online and researchers say online meeting-based marriages happen more quickly after the first date.

The Non-Divisive Effect

Before the Internet, dating was mostly restricted by one’s social and geographical limitations with friends of friends being the most common method of introduction. The Internet pairs couples that wouldn’t even meet otherwise.

Research also indicates that you're more likely to date someone from a different race if you're dating online, by a factor of about 7 percent. 

Combating Social Stratification

There's a troubling trend towards exclusive, private membership-based dating apps that only allow very rich or very popular people, essentially creating a dating bubble that socially isolates people by class.

By using less restrictive apps we have the widest possible pools of potential dates, rather than aspiring to something more exclusive, we're keeping ourselves open to more random love connections that cut across lines of race and class and everything else that divides us. We're doing our part to keep society more open, less stratified.