A simple but powerful tool is to spend five minutes at the end of every day reflecting on the following questions: <ul><li>What went well today?</li><li>What didn’t go well?</li><li>What did I learn and how will I be smarter tomorrow?</li></ul>

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When coaching others, I’ll often focus a conversation on why the other person wants to change. This isn’t a bad thing per se, but there’s a risk that we don’t get to the ‘actionable’ part of our insights or emotions. We need to ask ourselves about the “what”. Why questions draw us to our limitations, what questions keep us curious. What can I do? What do you like? These kinds of “what” questions are geared towards personal growth, to seeing our potential.

Don't Ask Why, Ask What

If being individually self-aware means who you are and how others see you, a self-aware team commits to that same understanding at a collective level. There are five cornerstones of collective insight that teams can access and address: <ul><li>Objectives – What are we trying to achieve?</li><li>Progress – How are we doing? </li><li>Process – The processes we’re employing to achieve our objectives.</li><li>Assumptions – Our assumptions about the business and our environment.</li><li>Individual Contributions – What impact is each team member having on the team’s performance?</li></ul>

Awareness At Team Level: Collective Insight

Leadership is not about trying to control every move of the employees. Leaders should help connect their employees with the bigger picture, give them the right tools and provide them with the space to make mistakes whilst still holding them accountable. Leaders can ask some key questions to their employees to make sure that teams share their collective insight: <ol><li>Do we all know the plan?</li><li>Do we all know the status of the plan?</li><li>Are we all aware of the challenges the company is facing?</li></ol>

What Leaders Need To Do

Reframing means that we look at our circumstances, our behaviours, and our relationships from a different angle. I know from experience how easy it can be to be drawn into a single view of a circumstance, and therefore struggling to find a good way to change things. We need to instead look at the good and the bad from multiple angles, as a way to help maximise our insights and chances of success.

Reframing

Instead of focussing on the problem all the time, we need to mine solutions, dedicating a good amount of our efforts to exploring different ways of solving a problem. To increase your ability to mine problems for solutions, try the Miracle Question:Suppose that one night, while you are asleep, there’s a miracle and the problem that brought you here is solved. However, because you are asleep you don’t know that the miracle has already happened … Think for a moment … How's life going to be different now? Describe it in detail. What’s the first thing you’ll notice as you wake up in the morning?

Mining Solutions

How self-aware are you? How well do you know yourself? Do you know how others perceive you?  There are two kinds of self-awareness: internal – how we perceive ourselves – and external – how others perceive us. To be truly self-aware, we need to gain both an internal and external perspective. To successfully take others’ perspectives in highly charged situations, we should start by “zooming in” on our perspective first to better understand it. Next, we should “zoom out” and consider the perspective of the other person.

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Learn how to develop self-awareness and use it to become more fulfilled, confident, and successful. Most people feel like they know themselves pretty well. But what if you could know yourself just a little bit better—and with this small improvement, get a big payoff…not just in your career, but in your life?   Research shows that self-awareness—knowing who we are and how others see us—is the foundation for high performance, smart choices, and lasting relationships. There’s just one problem: most people don’t see themselves quite as clearly as they could.   Fortunately, reveals organizational psychologist Tasha Eurich, self-awareness is a surprisingly developable skill. Integrating hundreds of studies with her own research and work in the Fortune 500 world, she shows us what it really takes to better understand ourselves on the inside—and how to get others to tell us the honest truth about how we come across.   Through stories of people who have made dramatic gains in self-awareness, she offers surprising secrets, techniques and strategies to help you do the same—and how to use this insight to be more fulfilled, confident, and successful in life and in work.   In Insight, you'll learn: • The 7 types of self-knowledge that self-aware people possess. • The 2 biggest invisible roadblocks to self-awareness. • Why approaches like therapy and journaling don't always lead to true insight • How to stop your confidence-killing habits and learn to love who you are. • How to benefit from mindfulness without uttering a single mantra. • Why other people don’t tell you the truth about yourself—and how to find out what they really think. • How to deepen your insight into your passions, gifts, and the blind spots that could be holding you back. • How to hear critical feedback without losing your mojo. • Why the people with the most power can often be the least-self-aware, and how smart leaders avoid this trap. • The 3 building blocks for self-aware teams. • How to deal with delusional bosses, clients, and coworkers.

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